Woman Walks Out on Longtime Best Friend After Drunken Text Mishap Exposes Plan to End the Friendship

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    TWO HOT TAKES r/TwoHotTakes • 1 day Ok_Preparation_4384 my best friend accidentally sent me a text about secretly hating me
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    Hi everyone, long time listener of THT and FKS. looking for advice or comfort, as I am truly heartbroken. I 20F, and my best friend 21F have been friends since high school. Now, we are apart of the
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    same college friend group. Friday night, everyone was hanging out together like we typically do on the weekends. I had one drink, and my best friend had 3-4 drinks before we went back to her house.
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    Everything was totally normal. I wasn't exactly planning to stay the night, but she pleaded with me and said we could get breakfast in the morning if I stayed. I obliged, and she told me she was going to sleep alone in her room so that she could call her long distance boyfriend. So,
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    after telling each other "i love you, goodnight" and giving hugs, I went to go sleep in the guest room. About 20 minutes later I received a text from her that read "she's staying in the guest room so i don't want to sh talk her too
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    loudly" i responded with a simple "huh?" and received another, longer text complaining about how she just can't figure out a "respectful" way to get rid of me. It was probably around 2:45AM at this point, but I packed up all
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    of my things and snuck out the back door. The next morning she sent me a voice memo apologizing and saying that she was drink and meant to text her boyfriend but "i'm just not that fun anymore" and we've "grown apart."
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    My heart is broken. It feels wrong to bring it up to anyone else in our group of friends, so I've spent the last few days grieving, and trying to remind myself that i'm only 20 and can still bounce back and find new friends.
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    Unfortunately, my 21st birthday is in a few weeks and now, I fear I won't have anyone to spend it with. I guess, posting this and venting anonymously online to a bunch
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    of strangers might help? I'm not sure, but while I wait for my emergency therapy appointment tomorrow, any advice is appreciated. :)
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    adrianxoxox • 2d ago . Convincing you to stay just to act frustrated that you won't leave is such strange behaviour, idk about her normal behaviour outside of this incident but that sounds like the type of person who'll twist anything so that they sound like the wronged party. No reasoning with those types at all
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    No_Ad_2164 • 2d ago She's pretty weird for insisting you stay, telling you she loves you then complaining behind your back. Odds are she's been doing it for years now. Grieving a friendship is sometime harder than a break up. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I highly recommend, if she tries to come back don't let her.
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    Intelligent-Cat-8821 • 2d ago Why does this one friendship. growing apart prohibit you from hanging out with the rest of your friend group?
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    22_ghost_22 • 2d ago I have been in your shoes before so see me as your older sister giving you advice, move on from this friendship with her. It will hurt like sh but after a while you'll pick yourself up again, trust me, it might take a while to make new friends but you'll even get more amazing friends who wouldn't do stupid
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    sh to lose such an amazing friend as you, know your worth and just be you, people will love you just for that. And if not, fem' and move on
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    JJC02466 • 2d ago I'm sorry, that's painful. At 20, both of you are still growing and figuring yourselves out. Your friend has changed, and that's not about you, and although she tried to make it your fault, it is not. If it makes you feel any better, I am quite a few years older than you and I don't remember who i thought was my "best friend" at 20. Try
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    to think of it as making room in your life for the friends who will stick around.
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    dkwallis • 2d ago She did you a favor. Move on. Puzzled why she would bribe you to stay the night (and then insist on being alone).
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    WinterFront1431 • 2d ago She's pathetic. Just block her. Get out there and make new friends. Find a hobbies, join groups.. bound to meet new people.
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    crazyreddit929 • 2d ago I saw some reframing advice the other day that might help. If your friendship has ended, don't think of it as over. Think of it as complete. You had a friendship that was not meant to last forever and now it has completed its run. It helps with moving on and it's very true.
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    I've gained and lost many friends over the years. I've had and lost many Gfs and my first marriage. Each one felt like the end of the world for a variable amount of time depending on the relationship, but the one thing every one of them had in common was that it wasn't the end of the world. I made new friends, met new girls, remarried, etc.
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    This "friend" of yours has some issues. There is no doubt you are better off without her. I know it is harder for people to meet now. I've seen the change to more antisocial behavior at my gym, the airport, etc. but it just requires a bit more effort. Groups, gym classes, clubs, etc. You will bounce back and be happy again.
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    It was probably around 2:45AM at this point, but I packed up all of my things and snuck out the back door. The next morning she sent me a voice memo apologizing and saying that she was drink and meant to text her boyfriend but "i'm just not that fun anymore" and we've "grown apart."

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