Woman Discovers Her Best Friend’s Mom Having an Affair with Her Boyfriend of 5 Years, Internet Wholeheartedly Supports Her Ending the Friendship: ‘She picked [her] side’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Dec 14, 2024 9:00 PM EST

A good friendship is built around trust. It's what makes friends feel safe sharing their thoughts and feelings. This is most relevant when we're talking about lifelong friendships. Where trust is so built into this type of relationship. The people you've known even before you were fully a person yourself, growing and developing as individuals and as friends. As you grow, this sort of trust can be the force that keeps friendships alive even when life gets busy, and having a person you know you can count on is key when things get tough.

That is why, when this kind of trust is breached, it can feel like a punch to the gut. One minute you're thinking everything's cool, and the next, bam! Like someone pulled the rug out from under you and you're left feeling all sorts of messed up—sad, mad, totally confused.

Well, this is just the tip of the iceberg in this woman's wild story. It's an unusual blitz of betrayal, lies, and deceit involving her boyfriend, best friend, and shockingly—that friend's mom. The whole thing is a total mess, but this woman? Being the absolute beast she is, is not letting it drag her down.

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    Now when I left her she is crying and trying to get my parents and friends to get me to talk to her.
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    AITAH for cutting off my best friend after she kept quiet about her mom and my bf?
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    We grew up together in same neighbourhood and her parents had a big age gap. Her father was also very alive and they were kind of relieved when he did. I have always been there for her whenever she had issues.
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    I, 24F, startated dating my bf in college 5 years ago. We still live with our parents and didn't have place for intimacy. Her house we could meet and we often went there to get together. Her mom was fine with it and even encouraged us. I never imagined her to backstab me like this.
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    She and my bf have been cheating on me for years now and my friend knew about it. She said she just couldn't tell on her mom because she was so happy with him. Her mom had a tromatic past and her acting like that was result of it. She justified not telling me about it to my face.
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    Now when I left her she is crying and trying to get my parents and friends to get me to talk to her. I can't tell my parents what happened but my friend's think I am punishing her for no fault of
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    her own and also that its understandable what her mom did. Am I the acchole for cutting her off?
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    RepulsiveNotice3288 • 5h ago you're not the ah. betrayal from both your best friend and bf is a huge breach of trust, and cutting them off is totally justified.
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    StonkPhilia 5h ago NTA your friend knew about the cheating and kept quiet, which is considered a betrayal. I get that her mom's past might've influenced her, but she still should've told you. You're allowed to cut someone off when they hurt you like that.
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    ReaRipple 4h ago NTA. It's a tough spot, but your friend should have had your back, not kept you in the dark. Being in a difficult situation doesn't give someone a free pass to betray trust. You have every right to feel hurt and to want distance to heal.
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    eratoesben 5h ago Edited 5h ago NTA - protect your peace and move forward with those who are truly there for you. You don't owe anyone anything especially not when she was more interested in protecting her own bubble of peace.
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    While escaping from her own trauma she attributed to yours. Be selfish, she was
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    Samet1957a1 • 5h ago NTA, she should've been honest with you from the start. It's hurtful that she chose to protect your bf and not you, especially as your best friend.
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    Temporary-Laugh-227 • 8h ago • I would tell EVERYONE that she is no longer your friend because she was covering up your bf affair with her mother. You do not need to protect any of the 3 of them! And it's all gross!
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    WalkForPole 5h ago No absolutely not! She knew your bf was cheating and didn't tell you, a real friend would tell you. The fact that he was cheating on you with her mom makes it worse
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    Surround Miserable262 • 3h ago • You can tell your parents what happened and should. She had a choice to tell you and she didn't. Whilst she wasn't at fault for any deed...she lied to
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    you be omission and pretended everything was happy families. You wasted additional years with a guy because she didn't correct the narrative. Ditch the lot and move on.
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    Hot Opportunity_1053 • 2h ago You need to cut all of the friends that tell you they understand what her mom did. What kind of world are we living in right now. She is not deserving your forgiveness. Start your life and make new friends. You don't need those toxic people in your life
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    No_Cockroach4248 • 5h ago What your ex-best friend's mom did was to cheat, her past experiences do not give her an exception for being able to do so without consequences.
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    Your ex-best friend decided to "keep the peace" and you are now "keeping the peace" in your life by cutting her off
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    You might want to remind those friends of yours when your ex-best friend's mom starts an affair with their bf's that they would be as understanding of ex-best friend's mom for doing so and as forgiving of ex-best friend for keeping quiet. NTA
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    bblooomMoons • 3h ago • nah, you're nta. trust is a two-way street and she broke it. her mom's past doesn't give her a free pass to cheat. cut them both off and move on, you deserve better.
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