Nephews flush woman's $30,000 engagement ring and their father refuses to pay or offer any replacement: 'He has refused to pay'

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    AITA for asking my brother to pay $30,000 for my engagement ring? I hosted a family dinner over the weekend. My brother brought my nephews (4 and 8) over as well. I used to wear my engagement ring all the time, but lately I keep it in my walk in closet and mainly wear it for special occasions. While I was cleaning up the dinner table, my nephews went to go play while the adults were still in the outdoor patio/outdoor kitchen area. My brother was not supervising his kids.
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    During this time, my nephews went into the master bedroom without anyone knowing and started playing with everything. Including my engagement ring. When we came to look for them, they paniced because they know they aren't supposed to be upstairs, ran into the master bathroom and flushed my ring. We called a plumber in case it was somehow in the u trap of the toilet and not actually gone. But nope. Unfortunately it was gone. for good.
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    We still had the original receipt, so I called my brother. I emailed him a scanned copy as proof of the cost and asked him to reimburse me for the ring my nephew flushed. Immediately he started calling me because we were family and he an was just a child. He has refused to repay the cost of my ring. I told him I will be taking him to court for this and now my entire family is blowing up my phone saying family shouldn't sue each other and just let it go.
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    Edit: No, the ring was not insured. I found out the day after my nephew flushed it. My husband says he forgot and in the end never actually insured it. Edit 2: My brother says he does not have the money to repay even $100 per month and has refused any kind of repayment plan. He said I live in a nice enough house and if I want a replacement, I should just sell my car.
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    Edit 3: My brother, to this day, has not truly apologized. It was a Canadian sorry. Sorry, not sorry. He said kids will do what is normal for kids, and they shouldn't be held responsible for a ring. They were supposed to supervise their kids outdoors with the rest of the family while I was busy cleaning up.
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    Edit 4: I don't believe for a second my brother and his wife cannot pay for the cost of my engagement ring. They don't make anything near my husband but they have a combined income of around 250k. They don't pay rent or anything because my parents gifted them their old house valued at 3.5 million in Toronto, ON, CA back when I bought my parents a new home years ago. There is no mortgage on the home my brother lives in. The only things my brother and his wife would have to pay for is the cost of
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    Tiffy_the_Doc NTA His circus, his monkeys. He wasn't watching them, that's on him. 100% he should replace your ring. As for all the family who are blowing up at you, it's easy, when it didn't happen to them, to preach forgiveness. Ignore them. Also, 8/4 are more than old enough to know better. My 3yo knows not to touch someone else's things in their home without asking. Choices have consequences, and sometimes those consequences are expensive!
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    Future_Look6983 You didn't insure a $30,000 dollar ring? Edit: For those of you who say the insurance isn't the point- OF COURSE ITS THE POINT. The point of this whole thing is the sheer amount of money involved. happens all the time. Kids get into things, dogs eat things, partners lose things. Anything that you value is on you to insure or protect. YTA for walking around with a 30K liability the size of a marble and then pointing fingers at whoever touched it last before it disappeared.
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    Major_Barnacle_2212 INFO: Your $30K ring wasn't insured? That's the first thing you're supposed to do, because accidents happen, even if you don't wear your ring often. They get stolen, or niblings flush them randomly. Hence - insurance. Edit:: It's not ideal to sue him, because he should never put you in this position. He should have proposed some sort of payment plan in some way shape or form. Since he was a giant AH about blaming you, now you're N TA taking him to court. Unless you have insur
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    personofpaper. INFO Are you sure they flushed the ring? This store is so incredibly strange. What are the odds that they'd beeline straight for the closet, find your $30K uninsured ring, and then flush it down the toilet? River_Song47 Some kids like to flush things down toilets. I remember one time mine grabbed my dads keys, yelled "I flush it!" And ran for the bathroom. I'm just glad they announced it so we could catch them before they did it.
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    FoxWyrd NTA. Your family is right, family shouldn't sue each other, because it should be being repaid without courts. AlmostBut NotQuiteTea Literally 90% of people can't afford a random 30k bill
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    AlexTMcgn So, he doesn't watch his kid, and you are the your property? if said kid damages I don't think so. If he doesn't cough up the money, do sue. (And this is why you better have insurance if you have kids.) NTA (editied to add judgement)
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    DJ_Mixalot ESH. Him for letting his children behave like that and for refusing any sort of compensation, and you and your husband for not having insurance on a 30k ring.

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