Entitled office worker insists that coworker conform to her dress code: '[My manager] told me to drop it'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
May 13, 2024 11:00 AM EDT

This nosy worker seriously asked for advice about another employee's attire. Why would that be any of her business? Good question! 

Many office places have become way less strict about their dress code in recent decades. Instead of donning a white shirt and a tie, or a dress and tights, lots of folks just show up in jeans and a tee shirt every day. If you're not customer-facing in your role, what's the harm in that? The employees get to be comfortable during their eight-hour workday. And let's face it, if you're wearing soft pants and comfy shoes, you'll probably be able to get deeper into your work than if you're adjusting your tie or tights all day long. When you dress up fancy, after a while, all you can think about is taking off those stuffy outfits! 

This woman feels the exact opposite, though. Although she claims to be just 26 years old, she's utterly dismayed by the way in which her peer dresses. I think that maybe this woman just doesn't like the way her coworker dresses. There's a big difference between something being inappropriate for the office, and just not being to your specific taste, as commenters gleefully pointed out to u/TechnicalAd5341. 

Next, check out the awful and weird gifts that people were stunned to receive, like one person who got "a used sweater with spaghetti stains." 

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    'Hannah doesn't follow the dress code... complained to my manager'
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    AITA for telling my coworker that her clothes were inappropriate for the office? Throwaway because I feel like she'll find me
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    a couple months ago, I (26f) started working at a medium size magazine in customer service. I mostly just answer phones but we have a business casual dress code in case of visitors.
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    our IT person/web developer Hannah doesn't follow the dress code or even get close to it. She wears these big platform combat boots and giant black hoodies everyday. I complained to my manager but she said doesn't have control over Hannah and she doesn't see people anyway so it doesn't matter. I asked her if anyone had talked to the upper management about it and she told me to drop it which I didn't like because it's shady that they
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    can't just answer my questions Honestly Hannah gets a ton of special treatment. She's the only one besides the directors who's aloud to work from home and she gets her own office too which is supposed to be just directors. She comes in whenever she wants. It's ridiculous. No one else gets away with that.
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    I asked her in the break room last week why she felt like she had a different set of rules than everyone else and she said "I do, I don't even have to be here" and walked away which was super and why can't she just stay home then? I don't want to wear my stupid work clothes, it's not fair that one person gets to do whatever they want
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    Anyway I couldn't get it off my mind and it was bothering me so I looked her up on Facebook this weekend and I found out she was THIRTY EIGHT YEARS OLD. She dresses like a literal teenager. I thought she was my age and maybe just finished school but this is an actual middle aged woman who should know better
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    So I asked her yesterday when I saw her in the break room if she thought her clothing was appropriate for someone her age. She looked really confused so I said it's not a good look for someone who was almost 40. She laughed at me and left the room and I got a bad feeling which was right because she went and tattled to HR and our boss.
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    I had to sit through a meeting where I was given my "final warning" write up even though i haven't had any other write ups so it doesn't make sense but I signed it so I could keep my job. My manager told me after that they could replace me by next week but replacing her would be a nightmare which is a horrible thing to tell your employees and I think maybe a violation of worker rights but I haven't checked yet
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    I just wanted answers and I think I'm entitled too them. A company should be honest with their employees and I just wanted to know why the rules don't apply to Hannah. This could have all been avoided if they just answered to begin with so AITA because I lost my patience and confronted my coworker about her inappropriate outfits?
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    thisisnotme15 YTA. What she does and wears has absolutely nothing to do with you and you should keep your opinions to yourself. IT people are invaluable and keep most businesses from crashing and burning. She has privileges because she does invaluable work and has invaluable knowledge for the company.
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    You should really learn to not harass other people. It's a bad look.
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    [deleted] Settle down Karen, YTA. Who told you that you get to concern yourself with what she wears? Shut your mouth, keep your thoughts. to yourself, and mind your own business.
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    Alarming_Paper... YTA, and honestly, I would have fired your right then and there for being a whiny troublemaker. Who died and made you the Dress Code Queen? You are 26, and frankly, you don't do anything special -- you answer the freakin' phone, you aren't the CEO. She does IT, which means she's basically on the clock 24/7
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    whenever anything goes. wrong -- if she worked all night on a project or an outage, then yeah, she's not going to be in a 8 am. 38 is not middle aged, and you aren't the clothing police. And if you thought she was your age, she's doing something right. You don't like it? Get a different job.
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    The way she dresses has absolutely NO impact on you, your co-workers or your customers, but for some insane reason, you have made it your mission in life to monitor the way she dresses. I'd have laughed at you, too. You have absolutely no sense of self- preservation if you think your inordinate amount of jealousy at her well-earned freedom to do a critical job
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    on her own terms is something you are going to take on and win. They NEED her -- you, they can replace in an hour. And the fact that you can't get that through you addlepated head is just additional proof that you're probably not going to be there very long. Your boss is trying to explain to you where you are in the pecking order. You don't like it? Again -- find another job.
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    You got your answer -- you aren't entitled to sh*t, and you sure aren't entitled to waltz around criticizing people who offend your overblown, inappropriate sense of justice in the workplace.
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    DELILAHBELLE2... This cannot be real. YTA. Unless you're her boss or HR this is not your concern and if you continue to harass her and complain you're going to lose your job.
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