Self-Serving Brother Bans Sister Form Wedding, Fearing Her Medical Condition Will Steal the Spotlight, Leaving Her Heartbroken and Devastated

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Sienna Varady
Aug 2, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Weddings are joyous occasions designed to honor the union of two people. The couple invites their loved ones to join them as they celebrate taking their first steps towards eternity. However, what if your brother and his current partner decided they didn't want you to come to the nuptials because they believed you would be the center of attention?

The story below is an account of a heartbroken sister. A leg amputation was recently performed on the original poster (OP) as a result of multiple medical complications. She had a complicated personal and medical situation but was still looking forward to attending her brother's wedding. Her happiness was short-lived, though, as her brother informed her that she was no longer welcome. His reason was that he was worried her 'situation' would draw too much attention to herself and produce too much noise for the other visitors.

That being said, make sure to read the story below to find out how OP reacted when she learned she was no longer invited to her brother's wedding and whether her family supported her by refusing to attend a wedding she wasn't invited to, be sure to read the story below! Additionally, after you're done, don't forget to check out the story about the man who reconsiders marrying his fiancé after finding out she was the 'other woman' in his sister's past relationship!

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  • 01
    When my parents came home they were telling me that people were asking about and asking where I was so I guess I was gonna be a distraction regardless. My brother tried calling me some hours after the wedding but I didn't pick up. After that him and his wife came by a couple of times after but I kept telling them that I didn't want to speak to either of them and I asked them to leave me alone.
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  • 02
    AITAH for not forgiving my brother for uninviting me from his wedding?
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  • 03
    I'm in a wheelchair. My (17M) leg got amputated 3 months ago. I have not been feeling the best and I felt worse when I got uninvited from my brothers wedding because my brother and his new wife basically told me that I would be a distraction and take the attention off of them. They didn't say distraction..but they definitely Implied it.
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  • 04
    My parents were upset about this as well and were even planning on staying with me but I told them it was okay to go. I did cry while they were at the wedding because I felt excluded and while that was happening I felt that I didn't really want to be bothered with my brother and his wife anymore.
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    When my parents came home they were telling me that people were asking about and asking where I was so I guess I was gonna be a distraction regardless. My brother tried calling me some hours after the wedding but I didn't pick up. After that him and his wife came by a couple of times after but I kept telling them that I didn't want to speak to either of them and I asked them to leave me alone.
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  • 06
    I've been trying to ignore them and they've been making it very difficult for me to do that so I had to block them and I know my parents are upset by this but they said that they don't agree with what my brother did and even told him and his wife not to come over for some time. My grandma and uncle have both called me on my brothers behalf telling me that he's hurt I'm not
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  • 07
    speaking to him and he wants to "make things right." He's planning on leaving on his honeymoon soon and invited me to go out and take me where ever I want so he could apologize because he didn't intend to hurt me. It was basically the same thing he said to me in person but he's just now getting other people to say it too because he sent the same things to our parents as well.
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    The thing is he did hurt me tho and I don't want to go anywhere with him. I don't even like going out now that I'm in a wheelchair because I feel like people stare at me and it's embarrassing and I'm just hoping it gets. better when I get my prosthetic. My family knows I don't like going out as it is but I was willing to do that for my brother because I really wanted to go to my brothers wedding and to be
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  • 09
    excluded like that hurt. I was told to go because my brother feels really guilty and they told me that everyone's still adjusting and he did not mean anyharm because he would never intentionally hurt me. But I don't know why they keep saying that because whether he meant it like that or not that's how I took it. My parents are upset at my grandma and uncle for telling me that but told me that I should still consider the offer.
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    If I refuse to go would I be wrong? I'm not sure how many people think what I'm doing is wrong because no body else has been saying anything about it. Only my uncle and grandma have been vocal about it and I don't want people talking about me behind my back because they were originally upset when I got uninvited.
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    • FaryRochester · 10 hr. ago what in the actual h I?! your brother is a huge AH. who doesn't invite their own brother to their wedding because he is in a wheelchair? specially since this only happened to you 3 months ago! how else were you supposed to take this? I'm so angry just reading that he said he didn't mean to "intentionally hurt" you. how much more intentionally can you hurt someone?!
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    I'm actually fuming here and baffled by your entire family's response. first of all, I know you said you told your parents to go to the wedding but they really shouldn't have. that's thme giving the ok to your brother aeful treatment of you! and not only thta, your uncle and grandma are taking your brother's side and saying YOU hurt him by not answering his calls. this is absolute madness! I'm so sorry your family s ks and is treating you this way.
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  • 13
    you deserve better. don't call him or let him "make things right". let him stew in his own guilt and hopefully it ruins his honeymoon. he should feel guilty and ashamed for what he did. you family should make him feel ashamed instead of trying to get you to forgive him for his absolute UNFORGIVABLE act.
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  • 14
    obviously, NTA. you brother sure is the biggest AH I've come across on this sub in a long time.
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    Foolish-Pleasure99 · 9 hr. ago . I'm totally behind this comment. You can't, with a straight face, pull of this insane snub and after the fact (when the "shame" of his brother is no longet on display) come back and tey to make this right.
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    Short of getting an annulment and having a do over wedding, I say make them stew on this for the next 5 years. Let the whole family take side and crash and burn if they want -- this is all on them and they need to wallow in some shame.
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    I can't imagine making that choice and executing it and waking up the next day going about their lives.
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    • DivineGreekGoddess 9 hr. ago · edited 9 hr. ago NTA! . I am going to be honest with you. Your brother is the lowest of the f g low and an AH. He is YOUR brother...he should have been the one telling that vapid poor excuse of a wife that you are his brother and he could not think of having a wedding without you present.
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    The fact that HE too thought that you would be distraction is what makes him even lower than the lowest t d on the sidewalk baking in the sun. Family supports each other, sticks by each other, stands up for each other and does not exclude each other.
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    He is no brother of yours...he proved that with his p s poor behavior. You don't owe him st. You don't owe him your forgiveness until YOU are ready to give it You don't owe him your time until YOU are ready to make time for a peasant like him.
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    The only thing YOU need to do is what feels right for you. You know the saying: opinions are just like a S...everyone has one! Right now your brother is the biggest a Edit to add: you can tell your brother and SIL on my behalf to go choke on a bag of d S
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    CountessMo⚫ 7 hr. ago I wish OP or someone else would see this thread and send it to the AH brother. There is NO excuse for what he did, none. I'm sure he feels guilty, but that's for him to deal with, not for OP to absolve him. I sign on whole-heartedly with the choking on a bag of d s sentiment!!! EDIT: for autocorrect typo that changed the whole meaning of a sentence!
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