Woman Realizes She Was Led On For Years After Her Husband Drunkenly Confesses That He Has Been in Love with His Best Friend Throughout The Whole Marriage

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    r/Marriage u/livlaughluv36.10d My husband confessed to me that he's in love with his best friend while he was drunk
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    I (F) 22 have been married for 2 year to my husband who's 23. We got married pretty young but he was my first love and we dated for 3 years before that. I thought I was also the love of his life
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    I've always known about his best friend who I will call Paulina. They have been best friends since they were 3 and I honestly saw nothing wrong with it since it was a childhood friendship and neither of them had ever tried to make a move. They were so different from each other Paulina is religious, shy, and a homebody. He is the total opposite of her. I know they never got intimate because i've known her before my husband and I dated and she had always stated she was waiting for marriage.
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    Paulina and my husband work out together daily and it has always been like this since we were dating. They also hang out alone sometimes but most of the times I tag along now that we are married. Before we were married he would sleep over at her house. I don't know if i'm just young and gullible and don't see the problem but I never thought anything to wrong.
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    Whenever he was a problem Paulina is the first her calls or when he has good news. This has kind of bugged me. When he talks to her on the phone the smile does not fade off his face and he talks to her with so much love kind of like a father daughter or so I thought. There's so much more to this story but it would he to long.
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    Last night my husband came home drunk and I was already asleep. I think he was also crying as his eyes were red. I asked why he was drunk and he told me that Paulina started seeing some new guy after years of not dating. I asked why he was upset and he responded "In case you haven't been able to tell in these last few years I am in love with her." My heart broke.
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    This morning I woke up and my husband had left already and he didn't come home today. I haven't texted him and he hasn't texted me I really don't know what to do. Should I seek couples therapy? I don't want to divorce him I really love him but i'm not sure if he will be divorcing me. Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/ bml2HSvoyN 803 ☐ 459 D
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    Commercial-Net810 • 10d You can't force someone to love you....and you should NEVER be someone's 2nd choice. You are very young. Find someone who wants you....ONLY YOU. ... Reply 1.9k
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    annod75 10d • This is the right answer. You may be in love with him, but he's not in love with you. He didn't come home after his confession it's time to walk away. 427
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    stuckinnowhereville • 10d I'm sorry. This is not fixable. He wants her not you. Even if you both stay married you will always be second. Honestly that's NOT FAIR to you. 263
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    Jealous-Ad-5146 • 10d Don't even be someone's second. I'm sorry. It's time to go. Reply 119
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    onetrickpony4u • 10d You're not his first choice and no amount of counseling will change that. Love him all you want but he's in love with another. ← Reply 218
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    r/Marriage u/livlaughluv36.5d Update on my husband drunkenly confessing he's in love with his best friend
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    [Update] My husband who will soon be ex husband and I spoke a few days after the incident. I have decided to get a divorce. When I asked him for a divorce he didn't hesitate just said it would be for the best. I asked why he married me and he said he didn't know and it was something he wanted to back out of after proposing but he didn't. He apologized to me and told me that one day I will find a man who truly loves me. He told me he's been in love with Paulina since high school but she never got
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    Paulina to meet up in person and she agreed. I then explained everything and she told me she always felt deep inside that he had feelings for her but she ignored it because she thought she was crazy. My husband is also staying with her for now. She said she can't loose him because he's like her brother. But she doesn't know what will happen from here with them. Is it weird that I have a feeling that they will probably end up dating? Thank you to everyone checking up on me. I have far too many re
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    Immediate-Ad6888 • 5d I'm sorry your going through this. You made a good choice for your health. And now you can heal and I think u should get therapy and not date for a while. Reply 365
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    livlaughluv36 OP. 5d Thank you! I don't plan on dating for a long time and will hopefully be going to my home country for a few months. ... 186
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    Dear_Parsnip_6802.5d He's wasted years of your life because he was a coward. You deserve so much better. ← Reply 92 ↓
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    AlternativePrior9559 • 5d My heart goes out to you OP it really does. Your soon to be ex husband is such a coward he really is. He could have saved you from so much of this by being honest a long time ago. Yes it would have hurt but it would have meant you didn't have the marriage with all the hope that brings and now the divorce.
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    Make him pay OP. He has wasted your time and emotionally drained you. I have a feeling his relationship with her will implode. Just a feeling. Try and get some counselling OP and make him pay for it. He's right though. One fine day you will meet someone who adores you. Then this AH will just be a distant memory. Take care Reply 117
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    ChubbMuff • 4d One day you will realise they deserve each other, and you deserve neither of them. You will be OK. Reply 15 До в

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