Pregnant woman pressured to film her birth for her father’s boyfriend, she refuses, creating hostility between the family: ‘This is just creepy and invasive’

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jan 4, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen. A woman being pregnant for the first time is a big deal. Her body is going through a myriad of changes, her mood(s) are in full swing, and she's building the foundation for the rest of her life. It's a vulnerable time, and she typically needs the help and support of family members to get her through this celebratory, yet intense time. 

The narrator of this story is a first time pregnant woman. She and her husband are extremely happy to be together during this time, and it's her first Christmas being pregnant. She's received gifts according to her baby, but she got something strange from her father's girlfriend. They've never been friends, and don't see eye to eye on many things. This woman is obsessed with influencer culture, and the narrator doesn't appreciate that kind of mentality at all. Push comes to shove, and the narrator is given a number for a videographer for her birth.

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    Both she and my father got offended, and we ended up having an argument. At one point, Lena started crying and said she couldn't understand why I'd pass up on the opportunity of creating such a "beautiful memento" of my child's birth. I replied that I found the idea of having someone film me during such a vulnerable
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    r/AITAH 2 days ago Birth VidThrow AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive?
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    Hmmm what could it be…

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    I'm expecting my first child, due in February. This is the first grandchild on both sides, so everyone is very excited about it.
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    My father's girlfriend "Lena" (fake name) and I have an okay relationship, but we're very different people. I don't like most of the things she likes and vice versa. There's no bad bl d between us, but she can be a bit pushy sometimes, so we're not exactly close.
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    One of the biggest differences between me and Lena is our stance on influencer culture: she loves it, I don't. Since I got pregnant, she's been sending me posts on Instagram of random influencers talking about their experiences with childbirth, motherhood, etc.
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    I can really understand the narrator's perspective. I don't even have social media, and I find the influencer culture is mostly fake, insincere, and doesn't contribute to anything I enjoy learning or consuming. Sure, once in a while I will watch something. But take everything with a grain of salt. This person's job is to make you envious of their life, plus I would rather put my trust and opinions in those who I know already. 

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    A few months ago, one of her favorite influencers gave birth and filmed the whole thing. She posted a cutesy, poorly edited video of the baby being born and her entire family watching from outside the delivery room, with country music playing in the background. Lena sent me that
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    video, and I remember telling her I'd never do something like that.
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    My husband and I celebrated Christmas at my cousin's place with the rest of my family. When it was time for us to exchange and open our gifts, Lena gave me an envelope.
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    Inside was a videographer's business card. She told me she was hiring him to film my birth.
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    Literally the weirdest, most invasive gift…

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    I seriously cannot imagine being filmed while going through a medical procedure, and I don't want anyone besides my husband at the hospital with me. I've been clear about that since I announced my pregnancy.
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    I didn't want to embarrass Lena, so I thanked her when she gave me the card. Yesterday, my husband and I had lunch with her and my father, and I told her that while I appreciated the gesture, I didn't feel comfortable with a videographer. I said she didn't have to get me anything else for
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    Christmas, but I'd appreciate it if she didn't hire him.
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    Both she and my father got offended, and we ended up having an argument. At one point, Lena started crying and said she couldn't understand why I'd pass up on the opportunity of creating such a "beautiful memento" of my child's birth. I replied that I found the idea of having someone film me during such a vulnerable
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    moment to be creepy and invasive, and that this wasn't the first time I expressed I was uncomfortable with it.
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    My father said that it was r de of me to say that and refuse the gift, and he's "very disappointed" in me. My husband agrees with me, as does pretty much my whole family. I don't really think I did anything wrong, but my father's reaction is freaking me out. AITA?
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    peachpetalprincess • 2d ago • NTA. Birth is a deeply personal experience, and you've been clear about your boundaries. Lena's gift ignored that and it's not ride to say no to something invasive. Your comfort and privacy come first, not her feelings.
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    uhuhsuuuure • 2d ago • NTA DO NOT tell them when you are in labor and tell the hospital that both of then. aren't allowed in the delivery room. I can see Lena whipping out her phone and if your dad don't got your back during a moment that is
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    purely YOURS and your husband's, then he can wait outside too!
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    Sufficient-Tomat... • 2d ago • NTA. Lena overstepped a huge boundary. Filming such a private medical event without your explicit consent is invasive and frankly bizarre. You were well within your rights to decline the "gift," and it's your father
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    who is being unreasonable by not respecting your wishes and boundaries.
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    VegetableBusine... • 2d ago • Top 1% Commenter Tell Lena to hire him to film her next pap smear as a 'beautiful momento' of her reproductive health and post that on her socials... Im getting much younger second wife vibes here....
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    [deleted] 2d ago • Top 1% Commenter NTA, giving birth is very private and her opinion doesn't matter at all.
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    It is also very creepy. Like would she and your father want to see the video? Just go LC with them for a while. And be careful, she might post pictures and videos of your child to social media without your consent.
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    OkRuin5012 1d ago You're totally right to set boundaries, especially with something as personal as childbirth. It's YOUR body, YOUR experience, and YOUR choice. Honestly, if they don't respect that, it's on them. It's. so important to stand your
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    ground and protect your space. You don't owe anyone a "beautiful memento" if it makes you uncomfortable. Plus, you're doing the right thing by communicating openly. Boundaries are healthy and necessary!
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