Woman Refuses to Let Stranger Give Birth in Her Bedroom, Friends Make Her Feel Like a Villain for Denying a Pregnant Woman: ‘My mother and grandmother were born here’

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Dec 15, 2024 11:00 PM EST

Welcome, gossiping goddesses! Having a comfortable birth experience is of the utmost importance. While many believe that hospitals are much safer, given the constantly sterile environment, access to medicine to make the process as close to painless as possible, and several staff members available in case of emergency, home births are a better option for women who feel anxiety in medical settings. With a knowledgeable, trained, and experienced doula or midwife, a home birth can be just as safe and comfortable as a hospital birth. After all, women have been giving birth at home for all of human history.

Our story today features a woman who desires a home birth in the house wherein she, her mother, and grandmother were born. The only problem was that the house was now owned by another person. No problem! She knocked on the door and asked for permission to give birth in our protagonist's bedroom. Get all the details by scrolling down.

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    "I had never met the couple before, and I don't exactly want a strange woman giving birth where I sleep, but my friend insists I could have come to some sort of arrangement."
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    r/AITAH u/EdisKrad18 • 11h AITA for telling a woman where she can and can't give birth?
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    This is one of the stranger things that's ever happened to me.
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    To set the scene, I, 26, bought the house I'm living in in 2019 from this lovely older couple. I thought, as I'm sure anyone who has been in this situation might think, that the signing was gonna be the last time I ever say them, or had anything to do with their family. I was wrong. Yesterday, I got a knock on my door. I opened it to find a young couple, probably my age, maybe a bit younger. The woman was pregnant, and looked like she was gonna pop any day. I asked who they were, and if I could
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    The woman replied that this home used to belong to her parents, and that she was born in this house. I asked again what it was that they wanted, since that didn't really tell me if they needed anything from me. She told me that her mother had also been born here, in the upstairs bedroom. For context, this is now my bedroom. She then asked if I wouldn't mind letting her bring the stuff that was needed to give birth in the same spot as she and her mother were both born in. I said no, keeping in mi
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    Now, I thought that this was as normal as a response as was possible given the strange question, but when I was telling my friends about this afternoon, one of the girls in the friend group said that it was pretty cruel of me to tell a pregnant woman where she can and can't give birth. I didn't think that what I had said was all that strange, considering I had never met the couple before, and I don't exactly want a strange woman giving birth where I sleep, but my friend insists that I could have
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    Mother Search3350 • 11h Your friend is an idiot. You did not tell her where she can give birth, you told a complete stranger that she can't give birth in your house in your bedroom. NTAH Reply 10 23.2k
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    NTA. blackcrowblue • 9h If something were to go wrong - they could sue you. Even if everything went perfectly what if they don't leave? Then it's AITAH for trying to kick out a couple and their newborn baby. And then they manage to stay long enough to have rights and you have to take it to court to try and get them out.
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    These people have an emotional connection to - that house don't give them permission to stay there! ... 2 5.9k
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    No-To-Newspeak • 8h I came here to say the same thing. Given the litigious society we live in, if something were to happen during the birth - say the heating or air conditioning fails, a water pipe bursts and there is not water when it may needed, someone in the birthing party slips on the stairs, whatever - they could turn around and sue you.
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    Lot's of home births take place every year, but in the home of those giving birth and not a stranger's home. This is too risky from a legal point of view. ... 1 ✩ 3k
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    CB4life • 6h For all we know it was a fake pregnancy and just a way to get into the house and rob it or something. Maybe I am a little suspicious but I would never let random strangers in my house like that. 1k
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    kehlarc • 11h Maybe afterwards she can raise her child in your house like her mother did with her? NTA. Reply 1.4k
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    WVildandWVonderful • 6h The tradition is giving birth in her own home not at this one address where a single child/ generation was born in. She should give birth at a hospital, birthing center, her home, her parents' home, etc. I.e., a place with access to medical care or at least a place where she or her family live. NTA 183
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    EntertainmentDry3790 • 11h I actually can't get over the fact that woman knocked on your door and even asked, what a bizarre thing to do. Obviously NTA, you friend is very silly ← Reply 1.2k
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    Most Frosting6168 • 10h Maybe they were thieves trying to get access to the house? A bedroom is often where we keep our most valuable possessions. 252
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    Lazaross24 .7h The old "pregnant lady that lived here long ago and now wants to give birth at the house" trick. Ain't gonna fall for that one twice ... 235
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    Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq. 7h I've had the "we used to live here and wanted to see what it looks like now" scammers attempt to case my house. No way would I let some random pregnant lady in. 100
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    Lazaross24.7h That's smart though, because most people wouldn't suspect a pregnant woman. Plus, it sounds kinda sweet...the "seeing the place" part. Not the "I want to give birth in your house" part. I can almost see the sentiment but it's still weird to ask ← û 34
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    Zealousideal Till683 • 11h The twist in the tale is that this woman's grandmother also begged a random stranger to let her give birth in the upstairs bedroom of your house. Reply 206
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    SnooTangerines5246 • 11h Watch out for three wise men and some shepherds ← Reply 1 308
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    Ok-Nothing914 • 3h It's your home, and you have every right to say no to a stranger giving birth in your bedroom. Your decision is totally reasonable. Reply 79 ↓
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    Bold-Belle2 • 11h NTA. Who does she think she is to feel entitled to give birth in a strangers house because its where her mother was born. Thats insane. Reply 337
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    Havranicek. 11h The woman should have bought the house from her parents if this is what she wanted. NTA ← Reply 124
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