Pregnant Woman Refuses to Let Friend Order Dish at Restaurant Due to Pregnancy Limitations, She Orders it Anyway, Sparking Friendship Feud

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    • r/AITAH 3 days ago Bestrong3 AITAH for telling my pregnant friend she can't control my restaurant order?
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    Hello everyone, this one isn't as explosive as the other posts on this page but I'd love your opinion none the less. I (30M) went to dinner with some friends, one (31F) of which is 8 months pregnant. While discussing the menu she mentioned that she was having a craving for a particular dish that she was not
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    allowed to have due to pregnancy restrictions. I mentioned that the dish looked delicious but was immediately told by my pregnant friend that it would be very rude to order it now that I know she is unable to do so. I am not pregnant, I had no say in whether or not she decided to become pregnant. I get having solidarity
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    amongst friends but in my opinion controlling what others want to order at the table because you are unable to do so is not normal. This prompted a discussion at the table where most said this was a societal norm. Any thoughts you may have would be appreciated.
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    Update #1: Hey everyone, I really appreciate the responses! I just want to add that while I disagreed with her approach, this dinner was for someone else's birthday. I did not order the dish and went with a second option so that it didn't ruin the night for the person we were there for.
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    Update #2: I can definitely see how I left a lot open to interpretation, so I'd like to clarify a couple of things. If my friend had asked me not to order the dish as a friendly favor, I would have happily obliged. However, in this case, she demanded that I refrain from ordering the dish when she stated it was rude to do
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    so. We were at a steak/seafood restaurant, and the dish in question was an Ahi Poke Bowl. Many have asked if alcohol was served, yes it was, and she did not have a problem with anyone ordering a drink.
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    J... 3d ago Edited 3d ago · So I'm in a recovery of sorts. Bottom out the cholesterol, not optional, no steaks, no fried wings, all the obvious. I'm on 11 months. I'll be doing this for at least another month.
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    I would mug an old lady for her fried chicken sandwich some days. I miss some of those foods so bad. And I would NEVER presume to tell someone not to order something because I was at the table. Matter of fact, quite the opposite, I'd feel absolutely awful to see them do so because of me.
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    Spoopyowo •3d ago • NTA, some pregnant women feel like just because they are suffering everyone else has to suffer, she is being entitled. Eventually they will realise that not everything is about them, this is coming from a mother of two lol, just because I could drink or
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    eat a variety of things while pregnant did not mean everyone around me was restricted, like, that is totally fking unreasonable and selfish.
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    LumpyPhilosop... 3d ago • Is your friend entitled to demand you not eat something - just because she can't? Of course not. Are you required to order something different? Also no.
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    But I gotta be honest, if my friend said, " I'm really sad I can't eat this right now" I would feel like a crappy friend if I went out of my way to eat it right in front of them. It would be like putting the meal ahead of my friendship.
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    And if my friend did that to me, I wouldn't say anything or complain, because I'm not entitled to demand that. But yeah, I'd be giving them the side-eye. And I'd probably feel a little differently about them.
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    Technically, NTA. The question is what type of friend do you want to be.
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    keesouth 3d ago • I don't think this crosses into AH territory but I can see how it's kind of mean if someone says I'd love that right now but I can't eat it and you immediately order it on front of them. It's like you're teasing them.
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    Suitable-Park184 • 3d ago I wouldn't say you're TA. But if someone just told me they have been really wanting to eat something but can't have it right now, I wouldn't feel right about ordering up a big plate of it while I'm sitting right next to them.
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    Talking_-_Head • 3d ago • NTA: It's respectful not to drink around alcoholics, not do drugs around addicts, and not smoke in a non smoking area. Not ordering a specific dish at a restaurant that serves that dish because someone there is unable to eat it? I'm
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    diabetic(Type 2), if this was true, everyone would be unhappy around me. I can tell you THIS IS NOT TRUE. People are all the time trying to get me to carbload...as a diabetic(Type 2)...I politely decline, if pushed explain my situation. I do not tell them they can't have carbs. This
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    would make me the Despite how tasty the food looks and smells. It's called personal restraint.

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