'You're never going to win me back': Man Says He Wants to See Other People, Comes Crawling Back to Gf After Two Weeks Only For Her To Ultimately Reject Him

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    M r/relationships • il y a 2 h thecreambiscuit My(26F) boyfriend (28M) of three years started seeing someone else ...
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    I (26F) was dating my best friend (28M) for three years and we broke up at the beginning of this month as it was a little toxic and he didn't want to put in effort to change. Two weekends ago, he called me up and told me that he wants to get back and I did not say no because I obviously love this guy a lot, but I did tell him that I needed some time. He started saying things like "I'm
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    some time. He started saying things like "I'm going to download bumble and see other people if you're not with me" (he has used this line in the past to manipulate me) I got very I this time and I told him that this is not how someone who likes another person behaves and I again asked him to just give me some time to get my thoughts straight. I went out that Saturday night and I met
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    straight. I went out that Saturday night and I met a friend of my ex's (let's call him Y) and we started talking. I live in a small city and I never found anyone who was interested in the same things that I was (I love reading and I read a lot of genres & so does Y), Y & I ended up talking majority of the night. My ex's friends hate me because they're toxic masochists and I never had
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    because they're toxic masochists and I never had any problem in calling them out (one of his friends misbehaved with me twice and my ex did not do anything about it) So, these people went ahead and told my ex that I slept with Y. My ex called me up the next day and accused me of cheating and said he never wants to talk to me again. This really broke my heart as he did not
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    again. This really broke my heart as he did not bother to ask me about what had actually happened there. There was nothing sexual /inappropriate between Y and me. I waited for 10 days and I called my ex two days ago and he tells me that he's met someone else and he's in love. He told me that he met her the day he found out that I slept with Y and he went out with her on a
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    lot of dates since and that he's fallen for this new girl. I have no idea what to think. I have barely processed this information and I've been getting random anxiety attacks since this happened. I'm trying to divert myself and move on but it's so so hard as he was my best friend and we used to talk so much and now there's zero contact. I still love this guy but I cannot forgive him for what
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    he's done to me. I don't know what to do. As for this friends, I hope karma hits them really hard. They have tried to break our relationship multiple times and they have finally succeeded.
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    Tl;dr he left me after 3 years because his - friends told him I cheated, but I did not. He started seeing someone 2 days after his and now he's telling me he's in love with this girl.
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    fiery_valkyrie . -44 min He started saying things like “I'm going to download bumble and see other people if you're not with me" (he has used this line in the past to manipulate me) So he immediately threatens you if he doesn't get his way? You dodged a bullet. He's an
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    little_sunshine_p • -1 h It's completely understandable that you're feeling heartbroken and confused right now. It's important to prioritize your own well- being and give yourself the time and space you need to heal from this betrayal. Surround yourself with supportive friends and loved ones who can provide comfort and understanding during this difficult time.
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    redcakesredemption • -1 h That's rough. Neither of you cheated. You would have been 100% in the clear to anyone. You were broken up. You can do whatever you want. Anyway, whatever you do, don't get back with him sexually or romantically. None of the stuff you said he did is good or normal. Like, you say you love him, whatever. But given the things you described about his behavior here, there is no amount of good stuff that could outweigh that for me or anyone else. Get on the apps, have fun, and
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    Naive_Sense_6784 • -1 h This is a really awful situation and I'm so sorry that you have gone through that. He's an abuser and I'm glad that you've said that you can't forgive him, because you shouldn't. He's consistently threatened you to force him back into a relationship with him (e.g., if you don't do this, then I'll do this) which is not how healthy relationships work. He also let his friends mistreat you, break clear boundaries and disrespect you, and then lie about you to your ex. And he d
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    It makes sense that you are having anxiety attacks because you have been put through trauma with this person. The no contact plus the fact that he's trying to show you how much he's in love is incredibly manipulative and designed to make you feel insecure, unloved, isolated, and lonely - its a tactic to make you miss him and considering being with him again because he could make all those awful feelings go away. Person- centred therapy to develop your self esteem and CBT to understand how to man
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    - However – the reality is that they're probably not in love and he will most likely manipulate and abuse the next person the way he did with you. Someone who is your best friend would not treat you in that: if you heard this from one of your friends, what would you say? How would you react? It's important that you stay strong. This will pass. It's incredibly hard but you will be a better person for it, and you will find someone who loves, respects and supports you in the way that you deserve an
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    MajorYou9692 • -59 min Well, obviously, you just weren't meant to be, nobody moves on that quick from a committed relationship .You may well look back and find you had a lucky escape.
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    Designer-Revenue9803 -58 min Love is a game of feelings and emotions. You hesitate, you lose. I don't think it would've really mattered (from a guy's/his perspective) whether you slept with the guy or not or whether any of his friends told him you did for malicious reasons, because the optics of you not giving him yes for an answer saying you need time and hanging out with another guy all night don't look good.

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