'I refuse to share my dinner with 2 children': Woman Ends Relationship After Cutting Off Entitled Sister-in-Law Who Constantly Brings Her Kids Over for Dinner Unannounced

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    r/AITAH • 10 hr. ago Own_Information9013 AITA for refusing to share my dinner with 2 children?
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    My (F29) boyfriend Albert (M35) and I had a great relationship until his family moved closer to us. I haven't seen a more toxic or entangled family connection. It seems like every ex and their mother is an enemy, every ex boss had it out for them, every friend should help out more and more, everyone should
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    take their verbal ab e. After a few run ins, I cut MIL off. His sister (F37) is in the habit of showing up at dinner time. She has 2 kids (7f, 9M) that she always brings along. I didn't mind sharing a meal, but I hated her dropping by without
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    a warning. Albert never took action, and this created problems. SIL has an unbearable parenting style. They are good kids, but she over indulges them and lets too many things slide as "they are just kids". So they interject in adult
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    conversations, have crying fits when told "no" and are prone to grabbing/ touching/taking objects without permission. So they took things around the house (cupboard items, small sculptures, my stash of hotel toiletries, my hair extensions) "to play with" and had me going crazy trying to find them later.
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    Fast forward and her son, who has anxiety, had a small crisis from opening our kitchen drawer and grabbing some pop its/party snaps. Some fell and popped real loud and he cried because he was embarrassed. I did not offer comfort because that would be indulging his
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    snoopy behavior. So I stayed quiet and asked Albert to talk to his sister, which I'm sure he didn't. I'm not happy in my relationship. I don't have privacy. His sister keeps showing up despite being told (by myself) that she can't keep showing
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    up uninvited. I'm sick of having to hide things that I think her kids could get their hands on. I recently put a lock on my home office door because I suspect that SIL has been using my copy machine while I'm out. I work both at home and at 2 client
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    sites and have been getting home after 8 pm. I'm sick of being tense and dreading her visits because he lets her eat through our groceries like she has a right to do it. He has called me selfish and greedy. I thought he would be more considerate now that they gave him
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    less hours at work and his pay cut has caused me to pay for most of our bills. SIL is a nail technician and a hair stylist. She was also a teacher at a beauty academy until she had her kids. Now she won't do anything but badmouth her ex and complain about how hard life is. She has a
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    place to live, with access to food and her own car. I'm thinking that she may be doing this on purpose. Last Friday, Albert went bowling with friends. I told him that I wanted a very quiet evening and didn't want to be bothered. I got home at
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    around 7PM, and sat down to eat my seafood boil. SIL showed up, asking for her daughter's backpack that she left behind. I was annoyed. I tried to rush to get it but her son saw the crab legs and started insisting. I said I was sorry, but that's my dinner. So he starts crying, stomping and repeatedly asking his mom for my
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    food. I said I was sorry and quickly showed them out. To my aggravation, they didn't leave immediately. He cried outside for about 5 minutes while SIL sat inside her car trying to convince him to get in. I pulled down the shutters and tried to ignore them. When Albert
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    got back, his face had a bitter expression. He said that he was extremely disgusted about the way that I treated his family. He has stopped talking to me. It's been a few days and I'm still getting the silent treatment. I've cried a few times, especially because he's been texting me despite us being physically next to each other.
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    SIL showed up yesterday, but he wasn't home yet so I didn't let her in. I'm angry and defeated and I'm coming to the conclusion that I need to end the relationship because he texted me that I need to apologize to SIL. I didn't want things to end between us but I feel like they are trying to walk all over me. This is so
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    surreal. We had planned on a cozy Xmas together months ago when things were good. I'm not trying to ruin his life. Right now, his finances are not great and my salary makes a huge difference. I just don't want to be made to feel like his family can get away with what they're doing and I hold resentment. I texted him
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    about how I feel, and how incredibly selfish he is to be comfortable giving to his sister with what my hard work can buy but can't think to respect my boundaries. AITA if I leave? I feel like somehow I'm the failure for not being willing fight for our relationship.
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    WanderingGnostic • 10h ago Top 1% Commenter NTA. Run far, run fast. It will • never get better. They've shown you who they are and where you stand with them. There's no salvaging this. 13K ○ Reply
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    Amunetkat • 10h ago • Nta...but you better lock down your contraceptives while you plan your exit from this dumpster fire of a relationship. Gurl why are you with this man? He prioritizes his family more than you and puts you down in your own house?
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    Creepy-Stable-6192 • 10h ago Top 1% Commenter Well, at least now you know he cares more about what his family thinks of him then what his wife thinks of him. NTA, separation may be for the best.
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    SIL has an unbearable parenting style. They are good kids, but she over indulges them and lets too many things slide as "they are just kids". So they interject in adult conversations, have crying fits when told "no" and are prone to grabbing/ touching/taking objects without permission. So they took things around the house ( cupboard items, small sculptures, my stash of hotel toiletries, my hair extensions) "to play with" and had me going crazy trying to find them later.

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