Woman in Her DIY Era Dip Dyes Her Sister's Wedding Dress, Sister Snaps, Leading to Verbal Spat: 'I hope your husband cheats on you!'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 21, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Welcome, tea-spillin' ladies of the internet. We've all had some kind of crafty phase. Some of us can probably admit that our hobby is actually jumping from craft to craft, slowly becoming a jack of all trades, master of none. The best kinds of crafts are relatively cheap and yield some kind of usable product. Unfortunately, some people get a little too excited when they learn a new skill and let it totally consume them. There was a time a few years ago where crocheting was so popular that I had multiple friends open Instagram pseudo shops, attempting to sell homemade crochet sweaters, blankets, and wonky stuffed animals. Since no one really bought the stuff, I ended up receiving perhaps one too many crotchet items as gifts during this era.

In our story today, a woman is totally taken over by the need to dip dye everything - perfectly understandable if you've ever tried your hand at it. However, she ends up crossing a massive boundary when she dip dyes her sister's white wedding dress without her permission. This leads to some steaming hot sisterly drama that you can scroll down to read. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH u/Whole_Challenge_9099. 1d AITA for telling my sister I hope her husband cheats on her after she ruined my wedding dress?
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    So, here's the deal. I (29F) have been engaged for about a year, and I'm getting married in three months. Like many brides, my wedding dress is a big deal to me. I spent months picking it out, and it cost more than I care to admit. It's a gorgeous custom-made gown that I was keeping at my mom's house because I wanted to avoid any "accidents" at home (I have a dog that sheds like crazy).
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    My sister (34F) recently had some sort of "life- changing epiphany" and decided she's done with fast fashion and wants to live a more "eco- conscious" lifestyle. Cool, right? Except she's taken it to a weird level, constantly shaming me and others about our choices, like buying new clothes instead of thrifted. She's also become super into DIY projects-most of which end up looking like a Pinterest fail, but whatever, I wasn't going to say anything.
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    Fast forward to last weekend, I stopped by my mom's house to check on the dress and make sure everything was fine. When I opened the garment bag, my heart legit stopped. My sister, in all her DIY. glory, had dyed my wedding dress. Apparently, she thought the white was too "traditional and boring" and decided to "upcycle" it by dip-dyeing the bottom half in this hideous tie-dye rainbow pattern. HER WORDS: "I made it more fun and unique! You'll stand out!"
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    I. LOST. IT. I screamed at her, and she just stood there, acting like I was being overdramatic. She kept saying she was "just trying to help" and that "it's just a dress." I told her she's a selfish psycho and to never speak to me again. Then, and this is where I might be the I said, "I hope your husband gets so sick of your controlling, self-righteous BS that he cheats on you."
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    She started crying and called me a bunch of names, saying I crossed the line. Now my mom is mad at me, saying my sister was "only trying to do something nice" and that I didn't need to take it "that far." She's insisting I apologize for the cheating comment, but I feel like I was justified in saying it. My fiancé thinks my sister is nuts, but even he raised an eyebrow at that last comment and said I might have gone too far.
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    AITA for saying what I said, or is my sister just the worst? 14.2k ✈ 4,653 1 D
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    Cguy203. 1d Please sue her for the dress! Reply 13 23.8k ♡
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    Timely_River7803 • 1d And since mom and whoever else think you took it too far have them help her pay you back for your dress. 10.1k
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    Laila_Serenade • 1d NTA! Your sister RUINED your wedding dress without asking! Total selfish move! You had every right to be furious! The comment about her husband was harsh but justified! No need to apologize she needs to learn about boundaries! Reply 4.2k
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    Whole_Challenge_9099 OP. 1d Thank you! I'm glad someone sees how insane this whole thing is. Like, how does someone think it's okay to mess with a wedding dress without asking? I get the comment was harsh, but honestly, in the moment, I wanted her to feel even a fraction of the pain I felt when I saw what she did. She absolutely needs to learn that her "helpful" ideas aren't always welcome, especially when it comes to something as important as this! 2.4k
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    jenncc80 • 1d How can your mom not see this while situation was created by YOUR SISTER!! She should be the one apologizing! What are you going to do about your dress? I'd definitely uninvite both of them. 726
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    shammy_dammy • 1d . NTA. Ex sister. And your mom? No contact no invite. ... Reply 1.1k
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    Whole_Challenge_9099 OP. 1d Honestly, I'm considering it. My sister clearly has zero respect for boundaries, and the fact that my mom is defending her like this is unbelievable. I've been trying to keep the peace, but at this point, I'm seriously thinking about going no contact with both of them. There's no way I'm letting either of them ruin my wedding day after this disaster. 1.2k
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    Lucky-Effective-1564.1d Your sister is unbelievably stupid and your mother is a complete if she thinks what your sister did is reasonable. Demand they repay you, blast all your friends and family with what they've done. You are NTA for what you said, you possibly went a little too far, but it's understandable. Reply 276
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    Fuzzy_Medicine_247. 1d NTA. If the bodice of the dress is unharmed, you may be able to get the skirt replaced with new fabric. This could be far cheaper than a new dress and you have four months. Take it to the original seller or a great dress maker. Good luck. I hope she is uninvited to your wedding unless she pays for the repairs or replacement. Reply ↑ 98
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    lapsfordays 1d Even if she paid I wouldn't invite her. She sounds like she'd cause a ton of unnecessary drama. 33
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    866noodleboi • 1d Dip dye your moms wedding dress or favorite piece of clothing and see how much of a "nice" thing you did for her Reply 31 ↓
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    elizzup. 1d Spray paint a rainbow on her car. It'll look about as nice as a dip-dye job on a wedding dress. ☆✩ 12 ⇓
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    Turmeric Ping • 1d NTA. Well, you shouldn't have said what you did, but my god, were you provoked. You don't owe her an apology until she's apologised profusely first. She needs to acknowledge that she was completely out of line and selfish in what she did and to commit to paying for the dress in full. That won't fix the dress, but it's the best she can do to make things right.
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    And your Mom needs to wind her neck in. Your sister wasn't trying to do something nice. She was trying to impose her preferences on you in the most obnoxious way imaginable. Once Your sister has fully apologized and committed to pay, you can then make a half-hearted and obviously insincere apology for what you said. Reply 25 ↓
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