'Bad friend': Selfish guest abandons her friend's wedding because they weren't serving alcohol, claims she 'just wanted to go out'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Jul 18, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Weddings are a ton of work to organize. With a million moving parts, hundreds of decisions, and thousands of dollars on the line, it truly is a high-stakes event. Guests don't always realize the amount of work that goes into such a special day, but when the bride and groom finally get to walk down the aisle, they can heave a sigh of relief that, not only do they get to marry their best friend, but the accursed wedding coordination is over. They can finally relax and enjoy themselves for an evening–no more thinking about napkin colors, recessed lighting, and special menus for guests with a food allergy. 

By the time the wedding comes along, the bride and the room just want to have fun with their friends and family. 

However, the woman in our next story selfishly decided to make her friend's wedding all about ditching the kids at home and going out to party. Understandably, guests want to get a little lit at a wedding because it's just fun! But when the bride and groom have a dry wedding (no alcoholic bar service) because the groom is 2 years sober, suddenly every decent guest's 'respect radar' goes off and they abandon a night of drinking for a night of wholesome fun at the wedding. 

It's common decency, right? 

Keep scrolling to read how one woman decided that partying was far more important than supporting her sober friend, claiming the 'wedding was boring' and then rallying a troupe of other party animals to ditch the wedding early to go out to the bars. 

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    "The wedding was boring"
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    AITA for leaving the dry wedding wedding early to go to go out.
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    So 2 weeks ago I 35f went to a wedding in our college town for a member of our college friend group. My husband and I left the kids with my parents and we went. We got a Vrbo
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    with another couple I went to college with for a few days. My husband and I don't have a ton of time to ourselves away from the kids so we were excited to let loose.
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    On the invitation it said the wedding went to 11 with an after party with the bride and groom at the venue. The venue was a gorgeous mansion and the bride and groom had it for the night, they were leaving for the honeymoon the next morning.
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    Cut to wedding day and it's a dry wedding. Apparently the groom is 2 years sober. No one told us this and we were admittedly bummed. When we found out there was no alcohol
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    we told people we were going to some bars after and not going to the after party. We left the wedding at 9:30 because we were itching to go out and the wedding was boring.
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    Pretty much the whole college crew left around that time and went out. Apparently, the bride's friend group did not stay for the party, the grooms did and the optics were very lopsided at the party. We all
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    heard from the bride about this and she called us leaving. She said that she for didn't feel supported and felt like we were spiteing her now husband for his sobriety. I told
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    her that she was reading too much into it. We just wanted to go out. She is especially mad at me as i'm looked at as the ringleader of this outing. I don't think i've done anything wrong AITA?
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    starbiebarbie99 19 hr. ago. edited 18 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [24] YTA - You are going to get a lot of "if you can't have fun without alc then you have a serious addiction problem and you " crowd but I don't agree with that
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    sentiment at all and I think it misses the point entirely so I want to be clear that's not why I'm voting YTA. I do think that couples should disclose that ahead of time so that people can plan for it since alcohol at weddings is the norm.
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    But you are an this: "we told people we for were going to some bars after and not going to the after party. We left the wedding at 9:30"
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    You were talking AT HER WEDDING, and then you formed a whole group to leave her party early. That's a bad friend. Skipping her dry after party to go out after would be totally fine,
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    expected even, but to leave the wedding early and bringing a group with you??? Yeah, you super super hard. She is trying to support her now husband and she'll be
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    supporting him like that during the whole marrige and you couldn't even support your friend for 1.5 more hours? Life isn't about only ever doing what you want to do. You are running
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    on a greedy algorithm, only choosing what makes you happy in the moment, others be damned, and that's not what makes a good person. Sometimes we have to sit through long ceremonies for
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    our siblings. Sometimes we have to go to boring art shows for our friends. Sometimes we have to participate in boring parties to celebrate the people we love. Get over it!
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    Alternative-Gur-6208 19 hr. ago Enthusiast [5] I'd like to call you, NT A. Had you just left quietly and not talked about it with groups of ppl you would have gotten that judgment.
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    Unfortunately YTA. you told all the friends that this sucked and you were leaving to go get drunk, and became a ringleader for the group of friends to follow.
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    I get it weddings can be boring and drag on. I went to a wedding (marriage didn't last longer than the wedding) the wedding started at 4pm, very little food provided at the intermission before the reception. (Only cucumber wedges with cream cheese idk why)
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    by 10:30 the dinner hadn't started we ran to a diner and found other wedding guests (a complete surprise but we all laughed it off)
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    Ok-Acanthaceae5744 19 hr. ago Aficionado [12] YTA That's kind of a crappy - way to treat a "friend." Basically you all abandoned the wedding celebration, and I'm guessing she was looking forward to celebrating her wedding with her "friends."
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    Hence why you were invited. And it was a reasonable expectation of hers that you actually wanted to celebrate her marriage, since you went.
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    Honestly, you should go to weddings to celebrate and support the marriage of the friends and/or family, drinking should never a necessity. Even if you were bummed about the alcohol, celebrating and being happy for your friend would take priority over you getting drunk.
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    Personibe 18 hr. ago Exactly. Weddings are boring. Wedding showers are boring. Baby showers are boring. Graduations are boring. Etc, etc. You go to support your friends/family.
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    Period. Then you don't smack talk whatever event you are at. Nor do you lead a group of people to abandon said event.
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