Mom sells her house and gives adult son a portion of the profit, only for him to immediately cut off contact with her, leaving her heartbroken: 'He said I sold the house out from under him'

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    "He has gone no contact and broken my heart"
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    AITAH for selling my house out from under my son and his girlfriend?
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    I (60F) have rented my second home to my son "Joe" (34M) for the last 7 years. Initially he shared the home with friends at a below market rent. Leases included agreements for periodic, reasonable increases.
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    Most of my retirement nest egg was in that home and I was clear that if there was ever any risk to the investment, I would have to sell immediately.
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    Once I lost the homeowners insurance as they were not properly maintaining the house. We made corrections and got in reinstated. Twice I lost my job and struggled to pay the
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    mortgage on that house and my primary residence, but was able to quickly find another job and cover expenses. Each of these instances prompted a conversation that they should
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    prepare for the house to be sold if I could not resolve the problem. I planted the seed with my son that he should be saving money in case he wanted to buy the
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    house someday, and this is where I might be the AH. He initially said he was not interested, but 2 years ago his girlfriend (32F) moved in and he showed more interest. I was very happy for them, and I
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    thought we had a good relationship. They told their housemates they wanted to live together as a couple and asked them to move out. She coordinated an effort to clean
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    up the house and maintain it better, which made me very happy. Then our neighborhood started changing. Investors were buying up properties at hugely inflated
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    prices and mostly renting them out. Some homes are vacant for a long time before being rented. There was a shooting a block away. It was time to get out of that neighborhood and take advantage of the higher market prices.
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    I spoke to Joe and his girlfriend in the fall of 2023 and explained why they should start making plans to be out by the fall of 2024. We briefly discussed their financial situation. They were not able to buy the house, and
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    possibly never could at the going rate. The value of homes had more than doubled in a year and that market was not going to sustain itself much longer.
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    Everything instantly changed. She was openly r de to my face and via text. When they moved out, "they" left some petty, vindictive "messages" around the house. They refused to give anyone in the family their new
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    address. In 2017 I had promised Joe a portion of the profit when I sell. The day after I wrote him the check he changed his phone number. He has gone no contact and broken my heart.
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    His father (71M), my ex, told me that Joe eventually called him, but still won't give his address. He told my ex if I ever got his number then he would just change it again and never trust
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    him. He said they are cutting me out of their life because I "sold the house out from under them". AITAH here?
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    GenxBaby2 15h ago Colo-recta... Top 5% Comme... NTA They sound very ungrateful. You subsidized your son for years with below market value rent. Sounds like he and his girlfriend were hoping that would go on indefinitely. Maybe get the word to him that he should be concerned about your will.
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    BitofDark 15h ago • ΝΤΑ You gave your son notice all along that this was not a long- term solution. You talked with Son and his girlfriend, and they could not afford to buy the house. You kept your word all
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    throughout this. Including writing that check to him. Which my petty behind would have not done. OP, I am sorry you are hurting over the loss of your son and how he has and is treating you. Sadly,
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    your son was looking for you to continue how things went, even when it got so hard for you. Son forgets that you could have sold the house when you lost your job earlier. What would he
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    have done then? Probably treated you the same way. It sadly sounds like you will always be in your son & his gf, the villain, in their story. I am so sorry you are going through this.
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    womanandthesea • 15h ago You can't beat yourself up for this. They knew the deal. NTA. Can't believe he took your money and then did this. Your son and his gf are entitled.
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    18k gold 14h ago • Part ipant [1] Sounds like you need to cut him out of your inheritance except leaving him $10.
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    The_Naxian • 14h ago • NTA And you should have never given them a portion of the profit. You could have included your son in your will and that would have made him treat you differently so as to stay there! They are both ungrateful!
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    VehicleIndependent72 12h ago • I don't think there are any real AHs here. You had a house that you considered an investment and your son - once the girlfriend entered the picture and things got serious was finally in a position to save and buy the
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    house from you. Then the market exploded and you sold for inflated profits, rather than if there were problems like originally agreed upon and understood. So I think while you were in your rights to do that, your son feels
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    betrayed - that the original agreement was thrown out for $$ - and that's why he's no contact now. It would have been the final straw because that's a drastic step to take. I don't think it's about entitlement on the son's part. I think there's probably a lot of hurt feelings and resentment.

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