25-year-old employee requests off to attend a funeral, micromanager demands for proof of the service: 'After this, I want to quit'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Nov 9, 2024 2:00 PM EST

The last thing anyone wants when they are going through a family emergency is to have to deal with your micromanaging boss simultaneously. Here, we have an employee who took one day off to attend the funeral service of a family member. He did not request any bereavement leave or anything more than just the one day of paid time off he was certainly entitled to based on his contract. 

However, upon his return to the office, his micromanaging supervisor demanded for proof that he did, in fact, take time off to attend a funeral service. Apparently, this was because he also had to dip out early one day due to a dentist appointment. The supervisor's own boss was skeptical about the whole thing and forced the supervisor to request for proof. Now, all the employee wants to do is leave the company with no notice instead.

Keep scrolling below for the full story and for the best reactions from folks in the comments section. For more, check out this post about a 40-year-old company man who was passed over for a promotion in favor of a much younger coworker.

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    [NY] Employer asked for proof of doth (I took day off to attend funeral)
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    My dad's aunt passed away and I requested one day off to attend the funeral and be there for my family. The day I returned my supervisor
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    called me into her office and asked for proof of the service- like a mass card or pamphlet. She said "I am sorry I have to ask this but you know". I
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    wanted to say, no, I don't know. Then she started asking me who passed away and if we were close. The whole thing left me feeling upset and disturbed.
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    Then when I got home I started making excuses for them to try to justify it. I was feeling so confused and embarrassed. So I have
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    been at this company for almost 4 months. It is a small company of 5 women. I have never had an attendance issue, am
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    never late. Every 3 to 4 weeks on Monday I do have to leave a half an hour early to attend my orthodontist appointment. So maybe
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    they don't like that and are suspicious of me even though they said it was ok. I think the head of the company told my supervisor to ask for proof of the funeral. She
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    is a hard and a really cold person and I think she did not believe I took off for that.
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    After this I want to quit. It is the final straw. I am making $26k a year to be overworked, hate everything about my job and it is just a horrible working environment.
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    Is it a common policy with companies to ask for proof for a death? I wasn't even taking bereavement leave, it was one day off to attend a funeral. I work in NYC for reference.
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    [deleted] ⚫ OP, you should look for another job, not because they asked for proof, but because you only make $26K.
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    Hrgoogl... Yes it is common... especially if it was paid timeoff....
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    floriano... I think your problem is making $26k in NYC. That is very low for our COL. I suggest trying to get a job with higher pay
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    if possible. You still might suffer these indignities but they will be slightly less annoying.
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    glitterst... It is absolutely normal to request proof. Too many people lie. And before you say "I never gave them a reason to distrust",
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    it's not about you. It's about policies being consistent to ward off any claims of illegal discrimination.
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    Additionally, many employers won't give time off for funerals at all, and many will restrict covered relatives.
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    Your dad's aunt is too distant for many employers to even humor and they will tell you "sorry to hear that, request denied."
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