‘Count me out…’: Man expects rent-free accommodation in brother's new home despite years of estrangement

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Sienna Varady
May 8, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

Indeed, family is precious, and you should make every effort to love and support them during good times and bad. But when will you be able to acknowledge that your family members might be taking advantage of you with their constant barrage of absurd demands?

The story that follows is written from the viewpoint of an angry sibling. The original poster (OP) and his brother did not share a close bond. Perhaps they were tight as children, but since OP embarked on his journey to adulthood, they've grown apart. At first, no one seemed to be concerned about the turbulent relationship between the two brothers, but things took a major turn for the worse once OP purchased his very first home. OP refused to live in the same household as his younger brother going forward, despite the intense pressure from his family to take care of him.

For this reason,  read the story below to learn why OP and his brother are no longer close and the specifics of what happened when OP declined his brother's offer! Lastly, don't forget to read the story about the recruiting manager who gets upset when a candidate doesn't beg him for the position!

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    CON "Keep dreaming...“
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    My entitled brother threw a massive fit, just because he was mad I bought a house
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    Yeah, I'm aware of several similar stories involving entitled family members wanting houses they have no claim to. But I guess this st really happens. And it's no picnic when it does. I suddenly became a homeowner some time ago because friend of mine's grandfather was moving to Florida. And his house was ripe for picking. I knew the old man well. RIP, he p sed a few months later from a sudden st ke. Anyway, he offered the house and property to me for 200K. I practically ran to the
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    bank to apply for the loan. The house is a manufactured home from the 80s. But it was remodeled repeatedly by the former owner, and has a separate garage building. The home and property could have gone for more. But he offered the house to me because he knew I'd take care of it. I had 30K saved that made a good down payment. And I was happy to leave my apartment. I'd wanted to eventually move out of there after what my cheating ex did anyway. But that's a story for another time.
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    As for my brother. Well he went bonkers when he found out I bought a house. He had this repeated history of copycatting me for the past decade. But this... There was no way in h I he could copycat buying a house with his terrible credit and inconsistent income. And he got in an argument with me over how I was just trying to make him look bad by doing something he couldn't. No, I just wanted a d n house. And the price was too good to refuse. Then he told me I should have turned it down because…..
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    S see his sc is getting looser with every du excuse he made as to why I shouldn't have done it. But I pointed out all those excuses were just because I did something he currently can't. And when I bought the house, it had nothing to do with him. I just wanted to be a home owner for the security and extra space. I finally don't have to store my camper at my parents' house. And I have a garage that I can store stuff and tinker in. I bought a camping cot, he bought a camping cot, went to the gym, h
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    booze, he bought good b ze (Or stole it from me), I bought a new TV, be bought a new TV, I bought a truck, he bought a truck, I bought a camper, he bought a camper, I bought a used portable DVD player, he bought a used portable DVD player, I went camping in a specific place, he went camping in that specific place, I bought a house, he...(404 Error! Insert tea kettle noises and Benny Hill chase). He also acted like a complete child toward me when he built his Mini-Ram thing. He actually confronte
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    and said it was keweler than my boring Tundra, because it was something original. I swear, he did the dumbest mods to that vehicle. Like putting twist studs in the suspension coils to raise the ride height. Well after weeks of openly fuming about me being a home owner, my brother suddenly acted like he had another brilliant idea. He wanted to move in with me. I laughed at him. Then he ended up demanding I rent one of my rooms to him. And for only $200 a
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    month (Utilities included) because he shouldn't have to pay any more than that since we're family. He flipped his lid when I said f k no! Then he got our parents involved again. Only this time they actually sided with him at first. Though it was mainly our mother. She and my brother showed up demanding I let my brother move in. And my brother had a st eating grin on his face that I could tell he was thinking he was getting his way thanks to mommy dearest. I said "F NO!" to both their faces, and
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    my mother cried that I was using foul language to her and being an a when I had the space now. I called my dad, and he told my mom that he'd warned her I wouldn't do it. And to leave me the h | alone. Mom whined my brother was living out of his camper next to a shabby house he was renting space from. I said that wasn't my problem to fix. And my brother has proven countless times that he cannot be trusted. My brother was fuming to the point of being red with veins popping out. My mom tried one mo
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    I went on a rant that was something like this. Bro can't buy a house, so he wanted to invade mine. I refuse to ever live with my brother again. I would sooner live in the woods without electricity than with him. He's intentionally irritating as all h 1. And if I had him as a roommate, I just knew he'd steal my b ze, take my stuff, and invade my privacy none- stop. Not. F ing. HAPPENING! No matter how many tears mom tries using on me. My mom broke down and finally conceded she'd never convince me
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    after that rant. And she had to take my brother by the hand and leave with him because he initially refused to go, and kept begging her to turn back and make me let him move in. And then I yelled to him that it was a laugh that he called me a mama's boy before. Because he'd become exactly that. And this was just like the time he tried to get our mother to make me trade vehicles with him because he felt ashamed to be driving a minivan. He yanked away from mom, then told me to go f k myself and th
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    horse I rode in on. I laughed and pointed out I didn't ride in on anything, because I was already home. But his rattlecan horse was waiting for him in the driveway. He flipped his lid again, and looked like his head was going to explode. But mom got in front of him, and told him to just go. Then he drove off in his rattlecan Silverado without her. He'd driven her there. And then I had to take her home. While taking her home, I made things very clear with
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    my mother over why I could never trust my brother again. And his life was not my burden to bear. And then told her how little my brother was offering for rent anyway. Which he'd conveniently not told her. Then I later rented that same room to one of my best friends for $600 a month, and he pays for utilities. The other two rooms are my bedroom and a home office. There's an extra room in the separate garage too. So my mother tried to make me let my brother
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    live in the garage instead. There's enough room in it's storage room for a bedroom. Again I said f kno. And that's since been turned into another friend's rented room with a bit of a plywood remodel. Yeah, I kinda rented both the spare bedroom and garage room out to friends out of spite. But I wasn't letting my brother live with me in any capacity! My brother later ended up having a complete meltdown in front of our parents over how he's the
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    older brother. He should be the one who owns a house first. He's supposed to be successful, and I'm supposed to be the big loser in his shadow. Our dad poked him with his cane and told him that's not how. life works, and they had a big argument. They told him to get out and not come back until he's cooled off and learned that he's just being a pointlessly jealous a le. The next part I post, my brother did the dumbest thing of all.
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    boredathome1962 · 2 hr. ago NTA. And your dad agrees. Nothing more to say.
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    Nolascana 57 min. ago • Lol, this ain't AITA... but yeah, OP did nothing wrong.
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    Badm 3 min. ago He was going to try and take over your house. No way was he going to submit to you as "landlord".
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    sakurakiks094.39 min. ago is your brother like...8 years old? also he's like the most pathetic human being I've ever heard of, how have you and your family been belittling yourselves to deal with this and accept this for so long? And after the third time he copied me I would have just gone on to do all the things he hates, whatever that may be, eat
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    ghost chilli peppers, ballroom dancing, lawnmowing and car washing for neighbours, spoiling your parents... too late now but h k while you're at it might as well have gone with the route of reforming him cos he's gonna copy you right? you can go help out homeless shelters, get into meditation, visit art museums, go to therapy, take care of the elderly at a retirement home, babysit animals, volunteer for local area trash picking days...
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    DomJamz 10 min. ago Wow thanks for posting this, sorry you've had to go through it, but I often wonder if my situation with my older brother was similar to anyone else. It turns out, yes.
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    Numerous_Exercise_44 1 hr. ago • We all make our own way in life. Once you are established in your house, your brother will adjust to the situation. At the moment he is used to spending a lot of time with you. As you get older, both of you will become more independent. Your brother will have to make his own way in life. Situations will change, but he will always be your brother.
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    No_Chrysler-4-Me OP 52 min. ago The situation is long over as this happened some time ago. My brother has been disowned. And for pretty good reasons. Not even his own daughter wants anything to do with him anymore. Right now he's been pretty much ousted. He's on probation, and moved away for different employment. My mother is the only one who misses him.
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    And if you think my brother did all this because he was used to spending a lot of time with me, you need better p analysis. Because he's just a d We were close as kids. But as adults he only came around if he wanted something. And then relentlessly copied me. I also know for a fact he enjoyed irritating me. He's always been like that.
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