‘You’re not the Maid of Honor Anymore’: Woman Decides Her Friend is More Important Than Her Sister in Her Wedding, But Still Expects Demoted Sister to Pay for Wedding Expenses

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    r/AITAH 21 hr. ago [deleted] AITA for refusing to pay for my sister's wedding after she excluded me from the bridal party?
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    I (26F) have an older sister (29F) who is getting married in a few months. We've always been close, and I was super excited when she got engaged. She asked me to be her maid of honor, and I was thrilled. I've been helping her plan the wedding, throwing her an engagement party, going. dress shopping, and doing all the things a maid of honor does.
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    A couple of weeks ago, we had a family dinner where my sister announced her bridal party. To my shock, she introduced her best friend (33F) as her maid of honor and included three other friends as bridesmaids. I wasn't even mentioned. When I asked her privately why I was excluded, she said she felt her best friend
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    was more deserving of the role because they've known each other longer and that she wanted a smaller bridal party to keep things simple.
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    I was hurt but tried to let it go. However, a few days later, my sister called me and asked if I could still cover some of the wedding expenses, including the venue deposit, the catering and the photographer. I had previously offered to help financially because I knew weddings can be expensive, and I
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    wanted to support her because | work in finance consulting and do make a decent living. But being excluded from the bridal party made me reconsider.
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    I told her that I felt disrespected and that I wasn't comfortable paying for the wedding anymore. She got really upset and said that I was being petty and that as her sister, I should understand and support her decisions. My parents have since called me, saying that I'm ruining her big day and that I should just let it go and help her out.
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    Now my sister is barely speaking to me, and my parents are mad. Some of our extended family have also heard about it, and opinions are split. Some think I'm justified, while others think I'm being an unsupportive brat.
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    I'm really conflicted because I love my sister and want her to have a beautiful wedding, but I also feel really hurt by how she handled this whole situation. AITA?
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    Beck2010 ⚫20h ago "To go along with your smaller bridal party, might I recommend similarly scaling down your wedding so you can afford it?” NTA.
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    jojozabadu • 20h ago Your sister is an entitled and your parents enable her
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    DaniCapsFan ⚫ 20h ago Your sister asked you to be her MOH, so you did the MOH duties by helping with the wedding Then she reneges. Any promises made between you are null and void. She can ask her bestie MOH for the money.
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    she said she felt her best friend was more deserving of the role because they've known each other longer and that she wanted a smaller bridal party to keep things simple
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    I call.. Come on, you're her sister and have known her your whole life and almost all of hers. Did she know her friend from the cradle?
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    And you can support her decisions, but that doesn't mean you have to bankroll them. NTA
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    Instruction Top48... 21h ago NTA. Even if you were the MOH you are under no obligation to pay for any part of her wedding. She didn't even have the courtesy to tell you privately before her public announcement. Ignore the haters and think long and
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    hard about attending the wedding. I wouldn't put it past her or other family members to try and shame you.
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    Expert-Angle-8214 • 20h ago NTA she never even told you that she didnt want you as her MOH, then has the cheek to ask you to pay for her wedding, if she cant afford it why the make the plans to get did she married, tell her you only said you would help pay as
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    she wanted you to be MOH but then goes behind your back to stab you and have someone else do it so why does she think she is entitled to your hard earned money, tell her to ask your parents and her fiances parents for it. also tell her
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    parents and her fiances parents for it. also tell her you wont be there and book your self a little holiday for the weekend she is getting married
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    Odd Welcome 7940 • 19h ago She couldn't even talk to you before she announced cutting you out? That is all you need to know. I wouldn't be attending
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    Mytuucents8819 21h ago NTA! She is under no obligation to make you part of the bridal party... but neither are you obliged to contribute! Your parents and relatives who are mad at you can contribute instead!
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    • Kirbywitch 20h ago NTA. Last I checked in my Emily Post's etiquette- no where does it list the brides' sister as a responsible party for paying for the event. I'd tell her to pay for it or your parents. Frankly, it should have been that way from the
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    beginning. But I really don't. like my sister- plus she is on marriage #5...

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