'Don't change the will, change the fiancé': Pregnant Woman Changes Her Will After Fiancé Secretly Tests Her Allergy Because It Was Inconvenient for Him

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    r/AmlOverreacting ⚫ 18 hr. ago Blumendieb AIO My fiancé used a laundry detergent I might be allergic against, so I changed my will
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    My fiancé and I recently bought a house together, we got basic things from his family, as house warming gifts. His grandmother gifted us a huge package of laundry detergent. Now here is where the problem starts: I am
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    and I used to be highly allergic against most laundry detergents. I am not talking about some uncomfortable itchieness or whatever, but vomiting, diarrhea, losing my eyesight temporarily and at the end my consciousness. I have been hospitalized for this multiple times already.
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    We are using 2 brands, I am not allergic against. He keeps complaining, that they don't smell that good. Which might be true, they aren't really fragrant and I know he used to drown his clothes in fabric softener, to make them smell nice.
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    I offered to slowly start trying new laundry detergents, because he keeps complaining and those two aren't easily accessible in his home country, but definitely not in the foreseeable future, as I am 8 months pregnant and very afraid of the possible consequences. (We still have more than enough, of the safe ones.)
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    He agreed and I thought the topic was done, but then his brother gifted us babyclothes, my fiancé kept commenting how good they smelled and how badly he wants our clothes to smell like this. I sorted through them and after I was around halfway done, I noticed, that I felt kinda off, my hands.
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    felt weird, my body felt wrong, so I washed every bodypart that touched those clothes and refused to touch them without gloves. (My fiancé bought them for me!!!) So he definitely knows, that I am still allergic against some detergents.
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    Well, he still decided to use the gifted laundry detergent on our towels, I didn't notice until I started folding them and putting them away. My hands started to get hot and kind of numb/itchy. At first I was afraid that I am now allergic against one of the safe
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    ones, until I noticed the gifted one was opened and kind of shoved into a corner. Our other two are also opened and readily available, I just don't get it. I texted him and asked, if he used the gifted laundry detergent for anything.
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    He said "yes, what's the big deal?" | told him that that's not funny and he is potentially playing with the life of our unborn son and mine and why he thought, that now of all times, is the right time to test my allergy again. He called me a drama queen and ignored
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    me after. So I changed my will. My fiancé gets nothing now, neither my part of the house nor my other assets. Everything goes to my son, with my family as trustees, until he is of age. If something were to happen to both my son and me, my cousins will be the sole
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    inheritors. My fiancé was originally meant to be the trustee, with different guidelines, to make my sons life and his pretty comfortable. I trashed the old will, sent the new version to my lawyer, to make him look over it and plan to get it to a notary as soon as possible.
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    • Maleficent_Virus_556 2d ago Girl what's the matter with you. The answer isn't to stick around and plan for your own death. You leave that relationship and get away from him before he kills you and your baby. Don't you have any survival instincts
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    . • Beneficial_Bat_5656 2d ago Edited 2d ago OP. Is the bar so low that you would put yourself in danger because it is an inconvenience to fiance? My mother is highly allergic to certain fragrences in detergents. My father didn't. know / frogot when he picked one up. Used it, she had bad reaction. He felt bad and gave the detergent away then went and got something she wasn't allergic to.
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    His response was to fix it so his wife was not hurting. Yours is treating you as an inconvenience for as something as little as laundry soap. Fiance won't put in the effort to not do something that hurts you. Does grandma know you are allergic?
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    Go-Mellistic • 2d ago Wait, what? Help me understand your thinking here. Your fiancé is purposely triggering your allergic reactions, while you are pregnant. You asked him about it and he called you dramatic and is now ignoring you. Your response is to change your will.
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    Vicious_Lilliputian •2d ago I sympathize with you. I'm allergic to most laundry detergents. I break out in horrible hives and itch all over. Just throw out the offending laundry detergents, rewash the baby's clothes and tell him if he brings this poison into your house again, you will consider it a threat against your life and you will force him to leave.
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    enkilekee • 2d ago Please do not marry someone trying to make you ill. He may be malicious, or he may be stupid. Either way, he is not right. Good thing kids get intelligence from their mothers.
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    VariationOk9359 • 2d ago eff changing the will. change the fiancé
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    eccatameccata • 2d ago I am very allergic to Febreze. I have a hard time breathing and get headaches when I am around it. My family loves the smell of Febreze. When they found out that it causes me discomfort, everyone switched detergents to "free and clear" detergents. My daughter-in-law's parents even are careful to not wear clothes with tide/febreze when I am around. I am so grateful that my health comes before their love of scents. I would consider your marriage.
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    "He called me a drama queen... so I changed my will"

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