Woman Demotes Friend as Maid of Honor After She Makes a Pass at Fiance, Causing a Rift in Their Friendship

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    r/AITAH 11 hr. ago • Adorable_Positive 956 AITA for Not Inviting My Best Friend to My Wedding After She Made a Pass at My Fiancé?
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    I (F25) have been best friends with Claire (F26) since high school. We've been through everything together-breakups, family dramas, and countless life changes. Claire was even there when I met my fiancé, Tom (M27), two years ago. She was thrilled
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    for me and supported our relationship from the start.
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    Tom proposed to me six months ago, and I was over the moon. I immediately asked Claire to be my maid of honor, and she accepted with enthusiasm. Everything seemed perfect until a month ago.
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    Tom and I hosted an engagement party at our place, inviting close friends and family. Claire, being my best friend, was there early to help with preparations. As the night went on and people started drinking, I noticed Claire getting unusually close to Tom. At first, I brushed it off as friendly banter,
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    but then I overheard something that made my heart drop.
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    While I was in the kitchen, I heard Claire say to Tom, "You know, if things were different, you and I would have made a great couple." Tom, visibly uncomfortable, tried to laugh it off and change the subject. But Claire persisted, touching his arm and saying, "I'm just saying,
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    and saying, "I'm just saying, you're quite a catch."
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    I was shocked and hurt. This was my best friend hitting on my fiancé at our engagement party. I confronted Claire later that night, and she dismissed it as a joke, claiming she was drunk and didn't mean anything by it. Tom apologized, saying he didn't want to make a scene and didn't think
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    to make a scene and didn't think she was serious.
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    However, this incident planted a seed of doubt and betrayal in me. Over the next few weeks, I noticed Claire being more flirtatious with Tom, always under the guise of joking. I tried to talk to her about it again, but she would laugh it off or get
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    defensive, accusing me of being paranoid and insecure.
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    I made the difficult decision to not have Claire as my maid of honor. I couldn't shake off the feeling of betrayal and the fear that she might do something inappropriate at the wedding. I told Claire my decision, and she exploded, calling me irrational
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    and accusing me of ruining our friendship over nothing. My parents and some friends think I'm overreacting, saying Claire was just joking and I should let it go.
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    Now, the wedding is approaching, and I haven't invited Claire. The guilt and doubt are eating me up. Did I overreact? Should I have given her another chance?
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    AITA for not inviting my best friend to my wedding after she made a pass at my fiancé?
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    No-Feature-8104 • 11h ago Soo.. say she was messing around the first time or she was drunk and said something she didn't mean... you conveyed to her you had an issue with her behavior and it made you
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    uncomfortable... a good friend should listen and respect your boundaries, not laugh them off and tell you you're being insecure. I think her response to your sharing your feelings and boundaries is telling.
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    GothicOtaku25 11h ago You should tell her jokes are meant to be funny and have her explain where the humor in this is. AND you can tell her she and your family can explain how "jokingly" flirting with and
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    touching your best friend's fiance is in any way appropriate much less doing it repeatedly. Tell your family to put themselves in your shoes and how they would react to watching this happen and how they would respond. NTA
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    Apprehensive-Ca... • 11h ago NTA There is no "joking", she is trying to hook up with your fiance. Going no contact is appropriate.

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