Woman Forces Father to Sleep on the Floor When He Visits, He Accuses Her of Being a Bad Hostess for Using Her Extra Room as an Office Instead of Guest Room

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Dec 21, 2024 2:00 PM EST

When one finally moves into a house they are ready to call home, there is a series of decisions they have to make to ensure everyone feels truly comfortable in the new space. 

One of the biggest decisions a person has to make is what purpose they will assign to all their new rooms. One room should obviously be the bedroom, but everything else is entirely up to them. If they plan to start a family soon, they might consider making one room a nursery. If they work a lot from home, an office would be beneficial. If they plan to invite many guests over, a guest room would be greatly appreciated.

However, what happens if a person has more needs than rooms? How should they decide what do to with their limited amount of rooms? And how will they ensure their decisions will not cause any problems in the future?

The short answer is, that they can't ensure that, and a problem is bound to occur. The long answer is, basically the story down below, which might be a cautionary tale to us all.

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    The next day, my father texted me. He said it was selfish and inconsiderate of me and my husband to keep an office we "don't actually need" over a room to properly house potential guests. He added that he didn't raise me to be such an awful hostess, and it's insane of me to think people would be okay sleeping on a mattress on the floor.
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    AITA for sacrificing the guest room instead of the office space?
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    My husband and I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. We sleep in the master bedroom, and until earlier this year, the other two were a guest room and an office space we both shared.
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    Our first child was born in October, and we decided to turn the guest room into his nursery. We thought about sacrificing the office instead, but decided we needed it more than the guest room. I work on-site, but I also do
    via GuestRoomDebacle
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    some freelancing from home, and my husband works hybrid. We don't need to do our work from the office, but it's more comfortable and less chaotic, especially now that we have a
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    baby. On the other hand, we rarely have guests over. If we do, the office is big enough to set a mattress on the floor. My father lives in a different country. He's traveling here for
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    Christmas in about a week, and this will be his first time meeting my son in person. Last time he came, I was pregnant and we still had the guest room, so he stayed there during his visit.
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    A couple weeks ago, my father called to ask whether he could stay at my apartment again this year. I said sure, but we don't have the guest room anymore, so he'd have to sleep in the office.
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    He asked what I meant, and I told him we'd turned the guest room into the baby's nursery. He then asked why I hadn't gotten rid of the office instead. I explained my and my husband's
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    reasoning. My father got annoyed and said, "Whatever, I'll get a hotel", before hanging up on me. The next day, my father texted me. He said it was selfish and
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    inconsiderate of me and my husband to keep an office we "don't actually need" over a room to properly house potential guests. He added that he didn't raise me to be such an awful
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    hostess, and it's insane of me to think people would be okay sleeping on a mattress on the floor. My sister is siding with my father, and I'm starting to doubt myself here. AITA?
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    BlindUmpBob • 13h ago • NTA. A guest room is nice to have, but you have reason enough to use that space otherwise. In fact, to not do so could be a waste of space. Surely your dad also taught you not to waste resources.
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    As for sister dear, does she live nearby to you? Maybe she's afraid dad will hit her up. Or, does she live far away, and was figuring on using your guest room for some free lodging of her own?
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    • Guest RoomDeba... OP 13h ago • My sister is younger and still lives with our mother, 15 minutes away. She only stayed in my guest room once before, and has said she's perfectly fine sleeping in the office if she ever has to.
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    FrankieLovie 13h ago • if the office can fit a mattress on the floor, why can't you set up the bed on a bed frame while Dad is in town?
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    Guest RoomDeba... OP 13h ago Fitting a mattress on the floor still requires moving stuff around, which we have to put back in place later. We barely get visitors, so buying a bed frame wouldn't be worth it.
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    -cheeks 12h ago It's never inconsiderate to prioritize your households needs when making choices. Having a guest bedroom only benefits others not your husband your baby or you. NTA obviously.
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    • Frankie Lovie 8h ago i got a $100 bed frame that's just a metal frame that folds up and would take up a small amount of space. if Dad isn't worth that much for coming from another country that's fine but just admit it instead of acting like it's completely out of the realm of reasonable compromise
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    Guest RoomDebacle OP 2h ago If my father were a regular visitor, it would definitely be worth it. He only comes here once a year, which is not frequent enough for that. My apartment is medium-sized at best. We don't get a lot of overnight visitors.
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    meagain20 2h ago • I think a better solution would be to let the nursery be the occasional guest room and move the baby when your father visits. You're NTA but you could have found other options. Is there not even a living room couch to offer?
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    Guest RoomDebacle OP • 2h ago • I can't move my son from his room. He doesn't sleep through the night yet, and the nursing chair and changing table are both in the nursery. We do have a medium-sized couch in my living room, but I don't think it's comfortable enough for someone to sleep in.
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    the-hound-abides • 2h ago Part ipant [2] You don't need a guest room from what you are saying. If you are worried about it, and 100% this is for YOUR comfort- can the office fit a pull out couch/futon/murphy bed? It's slightly better than a floor mattress, but still gets the job
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    done and isn't a nuisance in spaces that can accommodate it. That's what we did when we didn't have enough space for a dedicated guest room. Again, no pressure and you aren't obligated to house anyone for any reason. It just made us feel better.
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    Guest RoomDebacle OP • 2h ago We can't budget for a murphy bed right now, nor would we have space for a pull-out couch. A futon might work, but probably not a large one. I'll do some research on it later. Either way, I don't think we need a guest room. When we had one, was used at most 4-5 times a year.
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    OblongGoblong • 13h ago Could be eyeing up living with you guys come retirement or some sh..
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    Guest RoomDebacle OP 1h ago He has never expressed any interest in moving back to my country.
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    effervescentmanatee • 9h ago • Offering an older adult a mattress on the floor is physically absurd. Would you have been willing to sleep like you're in a crack house when you were pregnant?
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    • Guest RoomDebacle OP 1h ago • If he wants to stay at my place, that's all I can offer. Again, I'm well aware that's not ideal. That's why I didn't offer it until he asked whether he could stay at my place.
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