Woman Purposely Schedules Her Destination Wedding on the Same Day as Her Sister’s Wedding, Splitting the Family as They Decide Which Sibling to Support

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 31, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

I am not sure if I should be proud of this or not, but my sisters are my best friends. I love my actual friends, but no one knows me as well as my two sisters, and I truly cherish them more than anyone else in my life.

I cannot imagine what I would do if one of them decided to get married on the same day as I do, and I cannot understand what would drive someone to do that to their sibling. Why would you want to split up your entire family when as they decide which wedding to attend? Why ruin your and your sister's special days? 

Those are the questions I would ask the sister in this Reddit story after she decided to schedule her destination wedding the same day her sister is getting married at home. I would also ask the rest of the family why they are indulging the sister in her childish behavior, and not immediately letting her know that are simply not going to attend.

Scroll down to read the full story as you try to think what you would do in this scenario. After you are finished, click here for a silly collection of Disney memes for magical ladies.

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    My sister knew the date and has known for a few months. One day she announced she was getting married to a man we had never heard of or met. He turned out to be decently nice. She then sent out save the date cards to a destination wedding on the same day as my wedding. She wants everyone to go to London over those days.
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    AITA for not changing my wedding date because my sister chose the same one.
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    So I(36F) grew up close to my sister(34F) but then after HS I moved over seas. I met my husband(36M) 16 years ago and have dated for 14. He turned out to be from the same area I was raised so we decided to
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    get married back home (Nevada, we currently live in New Zealand). We chose a random date that was when we could get a lot of time off. It is January 17 2025. My sister knew the
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    date and has known for a few months. One day she announced she was getting married to a man we had never heard of or met. He turned out to be decently nice. She then sent out save the date cards to
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    a destination wedding on the same day as my wedding. She wants everyone to go to London over those days. She is now very mad at me for not being able to come. And my mom is sided with me but my
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    dad is with her. The rest of my family is split sorta 50/50. How do I handle this?? Edit 1: My sister knew about the wedding date and was very excited
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    prior to sending out her own save the date cards. I sent mine out in February and she was in June. Edit 2: As far as I know my sister has not done something like this before.
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    She may have when I was not around as an adult but I don't know of anytime. Edit 3 I do not know why my dad is with my sister. They were definitely
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    closer growing up due to more similar interests. (my mom and I enjoyed going shopping and "girly" things whereas they enjoyed hunting, fishing, etc.
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    Edit 4: I have no idea why London in January! she has been in the winter and she hated it. But anytime anyone asked her they tell me if she said oh I just love the rain and the cold and the weather most people would call cŷ.
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    Edit 5: Most of my family doesn't live in NV but they are almost all in the USA so it's much closer and not international. My fiancé's family is pretty much the same way.
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    Having-hope3594 • 11h ago • Edited 11h ago Commander in Cheeks [202] NTA. You had sent out to save the date. And you are working on a wedding from very far away.
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    What I don't understand is why anyone in your family would support your sister from essentially stealing your wedding day. Info did you send out save the date cards?
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    • Crazy HorseGirl101 OP 11h ago Yes I sent out save the dates in February and she sent hers out in June. She had even told me in the mean time how excited she was and she was ready to come. 4.8K Reply ...
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    alien_overlord_1001 Professor Emeritass [89] 11h ago NTA. I can't believe anyone would be 'with her' on this - they all knew your date, and to make hers the same day but in another country? Stand your ground. Stay with your date - it was yours first - don't bend for her. If your parents support her then I guess you know where you stand in your family.
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    Crazy HorseGirl101 OP 10h ago I am doing this for the best I can 1K ☐ Reply ...
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    FuzzyMom2005 11h ago Commander in Cheeks [229] NTA. The best way to handle this is to not do anything over-the-top. Tell anyone who is invited to both. "Yes, I saw the dates are the same. You can go to her wedding or mine. No worries on my end!" I bet it would drive her crazy.
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    ghostwooman Partassipant [2] ΝΤΑ 9h ago rest of my family is split sorta 50/50 Congratulations! You just cut your catering budget by about half.
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    . CrazyHorseGirl101 OP • 9h ago That is a great response and you're not wrong
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    MustangTheLionheart 10h ago INFO: Why is your dad taking your sister's side? Like what is his reasoning? Feel like there's something missing, like sisters fiancé is in the military and can only do that date. You still wouldn't be the AH in that situation so just looking for the whole picture.
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    • CrazyHorseGirl101 OP 10h ago I haven't got a reason from my dad. My dad has always been closer with my sister (interests of the same things) while growing up but never like this.
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    childishbambina . 10h ago Info: Has your sister tried these kinds of stunts in the past? NTA. Your sister clearly purposefully chose the same date to cause some sort of drama in the family.
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    CrazyHorseGirl101 OP • 10h ago As far as I know my sister has no tried any of these before. I can sorta recollect a friend group that she was in and it broke up and I think I thought it was because of her. I don't know if that is correct. She may have done this stuff with other people in the family or friends I just don't know.
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