Big Sister Refuses to ‘Change Her Lifestyle' to Accommodate Her Mooching Sister and Brother-In-Law After They Beg to Crash at Her Place

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    AITA for refusing to let my sister stay with me after she got married and demanded I "adjust" my lifestyle for her husband?
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    Okay, so I (28F) have a pretty established routine. I live alone in a two-bedroom apartment, and while I'm not a "neat freak," I like my space to be organized and have a certain vibe to it (think minimalist, calm, and quiet). My
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    sister (30F) recently got married to this guy (31M) who I barely know. They live about 3 hours away, and since their wedding a month ago, she's been asking to stay with me for a few weeks. Normally, I'd be fine with it - | love my sister - but there's a catch.
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    When I agreed, she dropped the bomb that she's bringing her husband with her. Apparently, he "doesn't feel comfortable being alone" for extended periods, so she wants me to "adjust" my lifestyle for them as a couple. This means rearranging my
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    apartment for them, having "quiet hours" during the day because he works from home, and no longer playing music or hosting friends when they're around. Oh, and she suggested I stop using the guest room for my own "hobbies," which is how I unwind after work.
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    Basically, I'm supposed to cater to their "needs" and "make space for their relationship." I told her I wasn't comfortable with that, especially since I don't even know her husband that well
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    and wasn't planning on making my home into a mini hotel or daycare for them. She got super upset, called me selfish, and said it's just for a couple of weeks. But I'm really not okay with it - I feel like I would be giving up a lot of my personal space and peace of
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    mind just for her convenience. Now, she's threatening not to visit at all, and I'm feeling guilty but also like she's overstepping. So, AITA for refusing to let them stay under these conditions?
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    Burn420Account69 It sounds like she wants to move in and live with you rent free while, not really, searching for a place to live. NTA. Your sister is the worst.
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    Sea-Leadership-8053 Sounds like they got evicted and have decided to take over ops home RandoCollision Sounds like they'd prefer OP to move out for a few weeks but are "willing to let her stay" if she just goes to her room and leaves them alone while they're there.
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    supertwicken NTA. She called you selfish??? Has your sister always been delusional?
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    NanoLogica001 your sister sounds like a moocher. Is there something she's hiding — like she and spouse have no stable housing? And why does spouse have to work during the visit? Something is not adding up!
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    JenninMiami Like why is she wanting to visit immediately after getting married? Are they trying to use OP for a free honeymoon? I think they're looking for free housing, and have no intentions of ever leaving.
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    unfortunate crafter NTA. It's your space and it sounds like she's asking for a lot. A couple weeks is a long time to live in a situation that's making you uncomfortable.
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    TyrannasaurusRecked Send her a list of local hotels and Air BnB listings.
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    MTClarity. I spend a good portion of my day helping people legally throw family members out of their personal spaces. Do not allow her in, court fees are expensive.
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    marv115 You have to "adjust" in YOUR HOME? Yeah no, it was no after she said weeks, even more no after each request, no way.

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