Son Kicks Selfish Father Out of Home After He Ruthlessly Spends All Their Grocery Money on Himself, Breaching Apartment Agreement: ‘I can’t afford to feed us’

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    r/AITAH 20 hr. ago Lanky-Ad2666 AITAH for kicking out my dad after he said he "couldn't afford to feed me anymore"?
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    Throwaway. Here's the backstory. 28M, got my own house now. Moved out at 18, not really by choice-my dad basically pushed me out. Our relationship's been rocky since then. He's always been a huge drinker and smoker, which caused plenty of issues back then. Fast forward, he lost his house a
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    couple of months ago, didn't keep up with loan payments. So he calls me up, says he needs a place to stay while he gets back on his feet.
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    I laid out a few ground rules: either pay rent ($400) or cover groceries (about $250-300), and absolutely no smoking in the house. He laughs, says "I'm your father; I shouldn't have to pay." But I don't budge, so he reluctantly agrees to buy groceries.
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    From the moment he moves in, it's just one problem after another. Leaves a mess everywhere, doesn't clean up, smokes inside even though I made it clear that's a no-go, and drinks like there's no tomorrow. Then, one day, I have a girl over —and he just has this meltdown over it. So I tell him, listen, if he
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    can't respect my space, he'll have to find somewhere else to stay.
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    Things settle for a bit, but last week, he hits me with "I don't have the money to buy groceries this month." I'm like, why? He says, "Well, you eat a lot," and admits he spent all his cash on smokes and drinks. That was it for me. I was done with him acting like he owned the place, done with the flashbacks to dealing
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    with him as a teen. I told him to pack up and leave. So... AITAH? I set clear boundaries, he didn't follow through.
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    Edit: I never thought my post would garner so many reactions. I'm glad I'm not TA, and thank you all for your support. I'd like to clear out a few things-
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    1. No we didn't have a formal contract when he moved in. It was oral based. Kicking him out won't be easy, as police don't tend to offer much support to a son in relation to the father. The societal response is that a son should take care of his old parents.
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    2. This was one of the reasons I agreed to take him in. Like if I could do something good for him, maybe he'd change his view about me. The feeling of being validated by my own dad after years of neglect was strong, ngl. I see now how foolish it was to take him in.
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    3. How I'd get him out if he refuses to leave? He would go out to buy his supplies, I'd change locks the moment he leaves, and go out too. If he breaks anything, then it's cop time.
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    DetroitSmash-... • 20h ago • NTA. Your house, your rules. When the bills come in his name, then he can run his house the way he wants.
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    geeeorgieee 20h ago • NTA. His 'I shouldn't have to pay' showed his respect for you before he even moved. in. Give him a months notice maybe, but that is as far as your charity should go.
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    Z4-Driver 19h ago • • NTA. Kick him out. Apparently, losing his own house wasn't consequence enough for him to realise that he needs to change some things in his life. So, as he disrespected your reasonable rules, he needs. to feel the consequences by
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    losing the place he could stay again. And in case he gets family and friends involved, what inevitably will happen, you can tell everybody who says you should let him stay, that they are welcome to open their home for your dad and offer him to stay with them.
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    • CorduroyMcTw... • 19h ago • NTA. I'm guessing at some point he's used the phrase "my house, my rules", and that's a sword that cuts both ways.
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    Open Equal 15... 20h ago. NTA here, my friend. i mean , you gave him a chance to hit reset and he treated it like a free-for-all at club dad. the man really pulled the "can't afford to feed you" card in your own house -while living rent-free, spending on smokes and
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    drinks ? unreal. boundaries were laid out in high-def, and he chose to ignore them, so really, he kicked himself out. at this rate, he can "afford" some fresh air while he rethinks his life choices !!
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    Unwanted 88 • 19h ago • Get an eviction notice rolling and do not expect respect. From the first time you spoke to him about your rules he started to try and bargain/ guilt trip you because: FFFFAAAAmmmiLIIIILIYyyyyy y~ you deserve better than
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    that. Please stick to kicking him out. He is not your child he is your sperm donor he can figure it out

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