‘You need to move out’: Husband Who Owns the Home Refuses to Move Out When Divorced By Wife, Lawyer Gets Involved

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 4, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Hey there internet queens. Marriage and divorce is never easy. Outside of the realization of the dead or dying love you're still involved in, you have to deal with an immense amount of legal processes. Talk about insult to injury. When you're in the middle of a divorce, things can get messy. The couple may be fighting over children, money, possessions, and the house. You may even fight for friends or family. Though all of this is not ideal, it is the reality. 

In this Reddit thread, OP is a decent father just looking to keep the house he owns. The problem in the United States though, is that women pretty much have the privilege to have whatever they want in divorce, of course albeit with exceptions. 

See for yourself the hilarity and drama of a couple on the brink of divorce, and all the proceedings that take place.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH ⚫ 18 hr. ago PO0tyTng • AITAH for not moving out when my wife wants to separate and get divorced soon?
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    My wife of 13 years hates my guts, due to me having taken other people's side about 5 times over the past 7 years. One of which was letting my mom take our infant baby off of her chest when they were doing skin to skin (edit: not that it matters much, but this was when he was a couple months old, not in the
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    birthing room). Not that I was okay with it, I just didn't prevent it and I could have. Edit: yes I know how much of an and terrible person I am for this. That is not the question here.
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    Our kid is 7 now, and my wife has never forgiven me. The other transgressions I did were things like taking her family's side on various things, or letting my parents come to our house when she didn't want them there, etc. Anyway I am the cause of her endless hate for me.... So we have agreed that since she will never
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    forgive me, we should get divorced. I have been the sole breadwinner (remote job) for the last 15 years, and she has had low paying jobs at various times, none of which ever last too long. Her current job is only $20/hr with no benefits. I have made nearly every single
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    meal for this family since we've been married, do all the housework aside from laundry, im there when my kid wakes up to pack his lunch and take him to school (she sleeps in), and there to get him snacks and dinner when i bring him home... im a really, really good dad, and i love my kid more than anything in this world.
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    So the house we live in is in my name, the mortgage is $1400/month, and then you've got utilities, etc. we only have one car that we share. She couldn't afford to live in a apartment and cover half the support for the kid, let alone also cover her own health insurance (she's on my plan). Btw we live in
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    Texas, and have a joint bank account/credit card. Edit: Bought the house about 6 years ago. I just did all the paperwork so it's only my name on it. It's appraised at about 450k, half of which is equity. It's Texas so it's considered marital property. I have no problem giving her half of my .I can
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    still live comfortably. She desperately wants to divorce me, and wants to "ease our kid into it" by having me move out, pay that rent (she wants me to get my parents to pay it, because "I chose them over her"), continue to also pay the mortgage, buy a new car and give her one of them, and cover any
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    expenses she can't cover with her $2k/month income. I can't afford to pay all that. I do not want to move out, I want to see my kid as much as possible while I still can. Also she has a lot of health problems and needs good insurance. Once we divorce it will be 60(her)/40(me) split most likely. I don't believe she'll
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    be able to get him to school on time, since she never has in the past, but maybe that'll change. Other than that she's a good mom, advocates for our kid and does all the "adulting” regarding our kids school/doctors appointments, etc.
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    Anyway, AITAH for not wanting to move out of my house until we're divorced and she has health insurance covered? We don't fight around the kid much anymore (she's always been the rage monster/screamer, which she has been working on with her
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    therapist on. She has screamed at me countless times in front of our kid, but is getting better about now). She says me moving out will ease our kid into having 2 separate households. And give us each space to work on ourselves (she needs to get a better job, and I need to work with a therapist to
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    not be such a pushover and put my parents before, according to her, my child... which I never have except that one instance). So AITAH here? Also, any tips on where to start with this process? | think we can get divorced. without dueling with lawyers, and she's not a gold digger who wants to ruin me financially.
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    Low-Use-9862 • 17h ago I'm a family law attorney in Texas. The only way she can force you out is by order of the court. That can be by means of a protective order, but more often, by filing a petition for divorce and a motion for temporary orders awarding her temporary
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    possession and control of the home. You should be aware that in Texas, the home is not your separate property just because your name is the only one on the deed. It may still be considered community property, depending on when you
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    depending on when you purchased it and how you acquired it. Talk to a lawyer.
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    wpnsc • 17h ago PLEASE get a lawyer
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    Wizard_of_Claus • 18h ago NTA and while I'm not a lawyer and don't even know where you are, the general rule of thumb seems to be that once a person leaves a home in the midst of a separation/divorce it can be very hard to get it back. when everything is over. I
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    know you said you don't want to talk to a lawyer but if she truly feels this way about you it's probably in your best interest to be represented. What people may or may not do at one time can change a lot when they realize they are going to have to start taking care of themselves.
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