Father Calls Daughter Immature When She Refuses to Let Step-mother Attend Her Wedding, Despite Her Being the Reason For Her Parent’s Divorce, Rehashing Past Wounds

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    r/AITAH ⚫5 hr. ago NatureSweety AITA for not letting my dad's "new" family come to my wedding after what they did?
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    Ok, so here's the deal. I (27F) am getting married in a few months, and it's supposed to be the happiest time of my life. But of course, my family has to ruin it. Backstory: My dad cheated on my mom when I was 15. He left us for this other woman (let's call her Linda). My mom was absolutely destroyed, and I basically had to
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    help her pick up the pieces. My dad moved in with Linda and her two kids, and it was like I didn't exist anymore.
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    He stopped coming to my school events, didn't even call me on my birthday sometimes. When I tried to talk to him about it, he'd just say, "You'll understand when you're older." Like, no, I won't understand how you can just ditch your kid for someone else's family.
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    Anyway, fast forward to now. I haven't talked to my dad much in years, but I sent him an invite to my wedding because, well, I thought it was the right thing to do. But then he called me and asked if Linda and her kids could come too. I was like, uh, absolutely not.
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    First of all, I don't even know them. They're basically strangers to me. Second, they're part of the reason my mom's life was destroyed. Why would I want them at the most important day of MY life? I told my dad no, and he got all offended, saying I was being "immature" and that they're "family."
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    Now he's threatening not to come at all if they're not invited. And honestly? I don't even care anymore. My fiancé and my friends say I'm doing the right thing by standing my ground, but my dad's side of the family is saying I'm being petty and that I need to "forgive and forget."
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    Like, I've worked so hard to get to a place where I'm happy and stable, and I don't want that drama at my wedding. It's supposed to be about me and my fiancé, not about my dad's guilt trip.
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    So, AITA for not letting them come and for being ok if my dad doesn't show up either?
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    slightlygrum •4h ago • Tell him he'll understand when he's older
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    Sunmoon98 5h ago NTA. Your father is though. Stand your ground and go have a happy wedding. He has to live with the fact that he wasn't in his kids lives and that he missed your wedding. You were nice enough to send him an invite. Up to him if he comes
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    Status-Pattern7... 4h ago • ΝΤΑ "I invited you out of familial obligation, not bc I actually want you there. Don't threaten me with a good time. I won't cry if you're not there, you haven't been there since I was 15 so it's not like I will miss you."
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    The_Bad_Agent • 4h ago • Top 1% Commenter NTA and you should rescind the invitations to anyone defending him.
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    marianacc1994 • 4h ago • Uninvite him
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    Mueryk 4h ago • NTA Dad you abandoned mom and me for this woman and her family years ago. I have no real relationship with you pretty much because of your continuing decisions. Even so I thought to invite you to my wedding. Considering all
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    this, it is offensive you expect me to invite your affair partner to my day. If you choose not to come, that is another decision of yours to ignore your daughter in favor of your affair partner and her family.
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    Do not expect me to accommodate you in this. With regard to your family complaining about this, it will not sway my decision and only drive a wedge further between us. You should know very well this isn't some petty disagreement and that there will never be a “forgive and
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    forget" for a betrayal and abandonment of this magnitude. You can either face some minor consequences like an adult or just go away once and for all. But either way if you ever cared for me at all quit whining to your family about it and tell them to back off on the topic.
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    bdayqueen • 5h ago Top 1% Commenter NTA - you don't owe him or them anything.
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    TypicalManage... 4h ago NTA Withdraw the invite to your dad and just make your life easier, he's not worth all of the stupidity and drama he's bringing.

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