Woman Refuses to Cancel Vacation to Be Sister’s Free Babysitter, Family Calls Her Selfish and Takes Sister’s Side

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    r/AITAH⚫ 15 hr. ago Interestingbabe3 AITA for not wanting to babysit my sister's kids during my vacation?
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    1 (22F) recently took some time off for a vacation I've been planning for months. It's my first break in a long time, and I've been excited to relax, explore, and just have some time to myself. The problem started when my sister (30F) asked if I could watch her kids (5M and 3F) while she and her husband go on a last-minute trip of their own.
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    I love my niece and nephew, but I had planned this vacation to be a break from all responsibilities. I told my sister that I wasn't comfortable giving up my time. off to babysit, and that I really wanted this trip to be about me. She got upset and said that as their aunt, I should be more willing to help out, especially
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    since she "never gets time alone" with her husband.
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    Now, she's barely speaking to me and has told a few family members that I'm being selfish for prioritizing my vacation over family. Some of my relatives think I should help out, but I feel like I've earned this break and want to enjoy it without babysitting. AITA for saying no?
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    Connect Tackl... • 14h ago Your mental health is your priority. Her priority is her kids. Tell her tough to being a parent. welcome
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    One-Awarenes... • 14h ago • NTA, but every one who has an opinion has just volunteered to babysit. Start taking a list and give it to your sister as options.
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    FantasticCabin... • 14h ago • Absolutely not. NTA. I do not get the entitlement of parents who spawn and then expect other people to sacrifice their time and energy to make up for the consequences of their actions.
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    It is YOUR holiday, OP. You get to spend it how you want to, and that includes not babysitting. Sister doesn't get time with her husband? Too bad, so sad, their choice to have kids. They want to offload the responsibilty, paid caretakers exist. Can't
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    afford that? Not anyone else's problem.
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    Divine_in_Us 14h ago NTA. Ask her why she's prioritizing a vacation with her husband over family?
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    Emotional_Fan... • 14h ago • NTA. She did that on purpose, expecting you to cave. No is the right answer. She needs to take time to plan her own couples vacation and make the appropriate arrangements for her
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    children ahead of time. You know, like a responsible parent would do. Signed, a responsible parent.
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    celticmusebooks •⚫ 14h ago • I have a hard and fast rule: Once they engage the flying monkeys to bully you then there is now NO WAY for me to change my mind and give in. It reinforces their belief that bullying and triangulation is an acceptable way to get their way.
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    "Some" of your relatives should hop in and "do the right thing" and babysit. FUNNY that your sister decided on this vacation when you took vacation --- I somehow doubt that was a coincidence.
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    a few family members that I'm being selfish for prioritizing my vacation over family. But...wait... isn't that EXACTLY what your entitled sister is doing? She's "prioritizing" HER vacation over YOU her sister?
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    Calm-Listen5487 • 14h ago • NTA even better that she's not speaking to you.. fewer opportunities to ask for free babysitting
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    CocoaAlmonds... • 14h ago • , no! This is your vacation. Unless you consider babysitting to be fun, it is not a vacation for you.
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    She is NOT entitled to your time off -- whether she pays you or not. (And if she wasn't planning to pay you, then she can absolutely off.)
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    Her kids and her relationship with her husband are HER issues, not yours. Your mental health and your life choices are yours.
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    Not your circus, not your monkey. If family complains, tell them you're thrilled they've volunteered to help her, and send her to them.

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