Career-Driven Woman Lands Dream Job Across the Country, Stands Her Ground When Boyfriend Insists She Stay in Their Hometown for His Dog

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    r/AITAH • 12 hr. ago According Lab118 AITAH for not wanting to put my (25f) life on hold for my boyfriend's (30m) dog?
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    Sorry about the weird wording of the title. I have been with my partner for about two years and he treats me great. He's a very loving and kind person and we get along great. One problem we have had
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    since the start of our relationship that I thought I could ignore is that we are in different places in life, I feel like. We are 25 (me) and 30 (him). He has lived in big cities and done a lot of different jobs related to his field. He is still
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    not fully ready to settle down and have kids and stuff but he does want to live close to his parents. I do not want this. I feel like I have very little experience in what I actually want to do and have not gotten the chance to
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    live in places I want to live in. I am not close with my parents and honestly have a pretty poor relationship with them so I don't relate to his desire. I understand why he wants to but I just never had a family like that.
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    We have two pets. I have a little cat. He has a senior dog. I do love his dog. She's great. She's super sweet and chill and I take care of her a lot. She's a big dog though so travel is somewhat hard for her. I exposed my cat to
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    the car and carrier trained her. She's great on long road trips and planes. I applied to my dream job awhile ago and my partner was supportive. I did have a concern
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    that it was across the country and far from his parents and he said we'd figure it out when we got there. Well, I got the job and now we are trying to figure it out and it s ks. My boyfriend keeps asking if
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    there's a branch closer to his hometown and I keep telling him no, it does not work like that. It is also kind of my dream city to live in so I do want to be in that specific location. He keeps trying to talk me out of it and I told him
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    to tell me the exact problems he has with me taking this job. He told me: "I want to be within reasonable driving distance from my parents. My dog is part of their family and it's important to me
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    that they see each other. She's like their granddaughter." This kind of aggravated me. I suggested they can fly to see us. and he just shut me down. His parents are retired and wealthy.
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    They go on a lot of vacations a year but he said he didn't want them to go through the hassle. He said his dog MUST be in their house otherwise it's not the same. It really ped me off. Today I told him
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    "I will not be putting my life on hold for your dog, if that is actually the only reason you don't want me to move. I am going with or without you." and I left. He has been blowing up my phone apologizing and
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    saying we can work things out but I really don't think we can. My family has reached out to me and told me I am overreacting and throwing away a good man for a career. My friends tell me to
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    stick with my guns and the dog is a dumb reason or he is just saying that to make me stay. TL;DR: I got my dream job but my boyfriend doesn't want to make the move with me because of his dog. AITAH?
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    He told me: "I want to be within reasonable driving distance from my parents. My dog is part of their family and it's important to me that they see each other. She's like their granddaughter."
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