Resident invites new neighbor to dinner only for her to later complain about the cooking to other neighbors: ‘She expects me to make her steaks’

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    My hungry neighbour complained about my cooking to another neighbour. I don't know how to confront her.
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    (English isn't my first language) For context I 22 (F) am on good terms with my neighbour - Shay 34 (F) until now. I'm South Asian and she's British and we reside in Dubai (mentioning for context and cultural differentiations)
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    Shay shifted to my building a month ago and has been living next door since then. Me and my other neighbour - Kat (she's Filipino) decided to welcome her as she's a single mother of twin boys and it can difficult to manage job and home all alone
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    by making her some home cooked cookies and pasta. Everything went well at first but sometimes she would ask for cooking tips and if I had some leftovers for dinner which I happily gave.
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    Me and Kat were already having dinners together, sometimes she would host me and sometimes I would and Kat adored my cooking. I'm by no means a professional cook but have been cooking since a pretty young age. I started
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    making some extra food and keeping it for Shay as she didn't have energy to cook after coming from work and she thanked me everytime and also asked for basic South Asian recipes.
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    Yesterday, Kat dropped by for dinner and she was feeling bit uncomfortable. I asked her what's wrong or if she had a bad day today but she asked me not to get upset after what she's going to reveal. She told
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    me that she met Shay in our hallway and that Shay was complaining about my cooking that I make just South Asian food and it doesn't taste great due to a lot of spices are included in it and she prefers something simple like
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    pasta/salad/steak. She says she hates that I always make lentils and curries with flatbreads and can't feed her a decent steak. But Kat tried to defend me by telling her to respect other cultures and if she can't then she must stop asking for food
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    from us. It did hurt a lot after hearing this and I asked Kat if she feels the same too? She laughed and hugged me and said it's best food she has ever tasted and especially she's obsessed with my 'Mutton fry' and how I taught her to make simple fluffy flatbreads.
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    I was going to invite Shay and her kids next Wednesday for dinner at my place as I was all set to make authentic lasagna as her kids love Italian food and Kat would make some lumpia and fries but I'm having second doubts now.
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    Kat has assured me not to overthink and will try to softly confront her again first.
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    RandoCollision · 20 hr. ago Don't try to satisfy Shay. You did a good thing for her and she disrespected you rather than appreciate it. Shay can either find the energy to cook or
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    KPinCVG 18 hr. ago Beggars can't be choosers. ! She is begging for STEAK! The gall of this woman!
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    sayjalthukral OP. 16 hr. ago I can't even cook a steak Imao, because I never have
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    juliaskig · 15 hr. ago You are generous and you are kind. But this needs to start at home. Stop feeding Shay. She can fend for herself.
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    nonlinear_nyc. 18 hr. ago She's biting the hand that feeds her. Literally. I bet it's not the first time.
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    MidiReader 18 hr. ago No need to talk with her about it, simply stop cooking for her and if the entitled witch brings it up simply say that you heard she didn't appreciate your food and cuisine so you just decided there was no need to continue.
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    • earthgarden · 18 hr. ago I never trust anything people tell me secondhand. Not that Kat is lying, but it could be she's embellishing or misunderstanding what Shay meant. People can...misconstrue intent from
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    all sorts of things and since you weren't there you're only hearing one side. It also could be the two of them had a falling out that you don't know about, and Kat said this to break things between you and Shay as well. So don't take her word for it and don't get
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    yourself all upset over it either. Your plan to softly confront Shay is spot on. Ask Shay if she did indeed say this. You'll be able to suss if she's lying or not by her body language. If she did say it, then
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    decline to make food for her further. No need to waste your time and money on someone who doesn't appreciate it and probably just throws it away.
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    Away-Caterpillar-176 · 18 hr. ago The fact that she doesn't want every meal to be food she's not accustomed to isn't inherently bad, I get it, we crave what our mom made, but it's the entitlement of
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    "why can't she just cook us a nice steak" that makes me mad. You don't have to cook her anything, ever, and you've been incredibly generous.

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