Boyfriend insists on receiving 2/3 of woman's lottery winnings for his dog, demanding an additional $10k: 'My boyfriend is now dead serious about wanting me to give [him] "Baxter’s share" of the money'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Sep 24, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

We all get a little weird and crazy about our pets; that's part of what you sign up for when you devote a significant portion of your time, energy, and financial resources to a fluffy little ball of chaos living with you in your home. I'd argue that, in fact, the entire concept is a little bit crazy, and if you weren't already when you decided to get a furry friend, I promise you that you will soon be driven so. Still, no matter how much we consider our pets members of our families, even the most pet-obsessed among us will need to stop and acknowledge that there are points where we can't expect others to treat them like human beings. And there's definitely a line somewhere there before you reach the point of insisting that your girlfriend or boyfriend contribute a portion of their money, even a sudden unexpected windfall of cash, to a "trust fund" for your pet. Especially when doing so would mean that you're keeping two-thirds of their winnings that they were gracious enough to share with you in the first place.

That was the situation that this woman found herself facing when her boyfriend of two years began insisting that she give him an additional percentage of the cut that she had already willingly offered him so that he could set up a trust fund for his dog, resorting to emotional manipulation and extortion in order to get her to fold and give him the cash. Things escalated when she resisted, resulting in her sharing the first thread six days ago twith his online community. She has now returned to share an update on what has happened since, sharing the fate of their relationship. See the original thread first below, followed by the updated thread from item 12 onwards. 

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    AITA for refusing to share my lottery winnings with my boyfriend's dog, even though I promised? So, I (26F) won a decent amount in the lottery about $50k. Before I won, my boyfriend (29M) and I would always joke about how, if I ever hit it big, I'd "split it three ways" between me, him, and his dog, Baxter. Baxter is a golden retriever, and I love him, but I always thought it was, you know, just a joke.
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    Well, fast forward to me actually winning, and my boyfriend is now dead serious about wanting me to give "Baxter's share" of the money. He insists I promised, and that Baxter deserves $10k in a "dog trust fund" for future vet bills, toys, and "whatever he needs." I told him that's ridiculousBaxter's a dog and doesn't need a trust fund.
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    Now, my boyfriend is calling me selfish and saying I went back on my word. He says it's not about the dog, it's about me not keeping promises and that it shows I don't take our relationship seriously. (But like, seriously? Over a dog??)
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    Here's where it gets weird: I actually did buy Baxter a pretty fancy dog bed and some expensive treats with part of the winnings, but my boyfriend is saying that doesn't count because it wasn't part of the "official" $10k I supposedly promised. He even brought up going to a lawyer to set up the dog trust fund to "make it official." I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone.
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    AITA for not giving a literal dog a chunk of my lottery winnings, even though I might've jokingly promised? Or is this whole thing just absurd?
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    Left_Science... • 14h ago I would not give ANYTHING to this mf after that stupid manipulation he tried to pull to get more money from you ⚫gurl, tell him and his dog to pound sand, I beg of you
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    Character-Fo... 14h ago. Your boyfriend is using this as a way to get 2/3 of your winnings, would be my guess. Tell him no!
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    budackee_10 · 14h ago . He's weird dude. Dump him and keep 100% of your money. Let him call you whatever he wants. Ungrateful
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    Gohighsweet... . 14h ago Please please don't give your boyfriend a penny of it. Dump him and invest the money.
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    • Brave_Traditi... 14h ago • NTA - how long have you been with this guy? This is so odd and also just stinks of him being money grabbing. Dave Ramsey always says money doesn't change people it just highlights who they really are and I think that's true.....what will he be like in future. Huge red flag.
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    This was the second update thread that the author shared with the online community

    AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend after the dog trust fund argument? (Part 2 of refusing to share my lottery winnings with his dog)
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    So, after thinking it over, I (26F) finally confronted my boyfriend (29M) about this whole absurd situation with the dog trust fund. I told him straight up that while I love Baxter, giving $10k to a dog is beyond ridiculous, and I can't believe it's turned into such a major issue in our relationship.
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    His reaction? He doubled down. He kept going on about how it's "not about the money" (even though it's clearly all about the money) and that this is really about trust and me "not keeping promises." He even said that if I can't keep this "promise" (again, about a DOG), how can he trust me to keep my word on bigger things?
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    At that point, I just couldn't take it anymore. I told him that this whole situation has raised huge red flags, and after two years together, I can't believe he's acting like this. I told him flat out that we're ending our relationship because his priorities seem completely out of whack. If he's this unreasonable over something so absurd, I can't imagine dealing with more serious issues down the road.
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    Instead of reflecting on what I said, he got defensive and accused me of breaking trust. I'm honestly floored by how this has spiraled, but I feel like this breakup was inevitable with how he's been acting. AITA for ending a two year relationship over a dog trust fund, or is this as insane as it feels?
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    d . . 8h ago Edited 8h ago • Please tell me you didn't give him any of your winnings Edit** OP says she DID NOT give the bf any money. Good for her she deserves so much better! Congrats on the win as well
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    • HipsterSlime... 8h ago I ain't saying he's a gold digger....
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    hotxlena • 8h ago. If he's prioritizing a dog trust fund over your relationship, that's a pretty massive red flag. Breaking up over this just shows you're not willing to waste time on someone whose values are so off. Trust your instincts-this isn't just about the dog. NTA
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    delinaX . 8h ago. 1. Tell me you didn't give him your money 2. I applaud you for not laughing while breaking up cause this is gonna be a great story in the future. "why did you and ex break up?" "well you see it all trusted with the dog trust fund"
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    Apprehensive... . • 8h ago • NTA on the last post and NTA now. This guy is nuts.
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    Alert-Disaster... • 8h ago It's insane, for sure. Let him have his 'trust issues'. He can sort them out with someone else. Enjoy YOUR winnings girl!
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    Queenoftheku... . 8h ago. Let's face it, if she split it 3 ways, the (hopefully soon to be ex) boyfriend would get 2/3rds of her winnings. NOPE! NEXT!!!
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    TheShadowfly • 8h ago. . No, you're completely in your right, and I hope you haven't given him any of your money. He's gaslighting you for something completely valid on your part. No one in their right mind would do that for a dog, a dog had no comprehension of money, almost like your BF
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    (sorry had to make the joke) As for breaking promises, promises can be broken if there is a right reason for it, things change, priorities shift and life is not that black and white. If he can't handle that he's not behaving in a realistic adult way and it might be a good reason to end it.
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    Floofy DireWolf • 8h ago I'm so glad you're ending it. This was his way of trying to get 2/3rds of your money instead of being thrilled you had offered to give him any at all. What a weird flex. Move on.
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