Wife Sends Entitled In-Laws to Hotel After They Crash Vacation and Expect to Stay in Couple's 1-Bedroom Rental With 6 Adults and 4 Kids: 'They had no plans'

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Isabella Penn
Aug 20, 2024 6:00 AM EDT

Imagine that the time for your beach vacation has finally arrived. You booked your trip months in advance, spent hours on planning, saved up the funds, and spent most of your PTO. Just you, your partner, and your kids relaxing on a beach (well, if you have kids, you know you can never relax, but you get what we mean). You're relaxing on the beach when suddenly, you notice your in-laws walking towards you, yelling, 'SURPRISE.' How are you reacting?

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  • This woman actually took it pretty well, in our opinion. She even said it was a 'nice surprise.' But those pleasant feelings quickly dispersed when she learned that they had absolutely no plans when they got there. No place to stay, no food, nothing. 

    Even after discovering that their family was staying in a small, one-bedroom and one-bathroom rental, which is already a tight squeeze for a family of five, the entitled in-laws declared they were staying with them, much to the wife's dismay. She tried to convince her husband that this couldn't possibly work out, but he pushed back on the fact that their family so they could stay. 

    Let's just say that didn't go over too well. 

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    AITA for making my in-laws stay in a hotel after they surprised us on our family vacation?
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    I (37F) took a beach vacation with my husband(40M) & our 3 kids(4, 2, 3mo). We also invited his sister, husband & 2 kids (4, 3) as we had a detached bedroom from the main house and we genuinely like hanging out with them. I told her we wanted to
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    keep it small this year since we have a new baby, I'm pretty fresh postpartum and I didn't want it to be too stressful While we were at the beach we see my MIL, FIL, stepson (20) & his GF pull up. This is a 3hr drive from where we live. They came to
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    surprise us at the beach since we haven't seen my SS in 2 months. My SIL said they've been planning this for weeks & she gave them the mile marker. This was a cool surprise, but afterwards they expected to stay with us in our 1bd/1ba rental house with no real doors (only sliding doors). They
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    had no plans for lodging or eating, so we got to work to make dinner which was fine. because I had packed extra food. Due to space constraints, I put the baby down for a nap in the restroom (we had 2 pack-and- plays in there). When I went back to check
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    on him a little later, my SS & his GF were in the transparent glass shower together steps away from my 3mo old baby I went back to the kitchen and told SIL they cannot stay with us. My husband told them they could because he is out of touch with what that would actually mean (6 adults, 2
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    toddlers sharing one RR where 2 babies are sleeping). I told her what I just saw with SS and GF in the shower, again reminding her it's too many people going in and out of the RR with 2 kids asleep in there. She understood and started looking up hotels
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    My SS's GF was already scoping out the couch and she could have slept there but after wrestling 2 babies to sleep in the RR and my 4yo to sleep in the actual bed, the couch was the only place I could sit & have a glass of wine at the end of the night in peace
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    After getting a hotel room, they stayed at the beach house until midnight playing poker on the patio and shouting. My husband asked his dad to please be quiet since the kids were sleeping and FIL loudly shouted "shut up" and kept playing
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    This has since caused major conflict with my husband as he believes we should have just let 4 additional people stay since "they are family". We paid for half the hotel room. and my SIL paid the other half For context, we have been to the beach one other time with my SIL (last year) but
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    have never been with my MIL and FIL. My SS has been gone for 2 months but will be in town the next 3 weeks, so it's not like we wouldn't have seen him the next day when we returned. I understand they wanted this to be a fun surprise, but no one considered
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    how this would impact us as a family traveling with 3 small children in a relatively small beach house. AITA for making my in-laws stay in a hotel after they surprised us on our family vacation?
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    . Unhappy-Prune-9914 13h ago Aficionado [13] NTA - No way, this is so and really stressful. You need to put an end to all this now. My aunt, uncle, and cousins did this to my parents for years - they would show up with their family of 5 for Thanksgiving as a surprise and my mom would scramble to
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    get extra food - american for the cousins. and our ethnic food for the parents. It was a nightmare but they never said anything bc it was awkward and it went on for 30 years. Say no now or all your future vacations will be ruined.
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    bythebrook88 • 13h ago Enthusiast [8] My SIL said they've been planning this for weeks & she gave them the mile marker. SIL invited them, they can stay with her family in the detached bedroom. 8 people should fit fine!
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    . embopbopbopdoowop 13h ago Professor Emeritass [73] ΝΤΑ of them and 1 of the SIL to have planned it/okayed it without thinking through the logistics. I wouldn't be planning any more combined holidays with SIL.
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    And of husband to think it was no big deal. Suggests that you're the primary kid- wrangler and this didn't really affect him as much, which makes it worse. (Correct me if I'm wrong and I'll update.)
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    Substantial-Air3395 • 13h ago I would book myself a hotel and you have a husband problem.
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    • RB1327 13h ago Your conflict is with your husband as much as your SIL or your in-laws. He said they could stay even after you said otherwise. Are you certain he wasn't at all aware that this little "surprise" was in the works? NTA on the pop-in/hotel question. But you and your spouse need to get on the same page.
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    PuddyTatTat • 13h ago Wow. SIL is a piece of work. She orchestrated this like a maestro. Do you know why she doesn't like you?
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    GirlDad2023 • 12h ago . Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] I asked my wife WWYD in this situation? She said she would tell the husbands family to go to a hotel or she would be driving. home with the children leaving him with the IL's. They ruined your vacation, your husband owes you big time. NTA.
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    Ornery-Process • 13h ago Partassipant [4] NTA- that is not a nice surprise, it's an ambush. It sounds like your husband's family has no boundaries and your husband has no spine. Your SS also needs to learn some manners. Why were he and GF using the bathroom that the kids were napping in? They should have used the one in SIL's room. Honestly, I'd have seriously contemplated packing up the kids and
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    either getting myself a hotel room or going home and telling hubby to have a nice time with his family cuz he clearly only cares about himself and their feelings. Not to mention it's a fire and safety hazard to put that many adults in such a small room. I can't believe any hotel or vacation rental would allow it.
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    . Wowseancody 13h ago. People this inconsiderate will only learn boundaries if you give them a taste of their own medicine. Next time your in-laws plan a get-together, surprise THEM with uninvited guests who a) can be trusted to keep it a surprise (lol) and b) they'd be too embarrassed to kick out. And when they start to complain about how inconsiderate this all is, give them your best fake smile and say "buT thEY'Re fAMIly". :)
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    CrankyWife 12h ago • Certified Proctologist [25] As soon as hubby had contradicted me in front of his parents, I would have taken the baby and gone to a hotel. Leave the husband to figure out how to handle the two oldest children, and the unexpected guests. He is only able to "they're just family" excuse because he knows you will step up and take care of the logistics. Let him stew in the mess he is happy to make.
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    No-Abies-1232 • 13h ago NTA but you have a husband problem. No more vacations with ANY in-laws and you should have told the step son and his GF to leave immediately. They are so disrespectful! So after your husband was told to "shut-up" In his own accommodation by a freeloading AH, he thinks you all should have let them stay? No. They would be banned from the rest of the vacation and I would have been having some words with your husband.
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