'It is our day!': Monster-in-law wedding-shames the bride and groom for booking vegetarian meals with catering, claiming guests 'expect luxury food'

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    "It is one meal only, on our day..."
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    WIBTA for having a vegetarian only wedding? New to Reddit as I need opinions. My fiancé and I (both 30s) are getting married in a couple of months. We now need to finalise our menu choices for our guests.
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    Now, we are vegetarian. In general, we are pretty relaxed vegetarians. If we go out, we totally don't mind if our friends/family choose meat or fish to eat, same if we visit family.
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    As long as there is a veggie option, then great. Now back to the wedding. On looking at the choices, and given it's our day, we thought it would be nice to have a fully vegetarian menu. My
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    (32F) parents are paying for the meal and have been absolutely stunned by this choice. They say it's disrepectful to people who aren't in the vegetarian culture, and also disrespectful to our own values in terms of ensuring our
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    friends have a nice time. They say it's forcing our ethics on other people. My viewpoint is: it is one meal only, on our day, where I'm sure it will be delicious whatever they're served. None of our friends have ever complained
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    when coming to our house for (vegetarian) food but my parents say it's different at a wedding because people "expect luxury food", especially if they are travelling from abroad (many are) and apparently this needs to
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    include meat. I am honestly Natalie Imbruglia-d (torn) on this. Personally I don't mind that much if our guests eat meat but it is inconsistent with our own life choices and it is our day, so that could make it feel inauthentic.
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    And I think the whole focus on meat thing is quite generational (my parents are in their 60s). My fiancé agrees with me but the issue is my parents are (very kindly) paying for the meal. WIBTA if I got everyone only vegetarian food?
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    owls_and_cardinals . 4 hr. ago S [128] NTA. Omnivores have all eaten plenty of vegetarian and even vegan meals without intending to. Had a bowl of cereal for breakfast?
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    KingBretwald 3 hr. ago This is such . People can go ONE DAMNED MEAL without eating meat! My wife and I are of your parent's generation and your idea sounds delicious!
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    Luxury food? What's not luxury about Eggplant parm, veggie quiche, half of any given Indian menu, stuffed peppers, guacamole, moussaka, asparagus risotto, shakshuka, mushroom wellington, tortalini with alfredo sauce or stuffed manicotti?
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    If your parents go to a wedding and every single dish has meat in it, does that mean the bride and groom are "forcing their ethics on other people"? Are couples that want child-free weddings "forcing their ethics on other people"?
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    sparklybeast 2 hr. ago I'm not disagreeing with your point overall, but hearing veggie quiche and guacamole described as luxurious made me laugh.
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    000-Hotaru_Tomoe 4 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Just as with dry weddings, it's a decision that is up to the spouses on their day.
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    As you say, it's a single meal: no one dies if they don't drink alcohol or eat meat or fish for a meal. You don't have to get wasted or eat half an ox to have fun...
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    I believe your parents have an old-fashioned and narrow view of vegetarian cuisine, and probably imagine that guests will be served only a bowl of salad as if they were bunnies.
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    Of course, expect other guests to also protest like your parents are doing or decide not to come. In that case, their choice.
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    Mindless_Dog_5956 3 hr. ago YTA primarily because your parents are the ones paying. You may not feel judged for your decision but your parents will feel embarrassed if friends and family get a substandard meal when this should be a time to put your best foot forward.
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    Either add a meat option or refuse to take your parents money. If you do add a meat option it would be pretty fun to see how many of your guests pick it.
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    Petrihified 3 hr. ago I've been to several full on vegan weddings(I am very much not vegan), and non- vegan weddings. The absence of animal products doesn't make it substandard, hiring caterers make it substandard NTA
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    Moira-Moira 1 hr. ago Vegetarian isn't substandard. FFS you want luxurious? Try paying for an authentic, french cheese souffle or a risotto with truffles and then call it substandard. Meat eaters have such narrow horizons, these aren't even novel foods.

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