Woman Fed Up With Her Lazy Husband After He Forgot Her Birthday Two Years in a Row, Leading to Potential Divorce

Advertisement
  • 01
    TWO HOT TAKE r/TwoHotTakes • 2 days EducatorGrouchy4625 AITA: My husband has ruined my birthday 2 years in a row and this was the last straw in our marriage.
  • 02
    My husband (29) and I (32) have been married for 8 years now. We have 4 boys ages 4 and under so our life is extremely busy. I am a stay at home mom who babysits other children for money, is in school full time. My husband works 7-1 Monday-Friday and does nothing to help around the house and spends little to no
  • 03
    time with our boys. I take care of our boys, the house and everything in between while in school so my down time is little to none. Well last year my husband completely forgot my birthday and I had to tell him at 3pm he forgot my birthday and I got a pity dinner that was because the kids were just
  • 04
    screaming the whole time while he sat there and enjoyed his meal and left me to the meas. Well today is my birthday and all I asked for was a break. I didn't even want to go out to dinner because then I knew it was gonna just be me trying to keep them chill and quiet while out. So instead I asked for a break and to
  • 05
    order in dinner so I had literally nothing to do. Well he gets off work, comes home and just goes to sleep. Left me to deal with the kids, on top of I still had to do our budget just to see if we could afford dinner to grab food. I ended up just making the boys dinner and that's it. So he then calls me petty and a child
  • 06
    because I didn't make him food. Inalso refuse to talk to him and im done giving in to talking it out because he is never wrong. Our marriage is already with infidelity, he belittles me and the way he treats me is honestly terrible, but I'm trying to at least stick it out until I have a degree and can support my boys but I
  • 07
    don't know how much longer I can take anymore being treated this way. But AITA for making this being the last straw?
  • 08
    Vox_Mortem • 2d ago You don't have 4 kids, you have 5. The oldest one is just an entitled man-baby. He is completely selfish and has no respect for you at all. Think about it like this; if he was gone would you have more work around the house, or less?
  • 09
    If the answer is less, then you don't have a partner. I'm sorry.
  • 10
    Away-Understandi... • 2d ago Do yourself a favor and consult an attorney. He is not going to change and clearly doesn't love/respect you. An attorney can give you information on what your options are.
  • 11
    Loisalene 2d ago nta (and this is inelegant but) You can only eat so much before you puke. Sounds like puking time to me.
  • 12
    redheadedjapanese • 2d ago I love how you make this post all about your birthday(s) and then casually throw in infidelity like it's an afterthought...
  • 13
    Feeling-External-2... 2d ago No, NTA. Should have done it a bunch of straws ago.
  • 14
    United-Manner20 • 2d ago You already know what you need to do. He does not value you nor he love you or put the effort in like you do. You are doing absolutely everything on your own so you might as well be a single parent. I would find an attorney file for divorce
  • 15
    and figure out if you were going to be moving or asking him to vacate the property. You deserve happiness, and your boys deserve happiness. Happy birthday by the way. Hopefully the next one is much better than the past two.
  • 16
    thedehr 2d ago How the • do you afford 4 kids when your husband works a whopping 4 hours a day and you're a SAHM? Dude should be working 60- 70 a week, not 20.
  • 17
    IrishCaz •2d ago Sweetheart you deserve soo much better, I'm not going to dive into your issues (personally I'd be divorcing and laughing at him figuring out how he can just ignore his family and catch his zzzzs when custody is 50/50) but you deserve way more
  • 18
    than you are being given! Happy birthday, pass the kids onto him for a few hours (if that is possible or get a babysitter) and take the time to figure out your life moving forward and if this is what you want for next 20 years
  • 19
    Chickenman70806 • 2d ago Man, husband and father here. I'm so very sorry you are saddled with that fifth child. Good luck in your divorce.

Tags

Scroll Down For The Next Article