Woman Secretly Uninvites Herself From Summer Vacation With Friends After Hearing Them Talk Behind Her Back

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    r/AITAH⚫ Sudden-Place-3934 AITAH Friend uninvited me from summer vacation, and isn't reading the situation right
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    Context, right. Back in April, my good friend (let's call him Paul) invited myself and our mutually close friend (she's Amy) to an overseas summer vacation with him and his family. All we had to do was cover our flights and expenses, he'll host us. Amy and I both agreed.
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    Upon learning I bought my tickets (June), Paul reveals to me that Amy has some kind of personal problem with me and I needed to talk to her or else the trip will be very uncomfortable (I was shocked and confused). It had been months and weeks of discussing booking flights with Amy (Paul and his family had
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    already booked), but she failed to mention any problem, not to mention we've been hanging out as a group with no issues.
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    Amy is anything but confrontational. I also come to find out she's been talking about how annoying I am to Paul, to which Paul kept urging her to talk to me. She eventually did (because I bought my tickets, she had no choice), and explained to me how she thinks I do not meet her values. When I asked if I had
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    done anything wrong so I could mend things, I was told that it's just the way she perceives me. Paul and our other friends don't have any issues with me, and think she's extremely over reacting. Anyways, Amy decided to call me a week later saying that she doesn't know what to do because on one hand she really
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    wants to go be with Paul and his family but on the other hand she can't travel with me for that long (2 weeks) because she'll have a bad time. I told her I'm not sure what she wants me to do, and i'm trying to understand the problem so we can tolerate each other (i'm embarrassed how desperate | sound). The next day Paul and it
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    hang out and I ask him for his perspective: he says he wants Amy there and it would be the best for everyone.
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    So as a result, my summer vacation is canceled. As far as my $$$$ and saved up points, I managed by the grace of God to talk to two very nice customer service agents (2 airlines) who graciously refunded my money and points minus transaction fees. The only loss is that my credit card points are now spread
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    and locked into two different airlines.
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    I didn't tell Paul or Amy this fact because I want them to live with the guilt of costing me this trip. until they meaningfully apologize. But a part of me feels bad about that lie (I told them they cost me 2k, but how it wasn't about the money). I expressed my hurt to Paul regarding his selfish decision for which he apologized (yet I
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    don't feel better?). To make things more confusing, Paul thinks we are on good terms or something because he sent me a picture of himself taking off on the first leg of the trip saying he'll "see me on the other side"??
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    Amy has not reached out and apologized for this mess, she only apologized (conveniently) when I went off about this ridiculous situation we are all in because of her unwillingness to make a decision. But she didn't have much to say back besides her feeling bad.
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    I'm very confused, do I have bad friends? I was very much looking forward to this trip considering I will be going off to graduate school for the next few years, and this was my last "free" summer for a while. Now Im using my summer to work and "prep for school".
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    Far-Cup9063 That was very odd. Amy never did say what the problem was. Then Paul chose Amy over you. These aren't very good friends. I would just fade away from them and start making new ones.
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    According Ad6364 The fact that he sent you a selfie of him leaving on the trip he cut you out of is a new level of either lack of self awareness or callousness I haven't seen in awhile.
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    Amy isn't even you friend. Paul sucks. Hopefully you find some better ones in graduate school!
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    Top-Bit85 Man, that was cold. Amy is weird, and Paul isn't much better. Your only consolation should be they will probably not have a great time. Amy doesn't sound like much fun. I hope she makes his vacation miserable!
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    JuliusXIV. Amy and Paul are and don't want a 3rd wheel.
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    sfrancisch5842 Honey... these people are not your friends. At all. I would just go no contact with them, and go on to live your best life. NTA. Paul and Amy are.

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