Woman Leaves Partner After He Surprises Her With News About His Children, He Calls Her Selfish

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 20, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. In this era with technology, it's both easier and more difficult to hide things from your partners and spouses. It's easier in the sense that keeping a secret is more available because of the privacy of phones. But, it's also harder to keep it hidden forever, because it's eternal proof of something that can't be erased. Now, in this particular Reddit thread it's unclear if the man was hiding information from his girlfriend. But their relationship unveils either way. 

In the story, this couple has been together less than a year and decide to move in. Their whole relationship thus far was going smoothly. The man has two kids from an ex of 10 years ago, and gives child support, until his ex decides to take him off child support, so that he has to parent them every other week. Now, this woman didn't agree to be a mother, and she should stand for that. Some people are just so audacious. 

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    r/AITAH 10 hr. ago Strongarm Mickey7 I broke up with my boyfriend because of his kids
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    I (F25) broke up with my boyfriend(M29). He has two kids (9 and 7) from his previous marriage at 19 which lasted not long at all. we had been seeing each other for seven months officially three months, but our love had grown so deep so fast, that we were decided to get an
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    apartment together. Here we are one month before our move-in day and he tells me that his ex is planning on taking him off child support. That would require him to have the children every other week. Since I don't have children, I felt that was a bit much. We were moving in September and
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    the child support agreement was to take place in October. I felt like that wouldn't give us enough time to get a good rhythm in our place before bringing an extra set of humans to care for every other week.
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    Keep in mind, he works from 11 AM to 8:30 PM and I work from 6 AM to 2:30 PM. That would have required me to be the guardian for the children until he got home and they would be sleep by then. I expressed my concern for this as I don't have children and that was
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    a bit much for me, so I told him I was uncomfortable with that set up, and he lashed out at me saying " as a future stepmother that is something you would have to do anyways". I completely disagree but we aren't married anyways. If we were, It would be my job to help you, but this setup
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    would be more like me raising the children on my own. Does this make me selfish and an AH?
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    vandr611 • 10h ago NTA. All you did was correct his belief that you were a future step-mother to his children.
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    SpaceJesuslsHere 9h ago Our love ran so deep, so fast His need for a daily free babysitter and 1/2 rent payer for his kids ran so deep, so fast.
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    He literally can't get off child support until he finds a sucker to raise his kids while he's gone all day. Stop feeling guilty, you got duped. With you, he was going to go from paying full rent + child support and
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    having to watch his own kids when he had them to paying half rent, no child support and someone else parenting his kids. He was coming out ahead by thousands a month. That's why he's mad.
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    nancysecretsxo • 10h ago NTA. You got played lady. That guy only sees you as a babysitter. His lashing out is a big giveaway.
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    Do whatever that makes u comfortable and happy. Leave the guy if he can't compromise.
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    GingerPrince72 • 9h ago "but our love had grown so deep so fast, that we were decided to get an apartment together." You've been taken for a fool, I think you may not be ready for living with someone.
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    Used Mark_7911 • 10h ago NTA I seriously doubt this was his ex's idea. He wants to stop paying child support and thinks he now has a built-in nanny with you moving in
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    (plus you can split the rent!). It's a sweet deal for him. You were right to break up with him. Not just because you don't sign up to take care of the kids. I think he's a user, a liar, and a manipulator.
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    Trailsya •10h ago This is likely a guy who is looking for a babysitter/caretaker for his kids more than a GF. Him snapping at you gives it away.
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    Good you were smart enough to not put up with that. You're 25 and were smart enough not to start having babies at too young an age. No need for you to take
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    care of kids that aren't even yours if you don't want to. You made the right and very wise choice.
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    Jokester 316 • 10h ago NTA. You've only been dating exclusively for 3 months. That's way too soon to meet his children, much less care for them on a day to day basis. I think you should slow down. You
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    haven't known him long enough to move in with him yet. His children are his responsibility, not yours. He can not provide childcare in the evening if he works so late. He needs to make
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    arrangements if he's going. to get more of a 50/50 custody split.
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    atbftivnbfi 10h ago No, please do not move in with him. You barely know him. He probably shouldn't have even introduced you to his kids so soon. You would be a full-time stepmother even if they live there half- time, if the mother gets sick
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    or other issues arise. And he made the decision about half-time custody on his own, even though it very much impacts you. Please. slow down with this man.
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    candicenotgreatlol • 9h ago NTA. You entered the relationship as a partner, not a babysitter. Leave him if he doesn't realize it's unfair to you.
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