Woman Steals Sister’s Laptop to ‘Teach Her a Lesson,’ Causing Her to Miss an Important Work Deadline and Sabotaging Her Career

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    r/AITAH u/HumdrumPrisoner • 15h AITA for Telling My Sister She Deserved to Lose Her Job After Sabotaging Mine?
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    Okay, this is going to be long, and I know emotions are high, but I'm at a loss here and could really use an outside perspective. I have an older sister, Rachel. Growing up, we were pretty close, and even though we had our fair share of sibling fights, I always admired her. Rachel is the "golden child" in our family-super smart, talented, always the center of attention. I was always the quieter, more reserved one.
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    Fast forward to adulthood: Rachel got into a prestigious college and went into finance, making good money early on. Meanwhile, I struggled for a bit, bouncing from job to job, never quite sure what I wanted to do. Eventually, I found my passion in graphic design, went back to school, and worked hard to land a great position at a marketing firm last year. For once, I felt like I was on equal footing with my sister, and I was really proud of myself. My parents were too, though they were still obvi
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    Here's where things took a turn. About six months ago, Rachel lost her job due to company downsizing. It was tough on her, and I tried to be there for her as much as possible. But during that time, she became bitter and resentful-constantly making passive-aggressive comments about how "easy" my job must be compared to hers and how graphic design wasn't "real work." It hurt, but I bit my tongue because I knew she was going through a rough patch.
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    Then, three months ago, a major project came up at my job. It was a huge deal, and if I nailed it, it would. mean a big promotion. I was under a lot of pressure, and while I was working late one night, Rachel called and asked to hang out. I explained how stressed I was, but she brushed it off, saying she could help me "blow off steam" and that I was making too big a deal out of the project. Again, I bit my tongue. I didn't want to cause a fight, but I could feel myself starting to resent her att
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    The next day, I come home from a long day at work, and my laptop is gone. I freaked out because all the files for my project were on it (yeah, I know, I should've backed them up elsewhere, but I was overwhelmed). I called Rachel, and she admitted that she had borrowed it to "teach me a lesson" about not prioritizing family over work. She said she'd return it in a few hours, but by then, it was too late-I missed an important deadline, and the whole project got scrapped. I was devastated.
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    I confronted her, and she was unapologetic, saying I was "letting work take over my life" and that I needed to "chill." I lost my temper and told her she was selfish and that she didn't understand what it was like to fight for every opportunity like I had. In the end, I didn't get the promotion, and my boss even questioned my reliability. I was heartbroken and felt like I had to start over from square one.
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    Fast forward to last week: Rachel was still unemployed and struggling to find something in her field. We were at a family dinner when my parents started asking Rachel about her job search. She was venting about how "unfair" the job market is and how nobody would hire her. I don't know what came over me, but I snapped. I said, "Maybe you deserve to be unemployed after sabotaging my career." The whole table went silent.
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    Rachel started crying, my parents freaked out at me for "kicking her while she's down," and I stormed out. Since then, I've been getting constant texts from my parents, saying I should apologize, but I can't bring myself to do it. I feel like she never faced any consequences for what she did to me, and for once, I just wanted her to feel the weight of her actions.
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    But now, I'm wondering if I went too far. She's still my sister, and she's clearly struggling, but I can't get over how she ruined my career moment and didn't even feel bad about it. So...AITA for what I said? Should I have kept my mouth shut even though she hurt me so deeply? Or was I justified in finally standing up for myself after years of feeling overshadowed? ۵ 3,279 611 D
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    ThatGuyWho Eats Bagels 15h NTA, funny how your parents defend her when you insult her for being horrible and "kicking her while she's down", but when she sabotages your job they don't do anything. ... Reply 3.7k
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    HottieBbGothxx • 13h Sounds like they have a case of selective parenting. Sorry you have to deal with that, OP. 1.1k
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    Least-Scientist • 15h NTAH! Stand up for yourself even if family got upset. She cost you your big moment and no one seemed to care. Time to reevaluate what role they actually play in your current life. Family, like all relationships change and they don't take you seriously. Reply 306
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    bina101 • 14h Should have called the police on her when you found out she stole your computer. NTA Reply D Ŵ 76 ↓
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    wlfwrtr. 14h NTA Have you checked if her company really downsized or if sister was fired? When you don't have any ethics like your sister then eventually it catches up to you. ← Reply Ŵ 47 ♡
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    Wild Lingonberry6579 • 11h Yeah, with no company willing to take her on, I assume there's more to the story. 27 ♡
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    HumdrumPrisoner OP. 14h Never thought about it like that honestly. ... 17
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    Rugby Lock 13h • ... you're severely under-reacting to this. NTA, your sister is an awful person and I'd have reported her to the police for theft. Go no contact with your garbage family. Reply 33 B
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    HumdrumPrisoner OP 13h . Garbage family is accurate, and you're not wrong. I'm moving out soon and honestly i just wanna go. ← 30
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    General Rip7904 • 14h This story makes no sense. You come home from work your laptop is gone but it's the only place your project is. Also how did your sister get into your house to steal it. If any of this is true you should not only not get promoted but be fired for not securing your work laptop. Reply 42
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    ersentenza • 11h Not securing your laptop in your own home where there should be no one it's not an offense, it's not a gun. But not having backup for a critical project right on deadline absolutely is, because computers die with no warning. The boss was absolutely right in criticizing her reliability. ... ↑ 6 3
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    Ratchet_gurl24 • 12h Is it possible Rachel believed, because she lost her job, you should lose yours too. She sounds incredibly jealous of you, making snide remarks, and being vindictive. She seems to think she is better than you, so I wouldn't be surprised if her ultimate goal was to get you fired. ... ← ☑ Reply Ĵ 6 ♡

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