Woman Suspects Husband of Cheating, So She Follows Him for Three Days During His Work Trip

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    r/relationship_advice u/ThrowRApokhu • 2d I (26F) thought my husband (27M) was cheating. I followed him on his work trip and he was not. Now what?
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    A friend of mine works in the same department of the company as my husband and they occasionally run into each other but they have never worked together. Three weeks ago, she called and told me that my husband had a "work wife", someone of our age who joined the company three months ago on my husband's team and advised me to be suspicious. She showed me pictures and videos that she had taken of my husband with his alleged work wife and none of it looked particularly alarming and looked like norm
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    My husband (27M) and I (26F) have been together for five years and we have been married for just over three years and we have a baby boy who is almost two years old and we are hoping to have a second child soon. We have a really good marriage and there's a lot of quality emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy and he's a great father as well. However, I think I may have just ruined it all.
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    him starting in a few weeks. We celebrated that night and I basically forgot all about what my friend had been saying until the next day, where my husband came home with a bottle of red wine with a taped sticky note congratulating my husband on the promotion with a little heart at the end of the message. I went ballistic at my husband for the first time that day and accused him of cheating and said horrible things that I never should have said to him. He denied everything. Again, there was no pr
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    only work-related texts and emails between them. I asked my husband about it and let him know that my friend had mentioned him working with the work wife. My husband laughed and reassured me and said it was purely work and told me there's nothing to be worried about. I trust him fully so I dropped it and told my friend that there was nothing going on between them. My friend was adamant that there was at least an emotional affair going on and it would turn physical if they got the chance and I as
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    When my husband came home, I had his favourite meal prepared and I just hugged him as tight as I possibly could. It's been 24 hours since he came home and we went to a 4th of July show today but all I have been thinking about is what I did. I told my best friend about how guilty and ashamed I feel and she gave me an ultimatum that either I tell my husband about how I stalked him during his business trip or she will tell him. I know what I did was wrong. I knew it was wrong when I was doing it bu
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    also drove to the city he was going to. I trusted that if something was going on, nothing would happen in the office and they would wait to get back to the hotel. For three days and two nights, I tracked his location and observed from a distance and nothing ever happened. Both days, my husband would have a drink at dinner with the other three colleagues and then he would go back to the hotel room and call me and on the third day, he drove back home after work. I made excuses as to why we couldn'
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    This week, my husband had to go on a work trip for three days (not the whole week due to it being the 4th of July) with three other people, including the work wife. He doesn't travel for work often and I was again suspicious if something was going on and made up my mind to follow my husband and to see for myself if anything was going on. He had a choice between taking a 1.5 hour flight and or a 5 hour drive and my husband being the car fanatic he is, he chose the 5 hour drive. I told my best fri
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    wtfgirl21. 2d Okay I can say at least this much... Your friend? is not your friend. drop her block her be done with her trust your husband or don't. Reply intrasight ⚫ 2d • 110.4k I am divorced because my wife's friend planted in her the idea that I was cheating. Was a sad, stupid way to end a 30 year marriage. Edit: OP should tell him. And dump your friend. 3.3k
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    SomeRaven AtMyWindow • 2d Honestly, I think OP's husband needs to report the friend to HR for harassment. She is very persistently accusing him of having an affair with a coworker, who is now one of his subordinates. She went so far as to take secret photos of him and the other coworker, trying to prove they were having an affair. This "friend" could nuke his career and his reputation if she doesn't stop. OP may not be the only person she's gossiping with about this "affair." Other coworkers hav
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    JustMMlurkingMM • 2d Drop your "friend". She is deliberately trying to destroy your marriage, and has been from the start. Tell your husband everything, as you have explained it here, apologise for not trusting him and tell him that you are blocking your "ex-friend" and never speaking to her again. He sounds like a pretty chilled guy, so he'll probably forgive you but it may take a while to get his full trust back. Reply 9.1k
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    However, for the next week, my friend would text me everyday that they were doing this and that but there was simply no proof. I grew tired of this and told my friend to either send me actual proof of something going on or stop. I was still periodically checking my husband's phone and laptop but never found anything. She told me that to her knowledge, they hadn't kissed or even hugged but there was definitely something brewing there but she would stop telling me if she just simply saw a conversa
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    Subject_Criticism136 • 2d Your friend has a crush on him and is trying to blow your marriage up by you doing it so she can make a move. Reply 12.5k Particular_Lemon_817 • 2d It's possible. But could just as well that she's extremely bitter about her own (love) life, and resents OP for having what looks like a perfect relationship. I've met people so full of jealousy and resentment they just can't stand anyone else being happy when they themselves can't seem to find it. Still makes her an awful f
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    Sufficient_Motor_458 • 2d I trust him fully The stalking determined that was a lie ... Reply 4.3k Whisky_Delta • 2d For real. "I trust him completely but go thru his phone and laptop and have one of my friends giving me daily updates on what he's doing at work and tell her to stop but then literally stalk him for three days." 1.3k
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    50pencepeace • 2d My husband has continued to prove he is not cheating, I have no evidence but my friend says he is so he must be That's a ridiculous summary of this. Talk to your husband about this please, he needs to know how far you've gone Reply 2.7k
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    HmajTK • 2d It'll be better to tell him yourself and truly apologize. It's better to hear it from you than find it out about you. Note that this does not guarantee his reaction. I certainly cannot even begin to formulate how I'd react to finding out that my spouse harbored suspicions in the lack of evidence to such an extreme of not only regularly going through my phone on missions but covertly tailing me. This had been resolved before and recurred yet again. There is no reason to believe it won
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    Piilootus 2d Yes, you absolutely need to tell your husband AND stop talking to the friend who convinced you he was cheating. ← Reply 1.4k
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    giB_kciD_ygrenE • 2d The only person that looks good in this story is the husband. Literally everyone else appears to have serious issues Reply û 417 ♡
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    Famoustractordriver ⚫ 2d • You trusted your "friend" over your husband and already did something stupid. Now your "best friend" is blackmailing you to come clean to your husband or you get ratted out? Oh honey... First friend is actively trying to destroy your marriage. She may already did it through you. What can I say? You should be ashamed, you should stop being this gullible and insecure. Come clean with your husband (the whole, unfiltered, untrickled truth), break all contact with that pers
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    violue • 2d please block the person TRYING TO RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE for funsies you need to tell your husband. if not because he deserves to know what you did, if not to clear the air, then at least because one of his co-workers has been trying to ruin his life??? Reply 29 ♡
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    Token_or_Tolkienu POS • 2d 1. Tell him so he can either leave you or forgive you. 2. Tell him so he can also report your alleged "friend" to HR for recording him while he's at work and trying to harass him out of his marriage. 3. Stop being so dependent on friends. You didn't even have to involve the 2nd friend but for some reason your friend's word has more weight than your own husband's. Grow up 4. You legit drove 5hrs one way on a stalking mission? Get help ... Reply 119

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