Husband admonished for telling wife and new mother of 3-month-old baby that she must return to work: 'She needs to work full-time'

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    AITA for telling my wife she has to work more? Am I the for telling my wife she can't be a stay at home mom or work just part time in order for us to not move in with her parents because we can't afford a mortgage and our standard cost of living I'm working 40 hours a week plus OT when I can while going to night school she says she doesn't want to work because she doesn't want someone else to watch our child and
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    that she wants to be with him. If this is where she wants to hold strong I'm contemplating divorce am I the ? PS my son is 3 months old and her parents are retired and her mother has offered to watch him while we're at work
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a e: ○e: I told my wife she needs to work full time in order for us not to move in with her parents. I may look like the able becuase I'm expecting too much of a new mother
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    • Dazzling-Disaster-28 21 hr. ago YTA. This baby is about 8 weeks old if previous posts are right. Weeks. She is not even fully recovered from pregnancy and child birth. You should have planned this out and come up with a plan well before she gave birth. But it is entirely reasonable for her to not be ready to return to work so early. Also quality infant care is certainly expensive, well over $2000 a month in my area. Would she actually be bringing in a positive cash flow after commuting and ext
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    tralfamadoriest 1 day ago . edited 1 day ago • There's not enough info here. How old is your kid? How much is daycare? How much income can your wife make (as in, more than daycare costs)? Also, divorce is expensive. If this is your only issue (a big one, I know), you need to have a lot more conversations first.
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    Edit: a lot of people don't seem to understand how expensive daycare can be. Infant daycare can be as much or more than a mortgage each month. Some people end up as STAHPS because their income doesn't cover daycare + enough to make sense. It's not always some luxury. Edit 2: baby is 3 months and your go-to is divorce?? Come on, man. YTA if only for that.
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    OGBrewSwayne 21 hr. ago . edited 20 hr. ago Need info: How old is your kid? Edit: Based on OP's other post, his kid is 2-3 months old. On top of that, he's entering active duty military, where additional housing and sustenance allowances will be provided, in addition to base salary. Bases also have free/low cost childcare services available. Source: am USMC retired. OP sounds like marriage and parenthood are hitting him in the face with a big time reality check and he's looking for a way out. YT
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    LHJackiO 21 hr. ago YTA-. I like how you don't mention that the "child" is literally a baby. 2 months old correct? Financially makes more sense to move back with the parents because clearly you guys are drowning. Her working vs daycare cost should put you in the positive. If it doesn't than what's the point? You expecting her parents to watch the BABY for free?
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    Best Tumbleweed6931 20 hr. ago You're considering divorce because your three months postpartum wife isn't ready to leave your three month old baby and go back to work? YTA.
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    • Reasonable Rutabaga89 1 day ago Yta, 12 weeks postpartum I am SHOCKED she's working part time. Are you so self centered you don't even realize what she's been through mentally and physically to bring your child into the world. Then with every bone in her body telling her to protect and be with that baby at its most vulnerable you tell her to leave it. Baby is safest with mom, she has instincts no grandparent will have at this stage. Did you know her heartbeat
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    still regulates the babies heartbeat? She is still the babies safe place and you want to just take that away. Aside from all that you will pay more for for daycare. Move in with her parents, reset, figure out how to live within your means, think about someone besides yourself
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    Help24-7 1 day ago YTA The baby is 2 month old?? And you are military??? Complete on your part. Your job covers housing so don't even start. You decide to not re-enlist... fine... You need to come up with a money solution by Oct 25. Instead of trying to force your post partum wife into working and NOT letting her move back in with her family
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    for support....because YOU don't want to??? Come on then YOU need to provide the money to support the lifestyle YOU want for your family then. I don't know what other details your are leaving out..but you already painted yourself in a corner by not being upfront about details.

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