'Hugh is a bully': Teenage girl humiliates her balding brother-in-law as retaliation for constantly saying she's 'gained weight'

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    I just shrugged and said as long as he speaks about my weight, I'm gonna bring up him going bald. If he shuts up, I will too.
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    AITA for telling my brother in law he's getting bald, after he told me I'm gaining weight? I'm F16, my older sister Mia is 27 and her husband Hugh is 30.
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    Hugh is a bully, and I don't like him. He always says something about my weight, every single time. Mind you, my weight is perfect for my height and I can run a marathon. I'm way fitter than he is, but he always somehow suggests I'm gaining weight.
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    While I've learned to not let it get to me, I don't appreciate someone acting like this within the family. I've already spoken to Mia and she doesn't do anything, and my parents tell me it's be rude to tell him to not greet or show concern! And one time I
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    confronted him and he said his concern is for my health, and I told him if he has any health concerns for me he should bring it up to Mia, who would speak to me as my sister rather than a grown man who I have no bond with acting like a bully.
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    Anyway, he keeps doing it so my brother (18) suggested I bring up his hair, as he's obsessed with saving what remains of it, with little success. So I did it last night. They visited us and he told me it looks like I've gained weight. I
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    said it looks like you've lost a fair bit of hair since we last met and at this rate you're going bald before 32. He got visibly upset, went to the bathroom to look at his hair, and then told Mia and my parents that he was greatly offended.
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    I just shrugged and said as long as he speaks about my weight, I'm gonna bring up him going bald. If he shuts up, I will too.
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    While Mia thinks this is fair game, my parents think I'm being an and want me to apologise to Hugh and be the bigger person. My brother says I did well.
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    CinnamonBlue • 5h ago NTA. But I want to know why your parents think it's acceptable for a 30 year old man to bully a 16 year old child. Why is it so important that his feelings mustn't be hurt but yours are fair game?
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    BadMom2Trans • 5h ago DDDDD So HE can be offended but you can't? A grown man can be childish but a child has to be an adult?! Kudos to your brother, glad your sister thinks it's fair game, and well played ma'am! Well played!
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    deathboyuk ⚫ 5h ago You did AWESOME. Step it up. Have a barrel of hair- related puns to just slip into conversation. "You look like you've put on weight" "Yeah, maybe just a hair bald of you to - mention"
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    "Where'd that last bread roll go?" "Ah, you know, hair today, gone tomorrow" "Why are you ignoring me?" "Sorry, I didn't hair you. Maybe you should comb over here" r/traumatizeThemBack ;)
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    Turmeric Ping · 5h ago NTA. Your parents are the kind of morons who think that their children should endure any insult to ensure that they (the parents) don't I have to deal with drama. They should have told HIM to STFU long ago.
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    Chaoticgood790 • 4h ago NTA "I'm not apologizing to a grown man who feels its okay to bully a teenager. Not sure why you aren't speaking to the adult in the situation" Then ignore your parents.
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    ComprehensivePu... .5h ago NTA - Tell your parents that you'll apologize when he does and that it's incredibly disappointing that they condone an adult bullying not just a child but THEIR child.
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    thesavagekitti • 5h ago NTA, don't dish it out if you can't take it. I also think there's a certain level of social closeness yo need with someone, for it n to be rude to be talking to them about weight. E.g I might bring it up with my husband, because we're married, his health is my business, and vice versa.
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    BIL who it doesn't sound like you have a great relationship? Definitely not him who should be bringing it up. I think most sensible adults, unless they have a good relationship with the teenager, would avoid discussing weight with a teenage girl/young woman, because they understand that this is often a difficult time in terms of self esteem and changing bodies.
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    PetrogradSwe⚫ 5h ago NTA Your brother in law deserves the backlash. He started it, this may actually make him stop.
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    _Ravyn_ 5h ago BIL FAFO! Next time tell him he might as well start shaving his head because a comb over is going to look horrid on him.
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    YeeHawMiMaw • 5h ago Winston Churchill, former Prime Minister in the UK, was at a dinner party with a dear (female) friend. After he had said something objectionable, his friend looked at him and said "Winston, you are drunk". Winston, without missing a beat, replied "I may be drunk, but when I wake up in the morning, I will be sober. But you will still be ugly."
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    Weird PinkHair • 4h ago NTA next time say nothing. Just look at his hair, sigh and shake your head looking sad. Then you have the come back of you didn't say anything. Evil, yes... deserved... yeah!

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