'What's the big deal?': 20+ Red flags that visitors spotted immediately when they walked into someone's home

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Nov 6, 2024 11:00 AM EST

It's one thing to have a messy house, but these people have taken their messiness to the next level. 

Sometimes, the best way to clean up your home is by inviting someone over. It immediately makes you consider your home from an outsider's perspective. You start to think about what your guests might notice, like crumbs on the table or a streaky mirror. They say you should clean surfaces first, then the bathroom, then the floors, and by that point, you have a pretty clean home to invite your guests into. 

However, not everyone frets about how their guests view their home, and that's fine too. Some folks would rather just let their home be a little messy all the time, and they're comfortable living that way. There's a difference between a messy home and a home full of red flags though, as the people answering u/Radiant_Blooom's question can tell you. We all know that a parent of a toddler isn't going to have a spotless home, but it's a whole different story if the pet's litter is overflowing, or if there's a bare mattress on the floor. You can scroll below to see if you agree with these red flags, or if you think people are just being too picky. 

Up next, this marathon runner accused her friend of stealing the spotlight after she joined the race at the very last minute, with the friend explaining that "She said that me posting about it on Facebook would overshadow her post."

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    What is a red flag to see in someones home?
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    Myctic_Darling No hand soap in the bathroom
    via u/Myctic_Darling
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    Ophede Dirty litter boxes if they have cats, and I mean filthy
    via u/Ophede
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    lizabeth478 There was a guy who posted on r/malelivingspace who has 3 'obey' prints above his bed
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    Here's the bedroom!

    OBEY OBEY OBEY
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    badcatgarfield No sheets on their bed but clearly they sleep on it.
    via u/badcatgarfield
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    Brilliant-Falcon... MLM inventory for their "business" or they buy a lot of MLM stuff. Minus a normal amount of Tupperware.
    via u/Brilliant-Falcon-888
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    CamoWeddingD... When they let their pets and pee in the house. Bonus if they let their kid sleep in a room that is essentially a massive litter box.
    via u/CamoWeddingDress
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    III-Profession8... No furniture, black garbage bags as window curtains, and a box spring with no sheets just a dirty blanket..
    via u/III-Profession8600
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    LoJellythings When their pets water bowls are empty. Monsters.
    via u/LoJellythings
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    Ariask When they don't do basic preparation for a preplanned guest coming over. For example, there's no toilet paper, they don't offer you anything to drink, house is really messy.
    via u/Ariask
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    a Had dinner with my friend's family. They had a bottle of something called "Beano" on the table, and they each took turns passing it around and adding it to their food. I asked and my friend and he said it was "anti- drops". He later told me that his family farts a whole ton so the Beano mitigates the
    via u/alienanimal
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    grossness. I couldn't shake that he has a wierd family and never went back.... I guess that's not really a red flag. They were just sweet people with problems.
    via u/alienanimal
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    Competitive-Ef... I once saw an actual red flag.
    via u/Competitive-Effort54
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    disorganizedor... dried dirty dishes, food left out, no furniture/evidence of hobbies except for a Gaming Station, neglected pets, pepe decor...
    via u/disorganizedorchid
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    D... If they have children, but you see no sign of a child in the home outside of their bedroom.
    via u/ DontWantNoCornbreadd
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    Acrobatic-Sens... No trash bag for the bathroom bin
    via u/Acrobatic-Sense7463
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    dewdropcat live laugh love
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    Rosy Riddle86 One major red flag is if their home feels too sterile or empty-like they don't actually live there. Also, lots. of signs of anger, like holes in the walls, can be concerning!
    via u/Rosy Riddle86
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    NeiClaw A parrot. No normal person lives with a parrot. I live with a parrot. Am definitely not normal.
    via u/NeiClaw
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    Hangrycouchpo... When they use the sofa as a changing table with no blanket or anything on it. I went to someone's house and the kid had a blow out. The mom just put the baby with poopy diaper on the sofa to change her and looked at me when my jaw
    via u/Hangrycouchpotato
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    hit the floor and said "What's the big deal? It's just !" I never went there again. It also explains why they purchased a brown sofa.
    via u/Hangrycouchpotato
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    TartGoji Bare mattress on the floor. No duvet cover or pillow cases. Crusty hand towels that haven't been changed in days or weeks.
    via u/TartGoji
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    Tidusblitz111 Anime stuff. I dont mean mangas or season dvds or anything like that, those are fine. But if you have "art" with giant anime and thats one single thread of string from being hanging out in your living room... Well you probably dont get guests anyways so you keep doing. you.
    via u/Tidusblitz111
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    TheGreatMonst... Litter box in the kitchen.
    via u/TheGreatMonsterKitty
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    Abdelsauron The only thing worse than no books is a shelf full of books that have obviously never been touched.
    via u/Abdelsauron
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    Successful_Ra... They had only one kitchen cloth. Just that ONE. Used for wiping hands, wiping the counter, wiping the dishes, and wiping the microwave/stove after cooking.
    via u/Successful_Ranger_19
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    DrunkResponde... Carpet in the bathroom..
    via u/DrunkRespondent
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    slightlydramatic I change the bathroom towels in our guest bathroom every Friday. One Friday I told my son to go wipe up the urine he left on the seat & floor and then watched this imposter of my DNA, wipe the urine with a hand towel and hang it back up, in front of me. I've never wanted to disown a relative more in my life.
    via u/slightlydramatic
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    sorrytooffnd Dish rack was in the sink and had black mold on it, they put clean dishes on it to dry i was horrified they also just put water in the baby bottles and let them soak and used them. Never actually washing the bottles HORRIFIED
    via u/sorrytooffnd
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    NeitherWait 55... Really gnarly aquarium. If you're gonna trap fish in a box for your personal pleasure, keep that sh pristine.
    via u/NeitherWait5587

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