Woman spends $45 on burgers every week to help out pregnant sister, husband lashes out: 'Does she micromanage how you spend your money?'

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    AITA for telling her to stop spending $45 on burgers weekly?
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    My (M42) SIL (33) recently started selling burgers on Saturdays. She works a 9-5 Mon-Fri office job with a good salary, but she recently discovered she is pregnant with her ex's baby, he is no longer in the picture, so she is selling burgers for extra income.
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    Now, every Saturday my wife (40) buys burgers for our family (3 kids, 12, 10 and 8). My issue is that my SIL sells every burger for $9. So 5 burgers is $45. The burgers are tasty, don't get me wrong, but she is using my MIL
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    recipe, that my wife also knows, so I don't see why we should spend $45 weekly on burgers when my wife can make identical ones at home and we would spend less money on ingredients.
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    To be clear, technically we can afford SIL's burger comfortably, I just don't see why we should when there are cheaper options
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    I try to talk about it with my wife and she said she mostly buys because she wants to support her sister. I told her it's not our job to support her sister, beside as I said the burgers are tasty and every weekend they are sold out in a couple of hours, so I don't think losing our 5 burgers would put a dent in her business.
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    Yesterday I told my wife again we shouldn't buy burgers, and she asked me why I cared if she was buying them from her money, not our money (we have each an accoutn, and one joint account). I told her it's not about that, I just
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    don't think it's sensible to spend $45 every weekend on burgers when she already knows the recipe. She said she will be spending $36 then, because she won't be buying mine anymore if it bothered me so much.
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    That's exactly what she did, she bought burgers for our kids and her, and didn't buy one for me, which okay, anyway I got a big mac for cheaper. So I thought we were okay, but she has been acting as if she is mad at me since yesterday. I fail to see why she is mad, AITA?
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    HudsonsBlink 21 hr. ago • YTA I was going to say NTA until I got to the part where you say that you guys have separate accounts and a joint account, and she is buying the burgers from her own money.
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    "We" aren't buying the burgers. She is. From her separate money. Does she micromanage how you spend your money? What if she instead just gave her sister $45 a week from her own money, in exchange for no burgers, what business is that of yours?
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    JeansInMyKidneys 21 hr. ago Call me a but even if it's a joint account the fact that OP said they can comfortably afford them. and that they have no pre- existing beef with the SIL... Then just buy them man. It's a sweet thing to do, wife doesn't need to cook or clean up and you can help out SIL without it seeming like charity like.
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    Away_Refuse8493 21 hr. ago YTA She TOLD you - I try to talk about it with my wife and she said she mostly buys because she wants to support her sister. I don't think you understand the difference between supporting her sister do something REALLY FREAKING GOOD ... She is a
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    going to be a single mom to y'alls niece or nephew, and the SIL is NOT asking for handouts, she started a business. Your wife is supporting her sister doing something REALLY GOOD for herself, and her future baby.
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    You are not paying the sister's rent. You aren't giving her money. You are buying burgers, that y'all enjoy and can afford, and by doing so, helping a kid. It's like when you buy Girl Scout cookies (also yum) or whatever.
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    celticmusebooks 21 hr. ago So you could have had a "free" gourmet burger that benefited a family member- - but you spent your own money to by a crappy corporate burger that benefits some billionaire and somehow you think you "won"-- yeah YTA here.
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    rafters- 21 hr. ago YTA for trying to dictate how she spends her own money when as you said, she can comfortably afford it. I get where you're coming from in this, but she's not just making a dumb choice about food just because. She's trying to financially support her struggling sister in a way that doesn't feel like charity.
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    Kashaya72 21 hr. ago YTA Why did you spend money on a Big Mac, you could have made a burger yourself
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    chartreusable · 21 hr. ago • YTA. Your family can afford. it and she's supporting your SIL. You're being too controlling over what she spends her money on when it doesn't affect you.

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