Homeowners' patio collapses after they insist on feeding neighborhood squirrels, which earns them holes in the porch, son refuses to help: ‘I warned them’

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  • Feeding a squirrel.
  • AITAH because I refuse to help pay for the aftermath of a problem I warned them would happen?

    My folks live in a 60's house in an older neighborhood. Some time ago they decided to befriend (i.e. "feed") the wildlife. Started with trying to feed birds.
  • Which became trying to satisfy the squirrels so the birds get a chance. It then "If You Give A Mouse A Cookie"'d itself down to
  • having red squirrels and chipmunks. Aww... cute... Generations later, they were causing visible gaps between the stair and the floor of the front porch. I
  • could fit my flat hand into the holes in several places. I don't know how long the tunneling was going on but when I first saw it, it was already a potentially HUGE problem.
  • I pointed it out and both of them said, "Yeah, we know. We've seen em go in and out." I have very weird and fairly focused anxieties and "Patio Collapse Due to Chipmunk" doesn't seem
  • like a ridiculous headline to me. I asked if they'd get it fixed and I got nonchalant shrugs. "Why?"
  • I brought up the upcoming fall/winter and water getting under the patio to the foundation and the damage that it could cause.
  • The structural integrity of the patio is compromised. What if the holes become a trip hazard and one of you or both of you get really hurt? You'd never be able to cover that.
  • Shrugs all around. The next year, after a couple days of nonstop rain, they returned home from wherever to find that the front porch had, indeed, collapsed in on itself.
  • Fortunately there were no injuries - according to the door camera no one had been standing on it when the slab cracked like a shotgun blast. Cue the
  • whole insurance mambo and inspection and rigamarole to try to get it repaired or replaced.
  • Cut to now, months later, and I've been asked to help pay for half of their deductible and the expenses insurance wouldn't cover. They
  • insisted on exact same as before and wouldn't compromise on a cheaper option so insurance gave them money for the cheaper and the difference
  • was out of pocket. To my understanding at least. I have flat out refused. They said I owe it to them since I didn't warn them
  • when I knew it could be a problem. I said that I had warned them, they had laughed it off.
  • "You should have warned us more than once." I had. Until they told me to shut up about it.
  • It's gotten to where they're threatening small claims court. Family is divided. Some say I should know by now that it takes more than one mention to get
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  • anything done so it was my fault. Most are of the mind that I did everything but get it fixed for them and I owe nothing. I'm 99% sure that this issue would either be
  • dismissed or go in my favor. I'm not worried about if the one percent has me pay out. I'm worried about their wellbeing. They can't afford this if they lose.
  • I don't want to go down without a fight - they've used my money to bail them out of financial woe more than a few times and I need to draw the line somewhere. I can't keep
  • saving them forever. Maybe the only way they'll learn is to be in real difficulty. I could keep them out if this real trouble and try to stand my ground before something happens. I'm torn.
  • AITAH because I'm not just giving them the money this time? Edit 1: ok, this is more attention than I expected. Thank you for pointing out
  • what should be patently obvious for me. I replied to a few people about their disbelief about the situation. Manipulation, guilt, and anxiety for decades will alter every
  • perception of every problem. I stress myself out about being stressed out over stupid stuff. Because "what if" is always there. I know I am in no way responsible legally. I don't
  • live there. I know they'd lose. Where my dilemma comes is that I can just stop this whole nonsense for now with a check. I'm not and I feel like I'm
  • abandoning them. Hmm what else. Oh. Yes. "Cutesy writing." I liked that one. I'm not writing a novel (sorry person who questioned my use of porch/patio descriptions) but I am also not boring.

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