Woman Defends Mechanic Boyfriend After Brother-in-Law Refuses to Pay for Car Repairs, Gets Banned from Sister's House

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Isabella Penn
Sep 4, 2024 7:00 PM EDT

Car repairs can cost quite a pretty penny. Anyone unfortunate enough to have made a trip or two to a mechanic knows the fix will never be cheap. It's probably our own fault for ignoring that tiny little light on the dash and thinking that thumping sound was a problem for another day, but details aren't important. Luckily for this guy, his wife's sister's boyfriend (we promise it's less complicated than it sounds) is a mechanic. There's just one little problem: they hate each other.

So the Original Poster (OP) in this story is dating the mechanic. After he fixed her BIL's car, he asked for a really reasonable price in return. If the BIL had gone to a shop, the cost would've been nothing short of $900. Instead, he only charged him $150. A fair discount, the mechanic boyfriend thought. Well, the entitled BIL nor his wife (the OP's sister) thought being charged was reasonable. Keep reading to see how things escalated from there. 

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    r/AmltheAsshole • 1 day III_Contest8206 AITA for calling my brother in law an arrogant snob and for not respecting my boyfriend and not wanting to pay him for his work?
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    I (32f) have been with my boyfriend (34m) for almost 7 years now. My sister (34f) got married about a year ago to her longterm boyfriend (36m). Shortly after my sister got married she became pregnant with my little nephew. About 3 months after he
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    was born, BIL asked my boyfriend (who is a mechanic) to check his car. He happily agreed, ordered new parts and it took about 3 hours to do the whole service and renew everything necessary. All went fine, they had fun chatting a bit and we agreed to meet for coffee the sunday afterwards.
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    On saturday my sister called me to ask how much they owe to my boyfriend for the work. I told her I would ask and got back to them with a text saying that the total would be 150 EURO. For comparison, if BIL would have went to a car shop he would have paid around 900 EURO.
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    A few minutes later my sister calls me, telling me that this amount is ridiculous and that Klaus is fuming as he expected not to pay anything (but the parts). I'm super confused and tell her that the guys should talk directly to each other to figure this out.
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    So we hang up and me and my boyfriend have time to get super I about their behaviour. For the greater context you need to know that my BIL always made clear that he doesn't like my boyfriend. Saying mean things about this blue collar clothes,
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    family, hair style, music taste, etc.. My sister always made sure to tell me about those comments forcing me to stand between the sides, so I repeatedly ask her to stop this and accept that he is the man making me happy. Anyway, my boyfriend was willing
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    to again swallow his pride, give up on the money and to talk like a normal family when visiting them and the baby the next day. The next morning arrives and I'm texting my sister at what time we should come over. She just replied:
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    as long as this isn't sorted out we should not visit them. This is when I lost it and started to cry as I cannot understand why I'm being "punished" for this by not being allowed to see my little nephew who I love to death and
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    was looking forward to see all week. So my boyfriend called BIL in my defense telling him that this is unacceptable and that they don't have to get along but there is no need to be mean to me about this. BIL just laughed it off. Then sister calls me and I, in my anger and
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    frustration, tell her that she should know we don't care about money but it's unfair to expect everything for free because we are family when at any other occasion they don't accept us being a couple. I tell her she shouldn't have let this get between me and her and, I
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    admit it, called BIL an arrogant and snobbish Just when she started calling my live primitive I hang up and we have not spoken since. As you can imagine there is quite a back story here but that would be
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    too much for one post. So far, regarding this situation itself, AITA? UPDATE: Wow! Had no idea this post would go that far, that fast. Thank you very much for your NTA verdict and the very nice and honest
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    comments! I tried to answer as many as possible and will let you know some more details here: 1. Yes, my boyfriend has been compensated for the parts and - guess what - BIL left the money for the work in our mailbox last night! - without a word... So, sorry, no petty revenge needed right now ;-)
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    It's not our style anyway but you're ideas made me laugh and distracted me a little. 2. My mother loves my BF and feels very insecure around my sister and BIL as they are very judgemental towards her too. She however is afraid to speak up for us, as she fears my sister will not let her see
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    her only grandchild then. Who am I to blame her? It hurts very bad but what she is doing there is just soooo wrong and I will do my best to protect my mum, too. 3. I agree with some of you stating that I was a lousy girlfriend letting my family go this far and I'm super happy and grateful my wonderful
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    man still stands by my side. I'm sorry for everything that happened in the past and will stop the circle, now! 4. BIL used to be kind of a carpenter, then clay modeler and now works at an office doing something with graphic design. Everything has to be clean and tidy at all times and
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    he used to be embarrassed being seen in work clothes in public - ridiculous. 5. What will I do? I decided to go/stay NC with my sister and BIL and already notice how liberated and relieved I'm feeling. Maybe I will write a letter telling her how I feel and insist on the apology she owes us. But I don't know if it
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    will be possible to ever have a good relationship with her. The relationship with my BF however has never been better as I finally 100% realised how much I love him and that he is the one I want. I would marry him from the spot but he married young and after being divorced he doesn't want to repeat this experience. It doesn't matter. He is my family and I don't need a piece of paper saying this!
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    The next morning arrives and I'm texting my sister at what time we should come over. She just replied: as long as this isn't sorted out we should not visit them.
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