‘You went on our honeymoon without me?’: New Wife Needed to Take Care of Sick Sister Immediately After Wedding, Husband Decides to Go on Their Honeymoon Trip Without Her

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 21, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts of the world. In relationships, communication is key. It's easy to become defensive, avoidant, or put off from talking about things. It can be easier to just take matters into your own hands, to make executive decisions without regarding the other person. Though this could be easier in the short run, it proves unwise in the long run. Whatever you're hiding, your partner will find out. 

This piece is about an audacious man (no surprise). Sometimes it feels like men lack a very basic level of empathy. They seem to behave as if they're the only ones around, whose actions don't affect others. It's unfortunately too often up to the woman to teach them basic human decency. Imagine being newlyweds, and the first thing your husband does is go behind your back and enjoy your planned honeymoon together without you. What a way to start a marriage…predicating the whole relationship off of completely disregarding your partner. If I had to bet, his selfishness will tear their relationship apart within the first decade. Read for yourself for the full scoop. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH⚫ 10 hr. ago Hot-Fly-1091 : AITA because I went on my honeymoon without my brand new wife since she "had" to take care of her sister?
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    Hi. I am posting this here after it got removed from AITA because there is going to be an update after my wife comes home I think.
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    I just got married. My wife, Tonya, basically raised her sister, Marie, after their mom passed away. Even after their dad remarried Tonya and her sister were more mom/daughter than sisters.
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  • 04
    Marie got married last year and she got pregnant right away. No not before. They figure they got pregnant on their honeymoon.
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    Marie went into premature labor at our wedding reception. She gave birth to a tiny but healthy baby girl. And for some reason Tonya decided that she needed to go take care of her.
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    We were supposed to leave for our honeymoon two days after our wedding but Tonya said she couldn't just leave. She isn't a doctor or a nurse. Marie has a dad, a stepmom, a husband, a mother and father in law. I don't understand why she had to go.
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    But we had nonrefundable tickets. And insurance didn't cover "I have to stay and take care of my sister" as part of the coverage. Plus I had booked two weeks off for my wedding and honeymoon.
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  • 08
    So since I was going to be home by myself doing nothing while my wife was in another city doing whatever I went on the honeymoon by myself.
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  • 09
    I got a massive bed all to myself. I used all the resort credits that were for couples massages, romantic excursions, and special meals on deep sea fishing and a dune buggy tour of the island.
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  • 10
    I just got back and my wife is still with her sister. But she is upset that I went on our honeymoons by myself.
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    Was I supposed to let the money go to waste? Was I supposed to sit at home playing Diablo while I waited for her to be done?
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  • 12
    We are fighting about it. My friends all agree that I would have been dumb to waste the money and my time off.
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  • 13
    Her friends think I was a to go enjoy myself while she was taking care of her sister and a new baby.
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    I will add that there was no place for me to stay at Marie's house. Tonya is sleeping in the nursery since the baby is still in NICU.
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    TrickyExperience1... • 8h ago Probably not too late for an annulment...
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    Longwinded_Ogre • 9h ago Comments are nuts. Buddy would have just been at home, alone, bored. NTA
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    His wife didn't need him. He's not arguing his wife should have come. He's asking if he did anything wrong when he was otherwise just going to be at home alone, uninvolved with any of the goings on with the nephew, and the trip would have been a total loss, money wise.
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  • 18
    He didn't do anything wrong. Y'all are nuts. He wouldn't have been at the hospital supporting anyone. He would have been at home, alone.
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    BetDesigner7611 • 9h ago I responded on the other post as well. NTA.
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    And this comes from a mom of a baby who was born last year at 30-weeks gestation and weighed 2 lbs 7 oz. She literally cannot do anything to help with the baby in the NICU. Sure, she can be there to support the parents, but it sounds to me like they had other people able to do
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    so. Your wife could have gone on the honeymoon. I went through a similar situation while I was in the hospital and I made my dad go on his trip. I ended up having an emergency C- section while he was in route on the plane...
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  • 22
    Anyways, absolutely NTA. I hope you enjoyed your trip!
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    • Nobody-Important 8h ago NTA, not even a little. Your new wife made a choice to stay and leave you on your honeymoon, her sister wasn't in any real danger and she had a good support system in place. without her.
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    Having said that, you two have clearly started your marriage on the wrong foot and it will take a serious amount of time and effort to work out if it's possible. It's clear you feel hurt and she feels the same so there will have to be some serious and hard conversations to have with each other.
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  • 25
    Late_Perception_7... • 8h ago Nta. The baby isn't even home from the hospital!?!? She could've given her equal support over FaceTime.
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    She's enmeshed with her sister and needs to reprioritize now that's she's married.
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