Woman Expected to Babysit Brother's Friends' Children for Free While On Group Vacation, Stands Her Ground Despite Raging Entitlement

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    AITA For Not Also Babysitting My Brother's Friend's Kids While On Vacation?
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    I(F21) recently went on vacation with my brother (M34), his family, friends and a few of their siblings. A lot of us grew up together so vacations like this weren't uncommon but this is the first one where everyone's kids were also
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    coming along. My brother offered to pay for my whole vacation rather than the half he usually paid if I was willing to help with the kids (M7 & F4) for a day or 2 so he and his wife, Rose, could get some alone time. I agreed since they're
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    good kids and I help out anytime I'm in the vicinity anyways as it's not uncommon for our culture. On the first night's dinner, one of my brother's friend's girlfriends, Ally, made an offhand
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    comment about my brother having a vacation nanny while she was fussing with her kid while I was talking to Rose about their plans tomorrow when she mentioned the kids just staying the night in my room so that they didn't
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    have to wake us up early to leave for their appointment. I agreed since I was watching them tonight anyways. I assume the problem started there since Ally showed up at my door after dinner trying to drop
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    her kid off. I was fine with until she told him she would be seeing him tomorrow and conversation after went like this: Me: I don't mind him being here for a few hours but he can't spend
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    the night. Her: But they're spending the night? Me: Yes. Her: So why can't he? Me: Well there's no room for him and they're my brother's kids and are used to spending the night with me. We went back and forth a
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    few times, eventually I just refused overall and apologized to the kid. I've been told a few storied and Ally is the type to just leave her kid anyways, regardless of the conversation and I didn't feel like tracking her down later.
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    While we were at the pool a few days later, I took the kids to the resort cafe for ice cream and offered to take the other kids, a few of the parents said no and some of them gave. me a weird look so I asked my friend about it. Apparently at the
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    breakfast the second day, Ally complained about what I did, and a few of them took her side. Later that night at dinner, a wife of my brother's friend asked if I could watch her kid tonight so they could go somewhere
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    and I said no, explaining that my niece and nephew were with their parents tonight so the younger siblings were all going out. She mentioned that since I was willing to take them earlier for ice cream and since they said no, I "owe" them,
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    said "it's not that big of a deal" and I "can go tomorrow instead", I just said "Sorry, I can't." and left it there. There were similar situations and eventually my brother stepped in to say that he paid for my
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    vacation which is why I took a few days to help him and that they could chip in if they wanted my help but I talked to my mom and a few of my friends and they pointed
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    out that my brother actually got to enjoy his vacation unlike the others and I could've taken or offering to take the other kids when I was watching my Niece and Nephew.
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    • Salty-Initiative-242 1d ago Certified [22] NTA the other parents could very easily have switched off watching the kids. They could have looked into local baby sitting services or drop in daycares. They could have brought their own sibling/nannies. THEIR lack of planning is not YOUR fault. You were essentially paid to watch 2 kids you know well for a few days, not multiples that you don't know for free.
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    bookishmama_76 • 1d ago . When we vacation with friends we always help each other out. One night we will watch the kids so they can go out. Then they will watch the kids for us. And then the guys will watch the kids so the girls can go out, etc.
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    NTA - your brother paid for your vacation so you watched his kids a few times. You have zero obligation to watch anyone else's kids. Especially for free. Plus it is a vacation for you! It's not just you being a nanny for the trip
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    Firm-Molasses-4913 Aficionado [10] • 1d ago NTA They went on holiday with no expectation of child care and apparently no conversations between the parents about trading off or hiring a local sitter for a few hours everyday. It wasn't your responsibility and they didn't offer to pay you only tried to add their kids to your brother's arrangement. You did nothing wrong.
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    celticmusebooks · 1d ago [1] . NTA and kudos to your brother for having your back against the entitled moochers. Shame on your mom for favoring the "moochers" over her own daughter. Does she do that
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    a lot? Was your mom on the trip? If so why didn't SHE step up and babytsit for the moochers? Also SHAME on your brother's friends for treating you like a paid employee when they didn't pay you.
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    . ComplexSevere87... • 1d ago NTA. These people sound entitled as f***. You were way nicer than I would have been. Don't feel guilty for knowing your worth and not letting people walk over you. Anyone telling you otherwise is probably the same type of entitled
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