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Woman Is Kicked Out of Her Sister's House In Time of Need, Roles Are Reversed and Woman Refuses to Help When Sister Comes Crawling Back

"I did my best to follow her rules, but she would still find reasons to complain and criticize me."

Posted by Lana DeGaetano
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  • When we are in a time of desperate need, we always hope we have our family to fall back on. That's what family's for; when you are in trouble, short on cash, or simply need a bed to crash on for some amount of time, they should be there to accommodate you within reason. It's difficult to find the right way to ask them for help, and some people aren't always willing to wear their heart on their sleeve and admit they're in a bind. Yet, in a perfect world, we want to believe that our slip-ups won't be held against us. Everyone needs a little help sometimes, after all. The lines get blurred when you're offered help, but it's clear your family doesn't desire to give it to you.

    The woman in this story was in a financial bind after losing her job, on top of having just ended a relationship with her boyfriend. Since emotional trauma and financial struggles don't mix quite well, the woman's sister offered that she could stay with her for a while. Things started fine, but over the course of the woman's stay, the sister started implementing strict curfews, as-quiet-as-a-mouse noise levels, etc. Despite offering her housing, it was clear the sister was trying to make the woman's life uncomfortable. On one fateful night, the sister feud comes to a head. The woman got home after curfew because her bus was late, and the sister kicked her out in a heated moment. Fast forward, the roles are now reversed and the woman does not want to help her sister. Their family is divided, but the woman makes a great point. Why help the sister if she kicked her out in her time of need? Scroll to read the rest of the story and others in the comments defending the woman.

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  • 1
    AITA for refusing to help my sister after she kicked me out?
    Via xotoneto
  • 2
    So, I (21F) have a sister (27F) who has always had a bit of a rocky relationship with me. About six months ago, I was going through a tough time financially and emotionally after losing my job and breaking up with my boyfriend. My sister offered to let me stay with her until I got back on my feet. I was incredibly grateful and moved in with her.
    Via xotoneto
  • 3
    Things were fine at first, but then she started setting really strict rules that made me feel like a prisoner in her home. No guests, no music, curfew by 8 (!) PM, etc. I did my best to follow her rules, but she would still find reasons to complain and criticize me.
    Via xotoneto
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  • 4
    One night, I came home an hour late because my bus got delayed, and she completely lost it. She accused me of being irresponsible and disrespectful, and in the heat of the argument, she told me to pack my things and leave. I had no choice but to move out that night and crash on a friend's couch.
    Via xotoneto
  • 5
    Fast forward to now, I've managed to get a new job and a small apartment. Meanwhile, my sister has lost her job and is struggling to pay her rent. She called me a few days ago, asking if she could stay with me for a while. I told her no, explaining that I couldn't forget how she treated me when I needed help. She got really upset and said I was being petty and holding a grudge.
    Via xotoneto
  • 6
    Our parents are divided on the issue. My mom thinks I should help her because "family is family," but my dad says it's my choice and understands why I don't want to. Some of my friends also think I'm being too harsh, while others agree with me.
    Via xotoneto
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  • 7
    So, am I the for refusing to help my sister after she kicked me out?
    Via xotoneto
  • 8
    catskilkid 1 day ago Professor Emerit [72] ΝΤΑ Your sister did help out at first, but really went illogical and control crazy and kicked you out. You moved on and landed on your feet. Your sister now has problem and can't get her way and her solution is calling mommy. Where was your mother in supporting you under her harsh rules? If family is family, then your mother is showing her true
    Via catskilkid
  • 9
    colors. Your sister can't seem to see the irony of this, and won't for some time. But after her treatment of you, you are NTA and have every right to deny her the assistance that she denied you.
    Via catskilkid
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    leginnameloc 21 hr. ago 100, When you've been wronged, It's almost always the case that anyone saying that you're being petty and holding a grudge or that "family is family", are the offenders or their enablers.
    Via leginnameloc
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    Broken_Motor · 20 hr. ago Agree with this, NTA, clearly a favor needs to be a favor what the sister did was not that. Her help ended up causing more harm then help. Right now I think I would be more willing to let a stranger stay for a bit then this sister.
    Via Broken_Motor
  • 12
    But I think in terms of the mother at least, she may have been equally harsh on the sister when OP was kicked out. Said "family is family, you shouldn't kick her out" and gave a disapproving stare when she did. Though I don't think that matters, she is NTA for not helping her sister that was not nice to her regardless.
    Via Broken_Motor
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  • 13
    Nonna_C 20 hr. ago I would like to know where mom lives. I am guessing it is too far away, since OP had to crash at a friend's house. But I see nothing about how mom felt about older sister's behavior unless I missed it. Can't assume mom's response - she just likes throwing out the family
    Via Nonna_C
  • 14
    is family guilt meme. Maybe OP can giv a bit of financial support to big sis, but never under any circumstances should that woman be alowed into OP's apartment. Big sis has some emotional baggage and needs to be kept at arm's length. Maybe mom should step up to help big sis: after all "family is family".
    Via Nonna_C
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    Broken Motor · 20 hr. ago Agree on all fronts. Under no circumstances should OP cave. I can only imagine how unpleasant it would be to stay with someone like this for any period of time, one should not enter that arrangement voluntarily.
    Via Broken_Motor
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    blarryg 18 hr. ago I'd just do a repeat of what she did to you. She comes into your apartment for as many days as she let you stay. She cannot bring friends etc and has an 8PM curfew. Actually, you can let her stay one extra day or have an 8:30PM cerfew just to show that you are the bigger person.
    Via blarryg
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    Vegetable-Cod-2340. 22 hr. ago It's always interesting how parents interpret 'family is family' weird that they forget about that rule when it affects certain children.
    Via Vegetable-Cod-2340
  • 18
    DRTVL 19 hr. ago But "family is family" Mom won't help her kids? Obviously not considering they didn't help OP and now expect OP to help sister. Pure hypocrisy.
    Via DRTvL
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  • 19
    extinct_diplodocus · 23 hr. ago Prime Minis [530] NTA. What was in it for her when she helped you was a chance to exercise arbitrary power and control over you. She then threw you out with no notice the first time you broke one of her whimsical rules.
    Via extinct_diplodocus
  • 20
    Since you have no urge to make crazy rules and hold her to them, there's nothing in it for you to house someone who treated you so bad when she had the chance.
    Via extinct_diplodocus

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