'It's a boy. You guys can go home now.' Pregnant woman storms out of her own gender-reveal party thrown by dad's girlfriend

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jul 19, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Gender reveal parties have been all over the news in the past decade or so, and rarely for good reasons. There was one that started a forest fire in California. There was one that resulted in a plane crash and the untimely demise of two people. There was another in Iowa that caused a wayward explosion. Someone even ended up with a dart lodged in their ankle after a failed reveal. Injury or death via gender reveal party has sadly and astoundingly become not that uncommon. Not to mention all the flack they've gotten for their prescriptive views on gender. 

So it follows that some expectant mothers are choosing not to celebrate this way. But that doesn't mean their family members got the memo. That's what happened to one pregnant woman whose overstepping family member led to a pretty awkward and unceremonious gender reveal. Read on for the wild story and decide who was in the wrong. 

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    AITA for for ruining my own gender reveal party?
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    I'm pregnant with a baby boy due in November. My fiancé and I didn't care much about the our child, so we didn't make too of much noise about it once we found out. The only people we'd informed were our parents, their partners and our siblings.
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    Prior to this, my father's girlfriend of 3 years had been asking me about my plans for a gender reveal party. I've always been clear about not wanting one. When I announced my son's gender to them, she expressed disappointment that I hadn't changed my mind about a party.
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    I don't like gender reveals. Never have, never will. I prefer baby showers, which I think feel more about the actual child. I never tried to hide that opinion, either.
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    Days later, my father's girlfriend invited me over for tea at their apartment (my dad was out of town). When I got there, about a dozen people popped out of hiding to surprise me. There were pink and blue decorations everywhere, which made what was going on pretty clear.
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    As I stood there in shock, my father's girlfriend excitedly told me they were throwing me a surprise gender reveal party. Since I'd already told her, she had taken it upon herself to order a cake with colorful frosting, decorate the apartment and invite a bunch of people over.
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    The guests included her mother (whom I don't get along with), some of her friends, my MIL (not my mom) and four of my friends. As I later found out, my MIL and friends had been told I'd changed my mind about gender reveals.
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    I had not. Still in the doorway, I looked over at everyone and said, "It's a boy. You guys can go home now." I left without looking back.
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    Hours later, my father called me furious that I'd ruined the party. He said his girlfriend had put a lot of effort, money and love into planning it, and I should have shown respect and gratitude for it. Apparently, she hadn't stopped crying since I left.
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    It's been almost a week, and they're both still upset. Even after I explained I never wanted that party in the first place, they're insisting I could have sucked it up for an hour, or at least cut the cake.
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    Sorsha4564 4 days ago • NTA. This smacks of her trying to "prove" that she cares about you more than your mom, especially seeing as how either your mom wasn't invited or she turned down the invitation to respect your wishes. She doesn't seem to get that the way to prove she cares about you at all is to actually listen to what you want and don't want.
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    Ok_Conversation 9750. 4 days ago NTA. Dads gf sounds like someone who enjoys bulldozing boundaries. Wait until she expects to be in the delivery room with you!
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    ThrowawayGenReveal OP. 4 days ago Our hospital will only allow me and my fiancé in. Thankfully, no one has asked us to be there anyway.
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    Dittoheadforever 4 days ago • You're NTA. You made yourself very clear in how you felt about gender reveal parties. You dad's girlfriend completely and deliberately disregarded that and disrespected you.
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    So sorry the party she planned for herself was ruined. Maybe she should have gone a step further and not even invited you, since this party was all about what she wanted.
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    West-Dimension8407 4 days ago "Dear Dad, that's on her. I didn't want that party. I told everyone I don't want GR party. She invited HER mother but not mine. Tell her to get her together and start respecting my boundaries."
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    Fantastic-Sea-3462. 4 days ago NTA. It wasn't your gender reveal party, it was her boyfriend's-daughter's- baby's gender reveal party. Nothing about that party was for or about you, so why should you feel gratitude for it?
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    fatboy85wils 4 days ago I wish all gender reveal parties were like that. That's elite
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    Lexpressionista74 · 4 days ago And they lied to your family/friends saying you changed your mind. That reeks of psycho and a permanent boundary crosser to me. Point out that lying about you is unacceptable and either he changes his attitude or you'll have to go LC until he breaks up with miss psycherpath
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