16-year-old twin sisters clash over shared friend groups and overlapping personal lives: 'Get your own friends'

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    AITA For telling my sister to off and get her own friends? So a little backgroundstory. I (16 f) and my sister (16 f) have shared everything our whole life. Birthday, friends, faces and room (until recently. Last year i decided to move to a different school than her, and we finally had our "own" friends and social life. But the problem is that this summer she started asking to go with me whenever i was hanging out with my friends,
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    and even hung out with my friends without me being there. I told her that I found a problem with it, (especially because she always left me out whenever she hung out with her friends) which she got mad. After this summer i decided to take a gap year, and she got enrolled in a new school where she has lots of great friends. Some months ago i was thinking about going back to school, and she quickly
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    told me to find another school than the one she goes to because she wants her own friends, which i think is fine, because i want my own as well. But last weekend i had plans with one of my friends, and she asked to come. I finally replied "no i haven't seen her in a long
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    time, and i wanna hang out with just her" she got mad and told me i was being r de which i replied "well you can off and get your own friends" she told my parents and they told me i was being unfair, and that i should apologize. So AITA?
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a h le: I fear i might be the a hole because she is my sister, and i am leaving her out.
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    New-Link5725 • 3h ago. NTA yes your a twin but your also your own person, as is she. She clearly doesn't have very many friends if she's ways trying to hang out with yours. Or they don't want to hang outnwith her. all thentime and that's something she needs to explore more of why.
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    I wonder how many times she's tried to pretend to be you to your friends. Either way your not wrong. She's going to have to acept you going to college without her, moving away, getting new friends and a partner.
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    She can't stay attached to you all the time, and join you because she's bored. It's great wanting to be close to a sibling, but ifnshe keeps pushing she'll push you away. Its ks, I get it. But sitnher down and let her know that while you love her, she needs to form her own life and her own friendships. So that when she goes to college she will have a life of her own.
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    Your all for hanging out with her, but she needs to have a life separate from you. Let her know that if she keeps pushing it will create distance between your wo and you don't want that.
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    Let her know that while she doesn't likenit, it's good and healthy for you two tonhave your lives, your own friendships and space. from one another so that you can have a healthy bond and relationship long term. Let her know that if she wantsbtonhang out with you she can ask, but their will be times where you just need space and need yoir friends without her, and it's not because you don't like. her. You just need space.
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    . • 3h ago Edited 3h ago Your parents need to stay. out of this. This is not their issue to resolve.
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    brilliant_nights... 2h ago. NTA no apology needed.
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    stoned_introve... • 2h ago NTA. She has her own group to hang out with, she should leave yours alone.
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    Modernwood • 2h ago I have twin daughters and a vested interest in the outcome of this.
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    MrBrainsFabbots . 1h ago • NTA. Saying that, I can imagine it's really annoying, but do be gentle. My brother is 18 months older than me. If I didn't hang around with him and his friends between the ages of 10 - 15, I wouldn't have hung around with anyone at all.
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    She'll get her own friends, most people do, even if pretty late. There's nothing wrong with just wanting you and a friend, not having her round all the time, but don't exclude her fully.
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    Els236 35m ago. So, when she finally got her own friends, they were her friends and her friends only, with you not being allowed to "interfere" (not that you wanted to), but when you had your friends, she'd insert herself into the group, invite herself along and hang out with them behind your back.
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    If you're twins, are you sure she wasn't pretending to be you at certain points? Sounds a bit like "one rule for me, one rule for thee" kinda It is a bit strange both of you are treating your friends as if they're objects. you own though... At least that's how it comes across.
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    You can both share mutual friends and make friends with each other's friends, although it does sound like that's what happened with your sister and your friends, but you weren't "allowed" to do the same with hers. NTA overall.
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    . bevymartbc 1h ago NTA. At some point, you both grow up and find your own way as adults.
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    ynvesoohnka7nn • 1h ago Nta
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    No_Worldline... • 40m ago • NTA. She doesn't share her friends, why should you? She gets to hang out with her crowd without you, why should you include her?
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    a A-namethats... • 37m ago NTA. She can't expect you to stay away from her friends, while she hangs with yours also. Either way, you'll both grow out of this sh in a few years and will probably laugh or cringe at it
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    HolSmGamer 4h ago • YTA for telling her to F herself, but NTA for wanting your own friends. It is completely reasonable to want your own social network and group of friends without your sister in them. However, you didn't have to use that language to get the point across since it made you look petty and insecure.

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