Daughter Accuses Mother of Favoritism After She Forces Her to Do All Chores Instead of Splitting Them with Her 3 Brothers, Mother Reacts with the Silent Treatment

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jan 1, 2025 5:00 PM EST

While it is pretty sad, it is not actually surprising that some people still treat men and women differently, and act like men are the superior gender. What is surprising, is to learn that those who act like that, are other women, who for some reason accept that their role in the world is supposed to be different than that of the opposite gender.

A few weeks ago I had a conversation with a woman who purposely refuses to teach her son to do any of the house chores, because she thinks it is something only women should do around the house. She is actively educating her son to think that his future girlfriend will be the only one to clean, cook, or do the laundry, while he will sit on the couch and watch her work. I was appalled, to say the least, to learn that there are women who not only accept that fate but actually work towards it.

It seems like the mother in this Reddit story is no different. She is passing house chores only to her daughter, while her three sons do nothing. Thankfully, the daughter knows how to stand her ground.

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    I went off on her and told her I didn't want to be her daughter anymore, I wanted to be her son, she has 3 able bodied men in the house and she obviously doesn't care if they clean so just pretend I am one of them.
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    AITAH for telling my mom I don't want to be her daughter anymore?
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    For reference I(22f) am the only daughter and I have 3 brothers(14m, 19m, and 29m) and my mother is 50. Since I was a child I have always noticed she was harder on me and expected
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    so much more from me than she ever did from them. I was a parentified child because my mom worked in a whole other city and came home on weekends. Our relationship was awful because I had to deal with
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    the stress of getting my brothers to school, cooking dinner, getting them to get ready for bed while also managing schoolwork and clubs. I got into a prestigious school because that was literally my escape and now I've
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    graduated and I'm stuck back at home which is fine except for the fact that the house is utterly DISGUSTING and I mean absolutely insane, dishes piled up dust on every surface grime and nasty.
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    She would lose her mind at me over the smallest piece of lint on the ground and it just irritated me because it's like wow, you actually never gave a sh about the house being clean, it was always about controlling me. But I
    via skoulold
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    cleaned my room kept it tidy and bought a fridge and stay in my room most of the time. A few days ago she barged into my room calling me selfish for getting a fridge and asked me when I was gonna clean the
    via skoulold
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    house? I went off on her and told her I didn't want to be her daughter anymore, I wanted to be her son, she has 3 able bodied men in the house and she obviously doesn't care if they clean so just pretend I am one of
    via skoulold
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    them. She basically went on to say that she is never worried about me, but they need extra help but my thing is you put me into a role before I was ready, expected more of me and coddled them and now you are
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    surprised they can't take care of themselves. I think seeing her treat my youngest brother like an actual child, and refuse to give him the same level of responsibility I had at that age made me even more ped off. I
    via skoulold
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    feel bad for what I said because she was obviously hurt and is giving me the silent treatment but the double standard is too much, I refuse to be a doormat anymore. AITAH?
    via skoulold
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    fly1away •22h ago • Can you leave? Move out as soon as possible. NTA.
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    Chakra Mama318 • 1d ago NTA- can you get a job and move out and let your brothers take care of your youngest brother? Go have a life?
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    skoulold OP • 1d ago • I'm applying but the job market is tough and I live in a rural area so it's even harder to get out
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    The ToadWizard415 • 1d ago • Write her a letter expressing all this. It might make her reevaluate her actions. My mom used to be a pill about my weight until I wrote her a letter on how she made me see myself. Might be worth a try.
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    skoulold OP • 1d ago • Thank you for your reply! I journal but I'm afraid she won't take it well and that would hurt more than saying nothing
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    Ok-Satisfaction3085 . 1d ago • This is so relatable. Thankfully I only have one brother who is incapable of surviving. Double down on that job hunt because trust me she will never treat you the way you want and independence is your key.
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    skoulold OP • 1d ago • Thank you for your reply, yeah all I do is apply it's soooo soul crushing
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    CommunicationGlad299 • 19h ago Question. If you were the only one taking care of them during the week, from the time you were all children, why didn't you teach them to clean, cook, do laundry etc.? It would have been a lot easier on you if they all helped. Mom doesn't like it? Oh well, when I'm in charge and you're gone, I
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    run the house how I want to run it. Get any job you can. Fast food, retail, whatever, while you're applying for a job in your field. Find a room to rent or become a roommate. Do whatever you have to do and get out of the house now.
    via CommunicationGlad299
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    skoulold OP • 19h ago • I tried but she expected me to do mother duties without any authority, whenever she was home she would disrespect me. Like I would tell them to put their dishes away or remind them to brush their teeth and she would
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    tell me not to speak to them that way and encourage them to disrespect me. It was hard because when she was gone they wouldn't listen to anything I said and it made everything 10 times harder like getting them to shower and go to sleep was a
    via skoulold
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    struggle because they just wouldn't listen and it made me resentful because I was put in charge of them but she would get mad at me for acting like a second mom and raising my voice(which I know is wrong but I was a kid and after saying the same thing repeatedly I would get upset)
    via skoulold
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    Critical-Answer-7006 23h ago • Do you have extended family (that isn't caught up with your mum)? Might be a good way out
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    skoulold OP • 19h ago • I've tried to tell some family members but they just tell me to be grateful and say I'll figure it out. Our family always coddles the men and expects so much of the women. My grandma on my mom's side let her sons stay with
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    her until she d d pretty much. My only extended family is on my mom's side because my dad and his parents were only children. and they all d d a long time ago.
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    I_wanna_be_anemone • 1d ago Have you tried saying that to your brothers? Like what kind of job would take someone who can't even operate a washing machine?
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    skoulold OP • 19h ago • They just think that once they do live with a girl they will change all their habits, I mentioned that but since they aren't living with one right now they don't care, and it's not even malicious it's just grime doesn't bother them at all it's
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    mind boggling, I have a separate bathroom that me and mom use(that I do clean) but the ones the boys use is so gross I wouldn't even brush my teeth there.
    via skoulold

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