Woman Begs Husband to Take Paternity Test for His Nephew, Implying That He Had a Son with His Own Sister: 'Do it for my peace of mind'

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    r/AITAH u/Potential Twos • 5h AITAH for snapping at my wife and calling her crazy because she wants me to take a paternity test for my nephew?
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    Throwaway account for obvious reasons. My wife and I have been married for 10 years and together for 14. We are childfree. I also have a nephew who's currently 13, and I'm not going to lie, he looks a lot like me and has a lot of the same facial features as me. I am really proud of him and we have a close bond. I have played a father like role in his life since he was a kid. He has a deadbeat father, and my sister divorced him long ago.
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    A couple of my family members have commented on how my nephew looks a lot like me, and while I initially thought it was wholesome, my wife for some reason became very insecure and started getting doubts. She was questioning why I needed to play such a prominent role in my nephew's life, why my nephew had autism etc. The insinuations just became weird and made me uncomfortable.
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    I do agree that my sister has played some part in my wife's insecurities because of her dry humor. During family gatherings, my sister jokes a lot about how wholesome it is that her son looks like me, and that she couldn't be happier. It's obviously a joke, but I spoke to my sister and asked if she could tone it down a bit because it was making my wife a bit crazy.
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    However, last night, my wife asked if I could take a paternity test just for her peace of mind. That's when I finally snapped and called her crazy and that marrying her was the biggest mistake of my life. I did immediately regret saying it because I meant none of it, my wife is the love of my life. But my wife got quiet, and started crying shortly after and I had to console her. Was I the AH? 749 ☐ 540 ୪
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    (H) Harvard_Diplomat • 5h She thinks you had a baby with your own sister? Not your brother's wife or anything but your own sister? No, that IS crazy. ... ← Reply Ŵ 2k ♡
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    MushyGirl89 3h My oldest niece is a miniture version of me. Looks and attitude, lol. I have NEVER once been accused of + with my brother. OP, your wife is on some other level if insecure. You are NTA at all. 785
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    UGalen ⚫4h Which either means she is crazy or OP's flipant comment about "my sister has played some part in my wife's insecurities because of her dry humor" it not as innocent as OP made it out to be.... 186
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    ILoveBreadMore ⚫ 4h • We need more on the sister's sense of humor?? If my husband's sister made jokes about her son being fathered by, ew, her brother...I think that would make me both freaked out and crazy enough to want some clarification. ... 85
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    Strong-Bottle-4161. 3h Yea because the whole looking like Op just might mean she's happy that he looks like her side of the family instead of the deadbeat father My in-laws do that annoying with my kid. They always talk about how she looks identical to someone in their family and how nice it is. Like it's upsetting that the kid has any of my features. Which is bull, since when random people send me with my daughter. They always say she looks like me. Which has upset them before. 52
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    sparksgirl1223 • 23m Yea because the whole looking like Op just might mean she's happy that he looks like her side of the family instead of the deadbeat father That's how I took it ... 8 2 3
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    spilksch2.1h Your nephew looks like you because your sister and you share the same genes from your parents, I presume? ...
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    ΝΤΑ LetsGetsThisPartyOn • 4h Of course he has your genes FROM YOUR SISTER! Not from you! Jesus. Send her to a biology class ... Reply 595
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    • Longwinded_Ogre · 5h It's ok to be mad when someone you love and trust accuses you of sleeping with your sister. NTA. You said some harsh stuff. She deserves some harsh stuff. Reply 244
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    Comprehensive Put5569. 4h NTA - Your wife should seek therapy to figure out why such a ludicrous idea seemed plausible enough to ask you to take a paternity test. It's your nephew! You already share DNA therefore it's not crazy for the 2 of you to look alike. Seriously, she needs help. Reply Ŵ 97 ♡
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    FewCauliflower9361 • 4h I would take the test after I, had contacted an attorney and filed for divorce, i would give her the results of the DNA test along with the divorce papers. ← Ŷ 40
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    quovadimus82. 4h NTA Its totally normal for your nephew to look like you. In my teens, I looked like my Aunt's (father's sister) twin and absolutely nothing like my own mother, no one ever doubted who my mother is. Calling her the biggest mistake of your life is extreme, but then again, she accused you of sleeping with your sister. ← Reply 22
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    R67H⚫ 4h NTA. Is your wife BPD? I'd be insulted, mortified and disgusted by such an insinuation. It's not a normal question and you and your wife need to seek counseling. Or separate lawyers. ... Reply 16
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    Accomplished Chart873 • 4h Does your wife not know how genetics work?? This is just sad ... ← Reply 13
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    jimandbexley • 3h Info: can you give us an example of one of these dry humour jokes from your sister? Reply û 14 ♡
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    FinalConsequence70 • 1h From reading the post, her saying "thank goodness her son looked like OP", which was dry humor for not saying "thank God my kid doesn't look like his deadbeat, absentee dad and I don't have to be reminded of him every time I look at my son." Because that is what most of us seemed to get out of it. ← ☆ û 7 ♡

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