Woman claims she won't eat at the house of a cat owner, gets angry when her cat-owning friend doesn't invite her to her dinner party: 'I could have just come and not eaten anything'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Jun 18, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

"You can't eat at everybody house" is a meme that has circulated through the black community for the past couple of years. Like most modern memes, it originated on TikTok, and as far as I can tell, it was a reaction to a video of a woman biting butter off of a stick and spitting it onto the pan. In that, and many other cases, this axiom is true. You should not eat at the homes of people who are unsanitary and reckless with the way they prepare food, and that shouldn't be a controversial opinion. 

That being said, there's a difference between spit-feeding your houseguests and having a pet in the kitchen while you're preparing a meal. This tale follows a woman who told her friend, "You can't eat at everybody's house," in reference to her house, and somehow became offended when she wasn't invited to her dinner party.

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    AITA for not inviting someone for dinner because she made a big deal out of how she doesn't eat at the homes of people who have cats?
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    A while back I posted a picture to my IG Stories of my cat sitting NEXT TO my counter as I was cooking. On his own stool. He was watching. Again, he was NEXT TO my counter. Not anywhere near the food. He doesn't go on counters. He doesn't go near the food.
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    My "friend" Rose reposted it with her own caption, a puke face emoji and "You can't eat everybody house"
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    I ignored it and went about my business. She is very much the type of person who just regurgitates whatever popular phrases she sees on social media. Pineapple on pizza = monsters, raisins in cookies are why I have trust issues, I don't trust people who don't like dogs, "hot girl" walks, "hot girl" books, delulu, I'm going to hold your hand while I tell you this, is the X in the room with us right now, etc etc.
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    She has other traits that make up for it, but truthfully I do tend to avoid one-on-one time with her.
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    About a month ago I hosted a small get together... to show off some Le Creuset cookware I obtained (getting older is weird). I had a whole little shindig with home prepared food, lots of fun times between pals. I didn't invite Rose.
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    She found out after folks posted on their IG stories and confronted me over it, saying that I was "giving high school mean girl vibes." I told her that she has made it clear she doesn't eat at the homes of people who have cats, so why would I have invited her to a dinner party?
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    She got defensive and said that she could have just come and not eaten anything. I said that in the future, maybe she should be more careful about what she says, because to me it was very clear.
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    Rose has continued to tell people I'm giving "high school mean girl to nurse pipeline" (...I'm an accountant) and all that. Am I really the for not inviting her? Why would she have wanted to come?
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    RB1327 1 day ago edited 19 hr. ago | My "friend" Rose Obviously NTA because your dinner guest list is your decision.
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    But you're not even "friends" and she obviously aggravates you. Are you so desperate for social media followers you won't just block her? That's what you should have done when she reposted your cat photo with the insulting remark. Move on from her already, you both seem to be interacting like you're in high school.
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    North RiverBend · 23 hr. ago Are you so desperate for social media followers you won't just block her? This is such a Reddit moment take. Even if OP doesn't much like Rose, it sounds like Rose is in OP's "group of friends", and yes, blocking someone just because they use terminally online language would cause IRL drama.
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    OP, NTA; now I think you have good reason to stop associating with Rose and blocking them if you want. If not, you're still NTA; you aren't obligated to invite somebody to your home. I strongly suggest you stop debating this with Rose; if your friends bring it up, just say “I didn't invite her and she blew up". Don't get dragged into the mud here.
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    PurpleFlavored Cherry 23 hr. ago Especially when people who need to be blocked, don't handle being blocked well. Rose can't even handle not being invited to a home that she complained about. Could you imagine a temper tantrum she would have over being blocked??
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    Sometimes people can't be bothered by drama and like to keep the peace. Thats what me and my boyfriend do lol. We just let people scream into the void of our DMs.
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    Superb-Emotion2269. 22 hr. ago if OP really wants to, she can block rose from seeing the stories she posts, and mute rose so she doesn't have to see her stuff.....stay out of the drama via soft block :)
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    ProgrammerLevel2829. 20 hr. ago Rose, I suspect, is more bothered about the idea of being excluded, even if she ordinarily wouldn't have wanted to attend the event, than she is reflective about how critiquing the cleanliness of OP's home &
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    her hygiene made OP — someone who is supposed to be, at least, a friendly acquaintance— feel to score points with Internet strangers. And that says a lot about Rose.
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    Driverpicksthetunes 23 hr. ago "I'm gonna hold your hand when I tell you this....youre not entitled to my time, my cooking, or entry to my house Rose. Mmkay? It's giving delulu vibes" She should understand that
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    Talinia 23 hr. ago "Don't gaslight me, you around and found out. You're disrespecting my boundaries, and this is an abusive, toxic relationship" Trying to think of more terminally online verbiage which somewhat fits
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    7hrown 1 day ago NTA, your house, you can invite (or not) any one you want, for any reason (or none at all), but Rose has given you plenty of reasons not to invite her. "high school mean girl to nurse pipeline" just regurgitates whatever popular phrases she sees on social media I wouldn't want to hang out with this person, either.
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    IamIrene 1 day ago NTA. Words have meaning. You were simply believing what she said and acted accordingly. She's free to be upset about it but in the end, you respected her opinion and didn't expose yourself to what likely would have been a ridicule- fueled evening.
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    CaptainSneakers · 23 hr. ago NTA I also like quoting the internet and shoving memes down the throats of my friends and family, but not at the expense of anyone I know. She's trying to hide being mean by acting like she's some quirky internet influencer. She's not; she's just mean. And since she's so stuck on the mean girls thing, just post a picture of Regina George asking, "why are you so obsessed with me?"
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    goddammitryan. 23 hr. ago NTA. Tell her that she showed you who she is and you believe her
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